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Yet another "not feeling motivated" thread

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by firstnamelastname, May 23, 2017.

  1. firstnamelastname

    firstnamelastname Junior Member

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    What the hell is wrong with me? When I wake up in the morning, I have nothing to look forward to.

    This is not your typical "SEO is so hard, I can't do it" thread

    It's not that I can't make money, it's just that I don't want to even try. It scares me to admit this but I don't want to. Because I have been disappointed way too many times. I think being rich is overrated, just like everything else that I found overrated as soon as I got it.

    I will give you an example. When I was in high school, I worked sooo hard to get staight A's. I thought if I got accepted to a good university, I would get all the bitches, you know, life would be perfect. Then I got accepted to a top university, and then realized it's not a big deal. The diploma is just a worthless piece of paper. It's overrated. I worked all those years, took all those AP classes, all that stress, for this? College was so hard and you have no idea how many times I cried because of a bad grade. I am so disappointed. I wish I had not wasted my time.

    I don't know what's my goal in life. I don't know if I want to work hard, because what if I undergo all this stress, and become rich, but then I find out having money is also overrated? "but you will have a nice car. a nice house, and get all the bitches." what if all that is overrated? what if I get disappointed again and not get all the bitches?

    I have no aspirations in life. What's my goal in life? like someone wants to be a famous singer so every day he wakes up in the morning working toward that goal. What do I want to be? when I wake up in the morning I have no purpose. no aspirations.

    Please do not talk about
    1) seeing a therapist
    2) religion, buddhism
     
  2. bartosimpsonio

    bartosimpsonio Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    Seems like you need a bit of planning, discipline and goal setting.

    If you feel lost, then step back, get out of the computer, go for a walk, then come back with pen and paper and write down your plan.

    If you don't know what to write down, then you didn't have a plan. Create one, then start from there.

    Good luck.
     
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    dude set your goals to be comfortable not to be rich. my goal right now at 23 is to make $300 a day. thats it. i dont want to make thousands of dollars and be rich. i just want to make $300 a day because i feel that's a good amount to live and be comfortable. set your goals lower. if youre able to wake up and not feel like doing anything then you obviously are in a better place than i am. im flat out broke right now i have like $25 in my wallet and i have to pay a writter 42 on Wednesday and a poster 40 on Friday. im still keeping my head up because shit man im going to reach that $300 a day. the best part is. after that ill keep going ill make a new goal and then ill be able to make enough to have kids and my own place.

    set your goals lower. move up from there dont set your goals so high so quick. also who needs tons of bitches when you can have one loyal girl. you seem to be very immature and want everything easy. im taking a guess you have never had to struggle. maybe now you can struggle.
     
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  5. uncutu

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    its hard especially if money doesn't motivate you
    i go through periods of the same sentiment
    i just remind myself
    i need to do this now or i will end up working for somebody else
    that usually does the trick
    get some daily exercise, stop watching porn, take some vitamin b on top of it all and you'll be straight.
     
  6. Elin Dotsya

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    I swear it's like I'm reading one of my posts. Are you me OP? Except the whole getting into a uni + "getting bitches" part, which I avoided at all costs strictly due to moral/religious grounds, etc.

    Damn, do I sound this whiny too? :D

    Let me tell you a joke...





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    No, but seriously:

    Here's a big secret - you are free to do as you please. None of the diplomas, riches, material possessions are going to change your inner turmoil. I believe that I'm here on earth because God decided it so, but until the journey ends, there is no super mega purpose. That's why I'm focusing on improving myself and riding the waves.

    It's all an elaborate little game. My goal in life right now is to find what brings me and those who I care about happiness. I want to be able to provide a better life for my loved ones. Maybe when I have enough moola I'll look into fixing these godawful roads and living conditions.

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    Be like Umaru. This is what makes her happy.~​

    Everything is overrated if you put it that way. Living is overrated. Dying is overrated. Breathing is overrated. But it's silly to think of it in these terms because that's meaningless and won't get you anywhere but back to square one. If you change the way you look at life, then you will see that life can be a wonderful journey.

    You can get up tomorrow and enjoy the sunrise, smell the flowers, and feel the morning wind blowing through your hair. Then proceed to accomplish something in life, whether beneficial to yourself or those around you. It's your call.

    Just because some people believe that life is meaningless, doesn't mean that yours has to be also.
     
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    To align your values with your life, you need to have time to contemplate on life. I am sure even writing such threads and discussing that issue can help you recover from confusion.
     
