2 things I've learned about BHW from personal experience

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I created an account a couple of years ago and with mainly being busy with University, used to lurk and read stuff on and off.

It wasn't until this pandemic that allowed me the freedom of time to invest into BHW and now, it has become pretty much my most visited site on a daily basis and not just lurking, but being active as a member as well.

So, what have I learned thus far?

1. Reputation matters A LOT. PERIOD!
Nowadays, forums are mostly an afterthought, if not a dying entity on the Internet. But, I think BHW has implemented a unique system that has lead to not only its popularity but growth as well. Unlike other places, people are rewarded for their activity and reputation as a member.
How often do you read an insightful comment on a thread offering free advice, only to click on the member's signature and see his sales thread? Most of the selling is done through reputation and the more reputable you are, the better chances to secure clients. This gives incentive to members to become "active and better members" and thus, contributes to the growth of the forum.
And don't get me started on the Review Copies! An absolute goldmine for free.. only caveat? be reputable to get one. More Incentives to be "active and better members"!

2. Reputation does not matter AT ALL. PERIOD!
No. I'm not joking!
Another thing I've seen is that your reputation doesn't matter at all if you decide to go against the forum rules. How often have we seen reputable and active members getting banned for either breaking the rules or ending up in the Shitlist. I'm talking about people who've put years into the forum, hundreds of hours into their profiles, thousands of posts, and were certainly paid members with active sales threads as well.
It goes to show that no member can get bigger than the Forums and rules will always prevail.


I guess finding the right balance is really important as a member of BHW! This is probably the only place where I took out time to read the rules and make sure to comply with them.
 
In all fairness, BHW is been mastercrafted to provide a lot of different types of value to a lot of different types of people. The rule structure certainly allows it to operate in an effective way and to reduce as much bs as possible while allowing as much freedom as possible too.
 
Reputation matters up to a point. I mean, this forum does a great job of pushing away newbies with 1 post from teaching old or bad things.. this is a great thing. As soon as you become a registered user, with a couple of likes on posts, you can tell your story and teach people about your experiences.. but as soon as you stop following the rules, you'll watch the forum through 3 vpns with no username..
 
In all fairness, BHW is been mastercrafted to provide a lot of different types of value to a lot of different types of people. The rule structure certainly allows it to operate in an effective way and to reduce as much bs as possible while allowing as much freedom as possible too.
Exactly! That's why a balance is needed to survive on BHW.


Reputation matters up to a point. I mean, this forum does a great job of pushing away newbies with 1 post from teaching old or bad things.. this is a great thing. As soon as you become a registered user, with a couple of likes on posts, you can tell your story and teach people about your experiences.. but as soon as you stop following the rules, you'll watch the forum through 3 vpns with no username..
Even at 48 posts the member is still a "newbie", so by the time the tag gets removed or they upgrade, they've invested so much time and energy that scamming or making a fool of themselves seems like a stupid option.
 
My wife got me a book called “Father-ish” and it’s a collection of laughable parenting failure stories from a dad who has his own blog and social media presence. In his opening chapter he talks about how people come to him for parenting advice because they view him as a parenting expert just because he has a blog that people can relate to. He posts pictures of his family and receives compliments on how beautiful the family looks and how well behaved the kids look despite the hundreds of photos taken, F bombs dropped, and screaming and yelling the photo doesn’t depict. He flat out admits he is no expert, but because people like what he posts they still come to him for advice.

I chalk it up as content is king and fake it until you make it.
 
My wife got me a book called “Father-ish” and it’s a collection of laughable parenting failure stories from a dad who has his own blog and social media presence. In his opening chapter he talks about how people come to him for parenting advice because they view him as a parenting expert just because he has a blog that people can relate to. He posts pictures of his family and receives compliments on how beautiful the family looks and how well behaved the kids look despite the hundreds of photos taken, F bombs dropped, and screaming and yelling the photo doesn’t depict. He flat out admits he is no expert, but because people like what he posts they still come to him for advice.

I chalk it up as content is king and fake it until you make it.

Good story.
Kinda the same applies to your signature (just visited it) lol
 
This is what I think (in a nutshell):

It's not your forum, neither mine. I am privileged to be a vip member here (yes, I pay for it, but I get 50 {literally. Not open for verification.} times the money in return. $97 does not matter atall), and I love to communicate with other members here. This has made me stay for more than 10 years here. I hope to say Hi to you after 10 more years. Yeah, perhaps not... may be.. but, I will stay "social" as long as I am here.
 
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This is what I think (in a nutshell):

It's not your forum, neither mine. I am privileged to be a vip member here (yes, I pay for it, but I get 50 {literally. Not open for verification.} times the money in return. $97 does not matter atall), and I love to communicate with other members here. This has made me stay for more than 10 years here. I hope to say Hi to you after 10 more years. Yeah, perhaps not... may be.. but, I will stay "social" as long as I am here.
Wtf! I noticed today that you joined 2 years before me. :weep:
 
Well, you've summarized BHW in those two points. :)

P.S. - I am still scared, sometimes thinking if I am breaking a rule and going to get banned. :oops:
Every time I see your post on the forum, I regret the day I joined and wrote the extra "ussganger" in my username.
You have won BHW!
 
Every time I see your post on the forum, I regret the day I joined and wrote the extra "ussganger" in my username.
You have won BHW!
I could have been the big G. Just imagine!! I wish Mr Damien gave me this special power hehehe. :D
 
I could have been the big G. Just imagine!! I wish Mr Damien gave me this special power hehehe. :D
Just imagine the fearlessness and the courage it takes to write "V" and press register. It's too late for weaklings like us.
 
You still have a single char username while mine is 5 chars. You are better. :weep:
What's in a name? :D
Every time I see your post on the forum, I regret the day I joined and wrote the extra "ussganger" in my username.
You have won BHW!
Haha, more like, I've won YOU! :D
I could have been the big G. Just imagine!! I wish Mr Damien gave me this special power hehehe. :D
Ask him out. :D Maybe you'll get to become Mr. G
Just imagine the fearlessness and the courage it takes to write "V" and press register. It's too late for weaklings like us.
Hahaha, I am not courageous at all. Just lucky, I guess! :P
 
Ask him out. :D Maybe you'll get to become Mr. G
Straight and married, but lol... It could be helpful either ways :D
 
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