Meeting up with my ex-gf tomorrow, advice?

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On a more serious note, if you still have feelings or any sort of emotions for her, DO NOT SEE HER. It will only make things worse for you. I don't think you mentioned how long you both were together for, so that can play a role.

Take me for example, I was in a 10 year relationship, things ended mostly because of her. I did not resent her or hate her for anything. I would have much rather this happened now then if we got married and had children. I didn't talk to her for a year and I was able to move on from the relationship. I do still love and care for her though.

She wanted to meet up and I disagreed, after a few weeks have passed and I was able to think about it, I decided I'd meet up more so to see if I still had feelings for her, as I just felt so indifferent to the entire situation.

We see each other like once a week, everytime I see her, she cries. She is also with another guy. Sometimes she tells me shes so happy, then the next time she will say "I don't know what I am doing, one day I'm fine, the next I just want to end everything"

Like I said, I love the girl as a human, but very indifferent to the entire relationship. At this point in my life, I am glad I am not dealing with her problems.


tl;dr - I am perfectly fine after seeing my ex of 10 years a year later after we broke up. If you truly love and care for someone, you guys can make it work out.


Side note: It's always a good thing depending on the situation to be friendly with an ex, you never know what may spark up later down the road.

Good luck!
 
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Elin Dotsya said:
Tien Shinhan, is that you?

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I don't like to talk about it :( because I don't like scaring people
 
tripphxc said:
On a more serious note, if you still have feelings or any sort of emotions for her, DO NOT SEE HER. It will only make things worse for you. I don't think you mentioned how long you both were together for, so that can play a role.

Take me for example, I was in a 10 year relationship, things ended mostly because of her. I did not resent her or hate her for anything. I would have much rather this happened now then if we got married and had children. I didn't talk to her for a year and I was able to move on from the relationship. I do still love and care for her though.

She wanted to meet up and I disagreed, after a few weeks have passed and I was able to think about it, I decided I'd meet up more so to see if I still had feelings for her, as I just felt so indifferent to the entire situation.

We see each other like once a week, everytime I see her, she cries. She is also with another guy. Sometimes she tells me shes so happy, then the next time she will say "I don't know what I am doing, one day I'm fine, the next I just want to end everything"

Like I said, I love the girl as a human, but very indifferent to the entire relationship. At this point in my life, I am glad I am not dealing with her problems.


tl;dr - I am perfectly fine after seeing my ex of 10 years a year later after we broke up. If you truly love and care for someone, you guys can make it work out.


Side note: It's always a good thing depending on the situation to be friendly with an ex, you never know what may spark up later down the road.

Good luck!
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Okay, this is crazy dude:

She has feelings for you and you still meet once a week?!

Why the torture?

Bro I completely hear you because I'd never ever meet up with her if I actually felt like I'd be emotionally vulnerable. I'd be happy if we were on good terms though (a friend...maybe...) because she's generally a nice person. We were together for 2 years. I really don't want to/can't start a relationship again with her because of how ugly it could be. Really just wanted to say wassup and that's about it.
 
pewep said:
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I don't like to talk about it :( because I don't like scaring people
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It's ok. Your power level is high enough to take anyone on, especially if you use one of your Tri-Beam attacks.

P.S how do we know this is a real story if we don't see any pics?
 
Your ex-girl friend thought, meeting her private, which is completely secret plan, that no one knows she think.

but you peweb, opens the secret plan to forum / public, that everyone knows :)

ALERT : Maybe her husband who might have account in BHW knows your plan of meeting her wife :) Subscribed now to hear HOT updates.
 
Not sure if trolling.. This is so bad on so many levels. First of all, you should value yourself more. Dont you think you deserve more than this? Why would you want to share a woman with some other man she has children with? Why would you want to hang out with people who dont seem to hesitate to betray their loved ones?
You wanna know what she is doing? She is testing you. She is testing whether you are still a beta male that got dumped before. She wants to know if you do whatever she wants you to do. She wants to know if you are her little bitch that will hapilly take the little pieces she offers. A strong independent man would never agree to this. Not to mention she would lose interest if you agreed to it. Women aint attracted to weak beta males. You have to tell her that she can keep messing up her life all she wants, but she aint gonna mess up yours.
 
maybesomeday said:
Not sure if trolling.. This is so bad on so many levels. First of all, you should value yourself more. Dont you think you deserve more than this? Why would you want to share a woman with some other man she has children with? Why would you want to hang out with people who dont seem to hesitate to betray their loved ones?
You wanna know what she is doing? She is testing you. She is testing whether you are still a beta male that got dumped before. She wants to know if you do whatever she wants you to do. She wants to know if you are her little bitch that will hapilly take the little pieces she offers. A strong independent man would never agree to this. Not to mention she would lose interest if you agreed to it. Women aint attracted to weak beta males. You have to tell her that she can keep messing up her life all she wants, but she aint gonna mess up yours.
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Man, I'm not gonna do shit, trust me. I'm not that kind of guy at all, I actually have morals. I've never cheated or facilitated it by being the other man in my life even though I've had multiple opportunities to do that. I just don't. Period.
 
pewep said:
Man, I'm not gonna do shit, trust me. I'm not that kind of guy at all, I actually have morals. I've never cheated or facilitated it by being the other man in my life even though I've had multiple opportunities to do that. I just don't. Period.
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Why are you considering to see her in private? What makes you think this is a good idea?
 
maybesomeday said:
Why are you considering to see her in private? What makes you think this is a good idea?
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I'm just basically saying hi, how are you, etc... I haven't seen her in a while, that's basically it. Yes, that really is it no bullshit.

