At a crossroads.

Fore warning this is sort of a sad story so if you don't want to deal with some negativity for now just hit the back button thank you .


I'm at a crossroads. I'm 19 and I have my whole life ahead of me. I'm good looking, smart and just as of recently have been making enough money to support myself.



I'm currently living with my mom. To say the least she problems. She is an alcoholic, and also probably a schizophrenic. I don't know if all the drug use has driven her brain to a point of damage, however I do know she is barely functioning anymore. She is in her late 40's too.



I just don't fucking know whether I should try and help her or just up and leave to a cheap hotel room until I can afford to apply for schooling and rent my own place.



Dealing with her negativity really brings me down you know. She always has drama and problems and I am always the kind hearted kid who sits and tries to help her.



I feel like if I just up and leave then things will turn even more downhill for her. She won't go to rehab and I can't stand her anymore.


Should I leave or stay and help?

are you already making money online to move out?

She's your mom... But if she's holding you back due to negativity, then you should talk to her about it and tell her pretty much what you just told all of us. Tell her things need to change NOW or else you are in fact leaving.

Nothing is more contagious than negativity.

BuildMoreLinks said:

are you already making money online to move out?

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Yeah I'm making a little bit nothing major but I have been studying hard and good, I have a nice plan on how I'm going to earn more.

Stop being selfish man. She's your mother, with warts and all. Period!

Make it work somehow, take her into rehab. Grind her gears about it until she does go. Take her to see a psychiatrist too.

It's not selfish to look after yourself first, and your family second. A freaking close second maybe but still second. Don't have any advice other than help her if you can, but don't be afraid to step away and take care of yourself. Parents have their own stuff to deal with and they're only human, so maybe you can help her. Doesn't mean you have to be at home to do it though.

janecook said:

It's not selfish to look after yourself first, and your family second. A freaking close second maybe but still second. Don't have any advice other than help her if you can, but don't be afraid to step away and take care of yourself. Parents have their own stuff to deal with and they're only human, so maybe you can help her. Doesn't mean you have to be at home to do it though.

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We have different opinions on what "family" means. In my book, family doesn't come second, it comes first, I would gladly make lots of sacrifices and get out of my comfortable way to make sure my family is safe and happy. Without family you're nothing, I owe everything I am today to my family.

Anyway, I'm well aware that family for some people means jack shit and I accept that, but I don't have to comply to that way of thinking.

I know this is a very hard situation and the choice you have to make is hard too.
If I were you, i dont think i would just leave her, in this condiotion.
One option I can think at the moment is to , take her to a psychiatrist and see if theres any medicine they can change or something to make her condition better.
You can give it a try , and i think its worth giving a try.

Difficult situation. Unfortunately the only thing you can find here is to be heard. Decision is totally yours. Good luck!