Uncomfortable having a relationship while not being able to 100% provide

My wife and I opened a business together, is that something you two can do?
Cool! My grandparents were like this.
let me know when you guys are single again, I want someone to work for me too
You sure do.
Don't know anything about relationships but this is totally true. I thought I am the only one who is experiencing through this.
It's nuts... I thought I'd close a sale yesterday but no, he says he'll need a campaign in JUNE. For fuck's sake, then come back in June instead of trolling me, wow. Most prospects are not replying even (normally they're *very* chatty). Hell, even talked with people from different professions, not only marketers and they all complained about less sales.
I think culture and relationship are interconnected. In our culture, men should provide for the family. So, better ask your regional people these advice, not online, just my 2 cents.
THIS. The amount of people online that think woman is supposed to do chores in the relationship, cook, clean, etc... Jesus, that was, like, the biggest culture shock in my whole fuckin life. Men demanding this shit, feminists complaining about it online, guys hitting on me thinking I'd do this shit. Damn, in my family if you worked you wouldn't do chores. Because you're working. It's not gendered. You'd either try to earn enough so you could hire paid help or if you were broke and had some non-working granny/grandgrand granny around she might do house chores while you hustle up (everyone working - men, women, children). I had no fuckin clue someone would expect me to do housework, I work after all. And the more exposure I got to different cultures online, the more I realized that for example ukrainian influencers I watched also expected household with a maid, etc. It *is* cultural. The shock is too great sometimes.
 
My wife and I opened a business together, is that something you two can do?

I have proposed that to her while she looks for a second remote job but she wants to pick up experience

Why do you need to support her financially?
Why can't she work? lol

I don't see the point of making my family work while I can make it big with the right moves, would be extremely happy to know that my family don't have to work just because I did it.
 
Cool! My grandparents were like this.

You sure do.

It's nuts... I thought I'd close a sale yesterday but no, he says he'll need a campaign in JUNE. For fuck's sake, then come back in June instead of trolling me, wow. Most prospects are not replying even (normally they're *very* chatty). Hell, even talked with people from different professions, not only marketers and they all complained about less sales.

THIS. The amount of people online that think woman is supposed to do chores in the relationship, cook, clean, etc... Jesus, that was, like, the biggest culture shock in my whole fuckin life. Men demanding this shit, feminists complaining about it online, guys hitting on me thinking I'd do this shit. Damn, in my family if you worked you wouldn't do chores. Because you're working. It's not gendered. You'd either try to earn enough so you could hire paid help or if you were broke and had some non-working granny/grandgrand granny around she might do house chores while you hustle up (everyone working - men, women, children). I had no fuckin clue someone would expect me to do housework, I work after all. And the more exposure I got to different cultures online, the more I realized that for example ukrainian influencers I watched also expected household with a maid, etc. It *is* cultural. The shock is too great sometimes.
The men should provide doesn't mean he treat the home as hotel. Yes, it's cultural, people are adopted to it.
 
When u feel in love with someone u will always strive to provide them and nuture them, does not matter how much do you have or what situation right now. Its such a natural things for any man. Don't feel sad for yourself and get better everyday, one day u will be able to help her and your surronding family like you wanted to
 
I'm on my early 20s and been lucky to enjoy remote work during my entire job life at this point I'm able to pay for all of the house expenses however can't support her totally financially.

She just got in a 7-4 strict job and things have been really stressful I was used to taking a road trip on a tuesday for an entire week just to work somewhere else now we have to wait for weekend.

I'm actively working on fixing this and doubling my monthly income however atm thing don't feel right I'm not used to waiting until saturday and sunday as I usually rest those days, any tips?
Sounds like the issue is you like to take trips but you're not able to do it with her current schedule? Is the downstream issue resentment you're feeling towards her or is it something else?
 
When u feel in love with someone u will always strive to provide them and nuture them, does not matter how much do you have or what situation right now. Its such a natural things for any man. Don't feel sad for yourself and get better everyday, one day u will be able to help her and your surronding family like you wanted to

Thanks man! Already managed to provide for my parents now next is my girl and next a new sports car

Sounds like the issue is you like to take trips but you're not able to do it with her current schedule? Is the downstream issue resentment you're feeling towards her or is it something else?

I have always hated schedules, here I am at midnight after 3 days of not eating just giving it all in a new project I have, I always failed to attend school sometimes I would miss it for 1-2 weeks.

Why would I give all of me from 7-4? when I can do 8am-12pm for 3 days and then rest for a week
 
You're in your young 20s, go travel find a bird that's on the same page as you and enjoy your life. Stressing like a married man in his 40s is not good at your age, fuck that.

That is exactly what I done and never looked back, kid now and we still travel non stop.
 
Working in a high-stress job can be challenging when balancing everything. Maybe set small goals and engage in weekend activities to boost your motivation.
 
You're in your young 20s, go travel find a bird that's on the same page as you and enjoy your life. Stressing like a married man in his 40s is not good at your age, fuck that.

That is exactly what I done and never looked back, kid now and we still travel non stop.
I personally identify with this mindset, but I also understand that there are people who don't want to do that, they just want to marry since they are 18yo and live in a place with their loved one for the rest of their lives, which is also a valid lifestyle
 
I personally identify with this mindset, but I also understand that there are people who don't want to do that, they just want to marry since they are 18yo and live in a place with their loved one for the rest of their lives, which is also a valid lifestyle

Oh 100%, like my best friend irl that lives back home, he used to work for me for years. I made a transition to more sophisticated systems, beforehand he was copy/pasting data for me. Long story short I said to him look we’re moving in this direction now, by all means I’d love to keep you on but you’re going to have to learn a few things - which I’ll pay for you to learn in order to stay on.

He wasn’t interested, asked him why and asked said bro do you not want more? More than this life here? His reply was pretty much what you said and I should have known because that’s always been his stance. It was something along the line of “bro you know me as long as I’ve the bird at home, a roof over my head, a car and bit of money I’m happy enough” and although I don’t share his feelings I do get and respect that.
 
I have proposed that to her while she looks for a second remote job but she wants to pick up experience



I don't see the point of making my family work while I can make it big with the right moves, would be extremely happy to know that my family don't have to work just because I did it.

My two cents: People need to have a sense of purpose in life, such as having a job or hobby that personally means something to them.
 
This is something you might have to talk to her because is time she wants to share with you and because that is the only day you have to do together but i beleive that from time to time have a me day and do something only you want to do is good just let her know and put it as a option.
 
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