Just polite social crap. You never know when you'll need a friend.
 
pewep said:
I'm just basically saying hi, how are you, etc... I haven't seen her in a while, that's basically it. Yes, that really is it no bullshit.

Just polite social crap. You never know when you'll need a friend.
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"Oh, I haven't been on facebook for a while, let's see what my friends are doing...I won't stay long... just a couple minutes... Oh man, look at that beauty...who is she?...does she has a boyfriend?... (3 hours later ).... "

Basically me.
 
Friends belong under the SUV's Tires. At least I drive an SUV, dunno bout you.
 
Does she live in Nellyville, because your situation sounds just like the story in "Dilemma", give or take some details.
[Kelly Rowland]
I.. love you, and I.. need you
Nelly I.. love you, I do.. neeeeed you - but

[Chorus: Kelly Rowland]
No matter what I do, all I think about is you
Even when I'm with my boo, boy you know I'm crazy over you
No matter what I do, all I think about is you
Even when I'm with my boo, boy you know I'm crazy over you

[Nelly]
Check it, check it, check it, uhh
I met this chick and she just moved right up the block from me
And uhh, she got the hots for me the finest thing my hood did see
But oh no, oh no, she gotta a man
and a son, doh'ohhh, but that's okay
Cause I, wait for my cue and just listen, play my position
Like a shortstop, pick up e'rything mami hittin
And in no time.. (no time) I..
I plan to make this wah-one mi-i-ne.. and that's for sure
Cause I, I never been the type to, break up a happy home
But uh, there's somethin bout baby girl I just can't leave alone
So tell me ma what's it gonna be? She said
(You don't know what you mean to me)

[Chorus]

[Nelly]
Check it, check it, check it, uhh
I see a lot and you look and I never say a word
I know how niggaz start actin trippin out here about they girls
And there's no way-ayy-hey, Nelly gon' fight over
no day-hey-ame.. as you can see
But I, I like your steez, your style, your whole demeanor
The way you come through and holla and swoop me in his 2-seater
Now that's gangstah-ah-ahhh..
And I got special ways to thank yah-ah-ahhh.. don't you forget it
But uh, it ain't that easy for you to pack and leave him
But uh, you and dirty got ties for different reasons
I respect that and right before I turn to leave, she said

[Chorus]

[Nelly] Sing it for me K

[Kelly Rowland]
I.. love you, and I.. need you
Nelly I.. love you, I do.. (c'mon girl)
And it's more than you'll.. ever know
But.. it's fo'sho
You can always count on my love
Foreveeeeer more, yeahh-yeahh..

[Nelly]
East coast, I know you shakin right
Down South, I know you bouncin right
West coast, I know you walkin right, cause
Midwest, I see you swingin right
(You don't know what you mean to me)

[Chorus]

[Nelly]
East coast, I know you shakin right
Down South, I know you bouncin right
West coast, I know you walkin right, cause
Midwest, I see you swing it right
(You don't know what you mean to me)
East coast, you still shakin right
Down South, I see you bouncin right
West coast, I know you walkin right, cause
Midwest, I see you swingin right
(You don't know what you mean to me)

[Chorus]

[Nelly]
East coast, I know you shakin right
Down South, I know you bouncin right
West coast, I know you walkin right
Midwest, I see you swing it right
(You don't know what you mean to me)
East coast, you still shakin right
Down South, I see you bouncin right
West coast, I know you walkin right, cause
Midwest, I see you swingin right
(You don't know what you mean to me)
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pewep said:
I'm just basically saying hi, how are you, etc... I haven't seen her in a while, that's basically it. Yes, that really is it no bullshit.

Just polite social crap. You never know when you'll need a friend.
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You aint obligated to meet people from your past just for the sake of meeting them. You don't owe her anything and she doesn't owe you anything. She wasn't there for you and you wasn't there for her. It's that simple. And while you maybe believe in this "it's polite" bullshit, she has own her motives. Things don't just happen, things happen for a reason. She doesn't wanna meet you in private just because it's a polite thing to do, she has her own reasons for this! And what you do? You gonna say Hi, because its a polite thing to do? You are looking for excuses to justify a bad decision.
The truth is that you was never over with her. You was emotionally attached to her and she probably ended it. But now she has returned and you started to feel 'something' again. It is so strong that you are even willing to ignore she has a family. There was just one problem you had to solve first. You seek reassurance. You dont wanna regret it. So you went here and made a thread about it. You played a tough guy saying: "No neutral feelings towards her, we are good. its nothing. I am just being polite, lets socialize, talk about family, politcs..". You wanted people to support you and tell you: " Why not, go..".
Would you really make a thread about someone who doesn't mean much to you?
 
maybesomeday said:
You aint obligated to meet people from your past just for the sake of meeting them. You don't owe her anything and she doesn't owe you anything. She wasn't there for you and you wasn't there for her. It's that simple. And while you maybe believe in this "it's polite" bullshit, she has own her motives. Things don't just happen, things happen for a reason. She doesn't wanna meet you in private just because it's a polite thing to do, she has her own reasons for this! And what you do? You gonna say Hi, because its a polite thing to do? You are looking for excuses to justify a bad decision.
The truth is that you was never over with her. You was emotionally attached to her and she probably ended it. But now she has returned and you started to feel 'something' again. It is so strong that you are even willing to ignore she has a family. There was just one problem you had to solve first. You seek reassurance. You dont wanna regret it. So you went here and made a thread about it. You played a tough guy saying: "No neutral feelings towards her, we are good. its nothing. I am just being polite, lets socialize, talk about family, politcs..". You wanted people to support you and tell you: " Why not, go..".
Would you really make a thread about someone who doesn't mean much to you?
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Take notes pewep...
 
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