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    People who post on forums about their "Problems" never look for solutions so am not going to give you any.

    Anyway, you might find some luck being on special medication or good old Testosterone Therapy.

    Good luck.
     
  9. firstnamelastname

    firstnamelastname Junior Member

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    Hi guys

    I read thru all the responses. I am not sure which one is useful to me. just FYI when I said "get all the bitches" I didn't mean literally "fuck a lot of women"
    by "get all the bitches" I meant a guy who is happy.

    just to clarify: I don't know what makes me happy. lets go back to the singer example that I gave in my original post: This guy wakes up every day, wanting to be the next famous singer. He buys a microphone, he sets up a studio at home. The next day he goes to different producers and gives away his CD for free. He thinks outside the box and gets creative with his ideas. He goes to the beach and sings for free to get exposure. He is active. when he goes to sleep at night, he cant wait for the morning because he is so excited to try out his next idea toward his dream.

    me: I have no dreams. I take public transporation because I have no money to buy a car. I live with my parents. I cant buy a new laptop, my laptop is 10 years old. I cant afford my favorite cologne. I wish I was rich but...I dont know what the hell my problem is. It's like "let's say I made $10,000 a month. so what? my life would still suck." maybe I think I don't deserve to be happy? again, I don't know what the hell my problem is.
     
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    Open your Mind before Open your Mouth is the Best solution to this Problem..
    Because, if you doesn't know what makes you happy, then how do we know ? & how people could suggest best solution to your problem.. ?

    I can say, Happiness is not a goal, it is a by-product :)

    The Answers you seek never come when your mind still remembers your past like no dreams, no money to buy a car, can't buy new laptop, etc etc..
    Train your mind to see Good in every situation & change your thoughts & Dream like you're getting money, you can buy a car, buy a new laptop, buy whatever you like -

    Yes, Start to Dream like A.P.J Abdul Kalam Said..,

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    You need to make new goals each day. Even if they are small set them and go for it.. at the end of the day you feel much better and motivated for the next day :)
     
  13. curiouskt

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    Consider this:

    The acronym SMART has several slightly different variations, which can be used to provide a more comprehensive definition of goal setting:

    S - specific, significant, stretching

    M - measurable, meaningful, motivational

    A - agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented

    R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented

    T - time-based, time-bound, timely, tangible, trackable
     
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    Are you content? If you are then you dont need to do anything. If you are not content then start picking out a few things that you want but dont have and use that as your motivation to move forward.
    It doesnt matter if you dont know what you want to do specifically, just move towards what you want and dont have.

    And like @bartosimpsonio use some planning, dicipline and goals to keep you on the path towards getting what you want.
     
  15. gman777

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    Everything is overrated once you accomplish it.

    At first you were excited because you were fantasizing about it. There was lack of connection between image A(initial) and B(final). But if you'd reach that sweet spot, you wouldn't feel euphoric anyway. The reason is that you gradually evolve, and not in a shot, so you gradually eliberate dopamine, and you're already used to what you know.

    Anyway, your target shouldn't be this kind of excitement, but your own personal satisfaction. You shouldn't feel like you're so excited all the time. Even when you'd make your crush your GF, you'd feel wow at first and then after some time, bam, you'd get used to it. It's just how it works.

    Re "bitchez"


    Idk who told you that you'd get girlz/bitchez if you get a degree. I mean there's a correlation between them, but by no means the cause. It's like two circles who intersect, not overlap.

    And how do you know that girls don't want your dick? Have you even approached them?Chances are there are girls who want you and you probably didn't even realized.

    Or did you expected just to magically jump on you? How hot are you? How toned? These are way way way better questions and they'd make much more sense. Girlz are visual just like you.

    They like a good looking guy who is able to be on charge with them. If you aren't hot, well at least to have money, a nice car, know your game and shit like that. Hell, even your diploma counts because it induces the scarcity trigger(this guy is special, he has a diploma, he's not just an average wanker).
     
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  16. X-R0

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    calm down bro... don't allow society to put you under pressure. wright down your skills and wright down what you interested in, and network with people in the same field (actually you already began). believe me new doors will open for you totally naturally.
    See the life as a journey and work on the best version of YOU.


    Happiness dies with Comparison.
     
  17. MakeGreenM8

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    I found not being a poor deadbeat was all I needed. None of the what ifs and philosophizing in the world compare to "What if I am a loser who only has a choice between homelessness, landscaping or restaurant jobs for the rest of my sorry life?"