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Meeting up with my ex-gf tomorrow, advice?

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  1. pewep

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    Hey lads and lasses, so I'm in Kenya right now just chilling with my parents :), meditating, etc... It's changed a lot, you guys should visit sometime.

    Anyway, I got in touch with my ex-gf. I don't have any negative feelings towards her at all, in fact we really only broke up because long distance relationships are hard. It was a long time ago. Now, I know she has a kid and a man so I'm almost certain this is a terrible idea but she really wanted to see me so we set up a time to meet tomorrow in private.

    What do you guys think? To be honest it kinda stings a bit because I feel like I'm lagging behind everyone else developmentally while training. I think in the long run I'll be fine but yeah, sometimes I wonder if this is worth it.

    By the way, she doesn't know about my..err.."stuff" because we broke up years before my third eye erupted so I'm keeping my mouth shut about that haha.
     
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    tl;dr meeting up with ex-gf and letting third eye erupt on her face
     
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    I feel kind of bad for laughing at this, but I couldn't help myself.

    @pewep I don't meet up with exes. I leave them in the past where they belong. You should probably do the same.
     
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    It depends on how strong you are mentally. Personally I am not that strong. Meeting with exes who have kids and another guy would probably throw me off completely. So I would advise against it.
     
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  6. pewep

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    Neither do we lol.
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    Haha but I can't do that, I don't believe in cheating.
     
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  7. pewep

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    When are you coming to visit me?

    Yeah it seems like a dumb idea tbh.
     
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    Dude hahahaha I will meet my ex exactly after 2 hours, hope she doesn't want to switch seats with the guy next to me on the airplane :s I'm really scared.
     
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    Meeting tomorrow in private? hmmmm....i smell something...:)
     
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    Shiiiiiiieeeet if Neon's doing it so am I.
     
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    dont do it boyz its a trap
     
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    i almost invited an ex to come chill with me in vegas for ungagged....
    then i had a wank and came back to my senses
     
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    I dont have any ex :(
     
  14. JohnLuther

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    I like this. Simply because this guy has a strong mindset. Leaving things, especially warm cavities (I've no idea how much profanity is tolerated here, so) behind is not easy to do. If an ex wants to hook up with me, I will contemplate the possibility of getting on top or being down. Or soiling the car seats. Yes, I am an asshole. But my mindset ensures I can forget and move on.

    This is very honest. Kids and family to equation is too much shit to deal with. But the other side is; a) She is going to do it with someone else if not you and b) how remorseful you are. If you are the Ted Bunty type, this is just a way of life, that's all.

    It's easy to say. I know very little about you to say that you are wrong either. But memories, especially the ones associated with rolling on beds are quite strong. It's sometimes a 10 minute thing inside a car. Losing your self control for 10 minutes is all you need to be on the asshole side.
     
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    good one
     
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  16. pewep

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    I hear you man, you actually never really know for sure unless you're in that position but as you said, the whole family thing is TOO, TOO much shit to deal with, especially for my conscience. I'd have to be a total scumbag, but honestly I'm a bit of a jackass going to meet her alone anyway lol.
     
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    First, I'm female.

    Second, referring to a vag as a warm cavity is priceless. I'm totally using that the next time I write porn. "He thrusted his thick, firm sausage into her warm cavity." Yeah, that's awesome right there.

    Third, I learned a while ago that mistakes should be learned from, not repeated. No matter the reason you broke up with someone, you need to stay in the present and keep them out of your future. People rarely ever change, and the whole "Let's just be friends even though we've slept together" thing is just asking for it.

    Of course someone is going to go "omg but im totes friends wit all mah exes!" Good for you. No one cares. Piss off.
     
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    I sincerely apologize for my mistake. I will admit it was a bit chauvinistic of me to jump to conclusions :( I am glad that I was helpful in some way.
    I am a forget and move on kind of a person so for me, a broken relationship can't be fixed. But sex is just an experience and it can be repeated. The possibility of OP rekindling his/her love didn't run through my mind even once. I as a person can repeat the sex part and move on (just like a good dinner) but broken relationships are something that I never give a second chance.
     
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    :D I am happy that we are on the same page with this. Since you have a solid understanding on the situation, you'll man up and fight the outcome. But should you do it or not, is it worth your time, etc are your choices.
     
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  20. pewep

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    I mean..sex without feelings is basically like jacking off. What's the point?