How do you start a conversation on Tinder?
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Vynith
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As a virgin, I am qualified for this exact topic.
So basically you hit them with a straight up " don't read this message"
Reverse psychology gets to them and then BAM.
You hit them with:
"You're kind of cute wanna grab a starbucks sometime?".
Works 0% of the time all the time.
So basically you hit them with a straight up " don't read this message"
Reverse psychology gets to them and then BAM.
You hit them with:
"You're kind of cute wanna grab a starbucks sometime?".
Works 0% of the time all the time.
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be different don't be dry try to come up with something witty or clever
TheReviewer
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You can say, what are you still doing on this app? Let me solve that.
PinkZebra
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examples of something clever to begin a conversation?
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No they don't, come on. It's just a polite introduction that you'd use in many social situations. Do you think they'd prefer "Hey, wanna see my ballbag?" or something?
PinkZebra
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I guess it can vary accordingly to the country
Here, there are many girls who put on their description something like ''Do not start with ''how are you'' or ''Skip the intro, let's talk about something''
In some cases, their profiles have something, so I can talk about their cat or something mentioned on their description
But others don't have anything and I don't know what to do in this situation. I don't know how to start when they expressly say introductions are boring.
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If someone expects you to do 100% of the work while giving you nothing to work with, that tells you a lot about who they are.
React accordingly.
PinkZebra
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That's a good mindset, appreciate your comment
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doubt there is a pink zebra at the zoo but we can always steal one and paint it pink you down ?
idk something stupid i just came up with
PinkZebra
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it's stupid as a man, but maybe it's cute for a girl, thanks
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Start with a friendly message that mentions something from their profile instead of just saying "Hi."
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skip the compliment and skip the hi. pick one specific thing in her photos and make a playful assumption about it instead of a question. something like "you 100% fought for the aux cord on that road trip" gets a reply way more than "how are you". an assumption invites her to correct you, a question feels like a survey.
DerekBlayone
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Honestly "Hi, how are you?" is the plain toast of openers - inoffensive but nobody gets excited. Just pick something specific from her profile and make a joke or observation. Not a compliment on looks, she gets a million of those. Dog photo? Ask what the dog's secret talent is. Weird hobby? Playfully roast it (lightly). The bar is so low that just showing you actually read her bio puts you ahead of 90% of guys. Keep it light, keep it short, and never open with something sexual - instant unmatch.