- Mar 23, 2026
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When my wife and I had our first daughter, she was 1 month old when I made a post on the BHW forum. I was lucky enough to receive so many congratulations, as well as valuable advice and experiences from the admins and wonderful members here.
I tried applying some of the methods people recommended, and honestly, things became much easier for us.
My daughter is now 2 months and 5 days old, and we have started our journey of teaching her to sleep independently — without using a pacifier and without holding or rocking her to sleep.
Of course, whenever she cries, I will pick her up and comfort her, but I don't let her cry for too long. Otherwise, I try to let her lie on the bed or in her stroller and avoid holding her too much.
Instead, I talk to her a lot.
Except when she's sleeping, I talk to and interact with her almost all the time. During the day, I always keep the lights on, and when she sleeps, I still let normal household noises continue around her so she can gradually learn to tell the difference between day and night.
The first few days of this journey were honestly quite difficult.
She cried quite a lot because every time I put her down on the bed, she would start crying. I'd pick her up again, wait until she calmed down, and put her back down. Then she'd cry again, and I'd pick her up again... over and over.
There were times when I really wanted to give up because seeing my daughter cry for so long made me feel terrible.
By around the 7th day, I thought I probably couldn't do it anymore.
But surprisingly, on day 8, after she had a full feed, I put her down on the bed and she... just fell asleep.
That night, she only woke up once at 3 AM to feed and have her diaper changed, and then she went right back to sleep until morning.
Of course, not every day is perfect. Sometimes she still needs a little help from me, like some gentle patting to help her fall asleep. But the need to hold and rock her to sleep has decreased significantly.
What makes me happiest is that she still smiles a lot and "talks" all the time.
Even though I have absolutely no idea what she's saying. Haha!
This journey has been quite challenging, but at the same time, it's been really interesting. Every day, seeing my daughter change and develop even a little bit makes me feel that all the effort is worth it.
I hope this little story can bring some positive energy to those who are preparing to become parents or are currently taking care of a baby during those first few months.
And of course, I'd still love to hear any advice and experiences from those of you who already have experience as parents.
Thank you all so much!
I tried applying some of the methods people recommended, and honestly, things became much easier for us.
My daughter is now 2 months and 5 days old, and we have started our journey of teaching her to sleep independently — without using a pacifier and without holding or rocking her to sleep.
Of course, whenever she cries, I will pick her up and comfort her, but I don't let her cry for too long. Otherwise, I try to let her lie on the bed or in her stroller and avoid holding her too much.
Instead, I talk to her a lot.
Except when she's sleeping, I talk to and interact with her almost all the time. During the day, I always keep the lights on, and when she sleeps, I still let normal household noises continue around her so she can gradually learn to tell the difference between day and night.
The first few days of this journey were honestly quite difficult.
She cried quite a lot because every time I put her down on the bed, she would start crying. I'd pick her up again, wait until she calmed down, and put her back down. Then she'd cry again, and I'd pick her up again... over and over.
There were times when I really wanted to give up because seeing my daughter cry for so long made me feel terrible.
By around the 7th day, I thought I probably couldn't do it anymore.
But surprisingly, on day 8, after she had a full feed, I put her down on the bed and she... just fell asleep.
That night, she only woke up once at 3 AM to feed and have her diaper changed, and then she went right back to sleep until morning.
Of course, not every day is perfect. Sometimes she still needs a little help from me, like some gentle patting to help her fall asleep. But the need to hold and rock her to sleep has decreased significantly.
What makes me happiest is that she still smiles a lot and "talks" all the time.
Even though I have absolutely no idea what she's saying. Haha!
This journey has been quite challenging, but at the same time, it's been really interesting. Every day, seeing my daughter change and develop even a little bit makes me feel that all the effort is worth it.
I hope this little story can bring some positive energy to those who are preparing to become parents or are currently taking care of a baby during those first few months.
And of course, I'd still love to hear any advice and experiences from those of you who already have experience as parents.
Thank you all so much!
