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Advice on IRL problems?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Kori93, Feb 1, 2013.

  1. Kori93

    Kori93 Newbie

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    So, here is the story

    My fiance and I have been together for 2 years now. I left my home, left my job, left my friends, basically left everything to be with her. She has done a lot of things that I should have broken up with her for, but I loved her so I stayed. As time went on she did less and less things of that nature and eventually stopped (or got really really good at hiding it).
    Now, her life is fairly well together, she has a job and is progressing in it fairly quickly. We still live with her father though. Over the last 4-5 months I have been struggling to find a job but could not find anything because where we live is highly seasonal for jobs. So now, I am struggling to find a job while she is succeeding and basically supporting me. During this time I have tried anything I could do to earn something to help support us, but have yet to find anything truly successful. Most of anything I have done on here has not amounted to much if anything no matter the amount of time I put in. When I put more time into working on IM, the more frustrated my fiance and her father get with me.

    Now, it has gotten to the point where I am about 2 days (maybe less maybe more, who knows with them) from being broken up with and being kicked out of house and home due to my lack of income. My fiances father, mother, and step-father have decided that they want to talk bad about me because I make no money, which only furthers our relationship issues. I'm afraid that very soon I will have literally nothing left. I am too far away to go back to my family, and even if I had the opportunity going back would be worse for them because they are in a financial hole as well and can barely feed themselves let alone the expenses of myself living with them...

    Any advice would really be appreciated, I really have no where else to turn
     
  2. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    From what you 're saying, getting thrown out is the best thing that 's happened to you in this relationship.

    Dude, if she 's throwing out for being non-productive for 6 months, imagine what would happen to you down the road if you got into real trouble!

    Get the fuck out of there and thank God you don't have a kid with her.
     
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  3. Amsterdammer

    Amsterdammer Power Member

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    This doesn't make sense.
    Before you were boasting about the only method that ever made you money.
    Your method is flawed but can be easily fixed. You have to twist every method found.

    About your personal life:
    Love and money are two different things. One does not require the other.
    Don't go where you are not wanted.
    Treat others how you like to be treated and stand up for yourself if they don't.
    Help those around you but expect nothing in return.
    Don't loan or give anything you are not prepared to part with.
    If people don't like you, or you don't like them: The world is big enough so you don't have to bother each other. Billions of people can't all be friends.

    Ow and don't pity yourself so much, my next violinist won't be as nice. :p

     
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  4. Kori93

    Kori93 Newbie

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    The method I was talking about did work for me, and I did not intend to boast about it. It just doesn't produce enough for me at this point in time for anyone to be pleased by it... I understand where they are coming from, I haven't been able to provide them anything but foodstamps and that is not something I am proud of.
    I also don't mean to pity myself so much, just a lot in my life could be changing and I'm not going to lie it scares me. I liked the way my life was, minus the lack of income. All of this started so suddenly I didn't really have a chance to grasp it and became frantic.

    Thanks for the advice you two, and I really didn't mean to make a pity-me thread lol.
     
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  5. redrubies

    redrubies Supreme Member

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    I agree with jazzc. Leave now. This is not someone you should be spending your life with.
     
  6. Amsterdammer

    Amsterdammer Power Member

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    Life gives you what you need, not what you want. Most people fear the unknown.

    Also, your approach is flawed, your twist so to say. That is why it isn't working properly.
    Put up some ads, have a nice logo, then do your trick. I put that link in there for a reason. :p

    If you have foodstamps you contribute foodstamps. In addition you could do some work around the house if you have time.
    Having no money should not equal a kick to the street by those that "love you". You are not in the sex industry.

    And yes it was a pity thread. lol But, all you see wrong is the lack of income and that should be fixed now. :)

    I hope you get this sorted soon, no doubt in my mind you can.
    Cheers. :)