How lonely are you?

[safeSEOboost]

The best thing I ever did was taking up martial arts.

Me too. Which ones do you practice @davids355
I do karate and thai boxing OP, and met great friends there.

 

[bossofthebosses]

I always eat dogs meat but nothing happened to me , still lonely !

try dog's poop maybe?

 

[MaxiJazz]

If I were the OP, I would've dumped my computers in a trash bin and start LIVING. This is worse than it sounds, it really is.
It is all in your head. You sound like your own $%^& victim. You don't do things if you haven't done things. Like everything else, socializing is learned. Go out there. Try, never give up. You need to learn what friends is.

 

[Being Anonymous]

Before everyone cones here with their sarcastic swords in their hands, remember that this is a REAL PERSON openeing up about himself, albeit in the wrong place.

Be subtle.

Since a lot of people have helped him, can we all be a bit sarcastic, sir.

 

[davids355]

Me too. Which ones do you practice @davids355
I do karate and thai boxing OP, and met great friends there.

I do kung fu and light contact kick boxing.

 

[safeSEOboost]

I do kung fu and light contact kick boxing.

omg you seem dangerous, tell me when you come to London.
I almost started kung fu and may give it a shot there was a Jeet Kune Do class not to far from where I live.

 

[SiddharthW]

In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with not having friends or not sending your nude or kissing someone,
I've lived my life with more than 10 friends in the single hostel, but I always prefer to live alone, It boosts the productivity
I've many GF's in my life, however, I never able to maintain the relationship longer than 1-2 months, In first days it looks you got the purpose of life, but actually it sucks. Kissing is Amazing feeling but the emotional pressure comes free with make it worthless, Now, I'm planning my life to be Digital-Nomad have fun with girls from different countries without friendship/relationship. One night stand kinda, No Hookers.

 

[davids355]

omg you seem dangerous, tell me when you come to London.
I almost started kung fu and may give it a shot there was a Jeet Kune Do class not to far from where I live.

Haha I’ll ping you next time I’m there I’m still beginner though really. Think it’s been about 1.5 years since I started the kungfu. But it’s amazing; best thing I’ve ever done without a doubt. Just wish I started it when I was younger.

Jeet Kune do that originated with Bruce Lee didn’t it?

 

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Jeet Kune do that originated with Bruce Lee didn’t it?

Yes it is the Bruce Lee style (so to speak as he emphasized no style); I did a wing chun session also in Hong Kong, which is the more traditional southern style, there are many kung fu styles. I am not advanced either...

 

[therealsearone]

speechless!

 

[p3d]

Let me start of by saying: You are, where you are, because of you. Not because other people, and you are the only person who can change your current position.

If I was you I would start off by inter https://www.wikihow.com.
I would recommend you searching for something like "how to make friends" and those things, but first you need to master the basics

In my opinion, basics in having good relationschips are that you need to be mindfull, be confident and your own attitude.

Google these 3 words

Regrads

 

[dlinden2]

I'm impressed by everyone that responded for the most part. You would think there would be a bunch of people ripping this guy apart but this has been pretty supportive. Really. Even on blackhatworld forum you see there are good people in the world.
Nice.

 

[DarkHorse17]

You've to get out of your comfort zone and try to make friends. Sooner you'll fell less anxiety and start making some friends.
These two books will be helpful too:

How to win friends and influence people
How to stop worrying and start living

 

[JoonJoon]

sad story brudda

 

[mickyfu]

I'm impressed by everyone that responded for the most part. You would think there would be a bunch of people ripping this guy apart but this has been pretty supportive. Really. Even on blackhatworld forum you see there are good people in the world.
Nice.

I've not started yet, I'm just waiting for the right moment.

 

[soa0611]

Me too. Which ones do you practice @davids355
I do karate and thai boxing OP, and met great friends there.

i have to agree, it is also an effective idea
i was training boxing a year ago in 1 gym for 4 months and met some mates, not friends but anyway. went to a BBQ with them where the main topic of discussion was McGregor, GGG and Mayweather.

 

[Headmaster Cid]

You are either:

Posting these kind of topic to seek attention

Or

Have some personality issues.

Yesterday you created a topic about being a shoplifter and now you post this.

Let me tell you something. The problem is yourself.

I used to be very lonely as a kid. After school, the only thing I look forward to is to go home and play games. No one to hang out with. My parents don't believe in me and told me that I will not get good results. Called me dumb. No one liked me.

My teachers, my friends think Im dumb too.

That was until I started to tell myself its time to make a change. The first thing I did was to tell myself that the biggest problem is me.

And that is true. People didnt think I was dumb. It was ME that think people are looking at me like I was dumb. No one liked me? Wrong, that was because I used to be the class monitor that reports to the teachers about late attendance.

I have no friends? I actually do, but I just don't talk often. I have no talents? Wrong again. That is because I didn't try. I have so much more talents than I realise I do.

You have to start exploring things. Talk to people. Be confident.

I took up jobs related to customer service so that I could learn how to converse with people. And sometimes just talk things out. It will feel awkward at first, but 6 months from now, you will forget about the person you were.

People don't actually care who you are because they have themselves to worry about. In fact, just smiling at them could make their days because they, too would like to have someone they can talk to, even for a second.

Take up some hobby that can socialise. You can make friends. Friends that have the same interest as you that you can chat about.

 

[Jo_nathan]

Go to the gym and workout a little. It builds confidence.

 

[Fussganger]

I've not started yet, I'm just waiting for the right moment.

Sometimes the right moment is not having a moment ?!

 

[a hungry bear]

It's because you're not a good friend to yourself. If you (or anyone for that matter) cant even start being around yourself then how on earth will anyone else want to be around you? Really, it's pretty simple but you make it complicated and that's why it seems so hard. There are guys and yes, girls that feel the same way but most people think it's something they themselves only feel. Just get out more and start talking to people. Look, when I first started IM a failed a lot, and still am but that's part of growing. The same comes with social skills. If you apply the approach with social with anything else in life you would see the same results, not getting anywhere. Go to the gym and surround yourself in passions. Take a cooking class or some shit, whatever it takes to get you out of the house.

Take a look at this book summery video, it will help A LOT especially is social situations. It literally explains everything that you stated in your post and better yet provides a SOLUTION.

Thank me later.