How could I stop being lazy/negative person

[~@-kanye-west-@~]

Physical exercise and goals.

If you need youtube videos or music or stuff like this to stay driven, what are you going to do when the videos or music are not there?

Physical exercise helps me mentally a lot, the struggle of pushing through barriers helps train that character that you need that stops you quitting when things are hard.

You also need goals, I constantly have a goal for weekly, monthly and yearly. Without goals (write them down) you're just sat their aimless with nothing to work for.

 

[jazzc]

even I'm too lazy but my laziness not the one that hold me , but lake of motivation and vision , I can't accept more failure .

What is your age? Do you have a satisfactory sex life? Are you doing IM full-time?

 

[Instaminsta]

Physical exercise and goals.

If you need youtube videos or music or stuff like this to stay driven, what are you going to do when the videos or music are not there?

Physical exercise helps me mentally a lot, the struggle of pushing through barriers helps train that character that you need that stops you quitting when things are hard.

You also need goals, I constantly have a goal for weekly, monthly and yearly. Without goals (write them down) you're just sat their aimless with nothing to work for.

Does writing down goals really help? In my opinion if I write my goals and don’t get to the desired end I’ll be even more frustrated(

 

[mainceaft]

What is your age? Do you have a satisfactory sex life? Are you doing IM full-time?

39 , 0 , not full time I'm having regular job on day light , but I got 6-8 hours rest of the day I can work on IM .
anyway I'll pickup one of my listed project once my Visa card approved , since it takes very long time , and I have to buy couple VPS to start my projects .

Without goals (write them down) you're just sat their aimless with nothing to work for.

I'm aware of that , but as I already said "civil war memories" and fear lake my motivation to get going on life , I know their is many people where I live way strong than me , but I still hold little of hope and a dream that still on my mind .

 

[tightmetrics]

Humans change when they really want to change. It doesn't happen instantly, and you can't force yourself to do anything but be mindful and catch yourself when you do or think something that doesn't represent your vision of who you want to be.

 

[jazzc]

39 , 0 , not full time I'm having regular job on day light , but I got 6-8 hours rest of the day I can work on IM .
anyway I'll pickup one of my listed project once my Visa card approved , since it takes very long time , and I have to buy couple VPS to start my projects .

Here's the deal. To launch forward, one needs to have a strong base. If I were you, I would immediately drop all my projects outside the regular job. 100% cold. Then I would focus for at least 6 months on building me. I'd become a gym rat and I'd get into classes where I can pleasantly socialize - like dancing groups etc. I'd also give time into reading and I'd stay away from the computer - again cold turkey style. Only after a minimum of 6 month of working hard on myself, would I allow me to touch a computer after work hours.

I suggest you think hard about this course of action because you'll find out that once you've taken cared of yourself you will have tons of energy and motivation naturally and without effort.

 

[mainceaft]

Then I would focus for at least 6 months on building me. I'd become a gym rat and I'd get into classes where I can pleasantly socialize - like dancing groups etc. I'd also give time into reading and I'd stay away from the computer - again cold turkey style. Only after a minimum of 6 month of working hard on myself, would I allow me to touch a computer after work hours

that' fine plan for me , even when I was young I was thinking too much , I was need for breath space and escape from my boring life , but I decide to take other side and hide my self from people behind my computer , the society I live in are very aggressive once they realize you're tolerant person(which I'm) they will start bullying on you , believe me it's very sick/negative society , the only way to live among them is to make them fear of you , that's the reason I don't go to Gym as I even hate looking at their faces .
the only way I could get my life together is leaving this county for good and start over again (withe real humans)

 

[jazzc]

that' fine plan for me , even when I was young I was thinking too much , I was need for breath space and escape from my boring life , but I decide to take other side and hide my self from people behind my computer , the society I live in are very aggressive once they realize you're tolerant person(which I'm) they will start bullying on you , believe me it's very sick/negative society , the only way to live among them is to make them fear of you , that's the reason I don't go to Gym as I even hate looking at their faces .
the only way I could get my life together is leaving this county for good and start over again (withe real humans)

I'll be plain. This sounds like a bunch of commonplace excuses. The well-hearted snowflake bullied by everyone else in the country. What a load of horse shit.

You can hit the gym and not talk to anybody and everything will go great. You're not going there to talk about your feelings or proselytize. You think people have nothing to do than care about you and will go out of their way to hurt you specifically? Mingle don't stand out on purpose and you'll do fine.

Moving to a new country is a great idea once you've proven yourself (to yourself). So go ahead and take some action on that field.

 

[t2van]

Get some regular fresh air or hit the gym. Set a routine for it daily. It takes 3 weeks to establish a habit.

Once you get that in place. You will start to feel better. Set small easy to reach tasks. Once you hit that set the next target. DONT set monthly goals it's the quickest way to fall back into a spiral depression and disappointment!

Instead set 2-3 easy targets for 6 months and 12 months.

Keep doing that and keep moving forward. IF you need to keep your self-motivated and interested the end of the year is coming up. New years plan a new hobby, learn a new skill and set that as a personal goal for the year. Mine this year was learning to weld and learn how to forage mushrooms!

 

[billionaire2050]

These kind of threads are always a pleasure to read

 

[mainceaft]

I'll be plain. This sounds like a bunch of commonplace excuses. The well-hearted snowflake bullied by everyone else in the country. What a load of horse shit.
You can hit the gym and not talk to anybody and everything will go great. You think people have nothing to do than care about you and will go out of their way to hurt you specifically? Mingle don't stand out on purpose and you'll do fine.

a Russian expert live at my count for awhile , he told a story about his colleague went to Psychiatric clinic(in Italy) the Dr ask him how much you stay their , he told him two years , the Dr told him I regularly diagnosis the symptoms as depression after six months of living their , nervous breakdown aft a year , the guy said to I most be losing my mind by now . I'm not Exaggerate but thing exactly as it is .

Moving to a new country is a great idea once you've proven yourself (to yourself). So go ahead and take some action on that field.

I did travel once for 10 days I was shock how people on that country are so calm I was so positive and chatting with people barely know when I came back I was full of positive energy and self confidence , but even before get out the plane these POS start bullying when they realize they are home (I stand before the plane fully stop and I hear that ugly voice shout's "set down" ) . I know I shouldn't say that but they are (living exactly like Animals and they like it )