zebrahat
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I once had an exchange about this with a network marketer who put out the old warm bucket line of "if you knew there was a pot of gold buried in your family's back yard, would you put a stranger to work to help dig it up, or would you give your relative the opportunity to get rich with you?"
My reply was (and is), well, it does make sense to put it that way, IF the treasure is just 2 or 3 feet down. But what if it's really there, but it's 20-30 feet down? What if it's 200 feet down? Uncle Joey may 'go along with the gag' and give you a hand the first or second 10 feet, but will he stick around when things get really deep and dirty?
Blood may be thicker than water, but vision is thicker than blood. You ultimately need somebody with both the skill and the same tenacity as you to dig the 200 feet---and most friends or family have neither. So it's better overall to get an arms length relationship going with somebody disconnected from you, who can therefore be counted on to focus on the job until completion. The roles are clearer and cleaner that way, and less likely to end with you coming up empty.
My reply was (and is), well, it does make sense to put it that way, IF the treasure is just 2 or 3 feet down. But what if it's really there, but it's 20-30 feet down? What if it's 200 feet down? Uncle Joey may 'go along with the gag' and give you a hand the first or second 10 feet, but will he stick around when things get really deep and dirty?
Blood may be thicker than water, but vision is thicker than blood. You ultimately need somebody with both the skill and the same tenacity as you to dig the 200 feet---and most friends or family have neither. So it's better overall to get an arms length relationship going with somebody disconnected from you, who can therefore be counted on to focus on the job until completion. The roles are clearer and cleaner that way, and less likely to end with you coming up empty.