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Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by bizzybee76, Jul 15, 2009.

  1. bizzybee76

    bizzybee76 Junior Member

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    You HATED?

    I mean a person who you worked with before who all but stabbed you in the back, but after ignoring personal differences is absolutely the best person for the job...

    What would you do?

    Can you put personal differences aside, even swallow about 8 gallons of pride if you knew that meant you would have an absolutely amazing person on your team?
     
  2. bizzybee76

    bizzybee76 Junior Member

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    This is for an offline venture...

    She is the best at what she does, and has extensive experience and knowledge of the industry in question. The history between us is complicated and UGLY at best...

    But if I had to think of 1 person who would be kick ass at the job it is her...but I fucking hate her because of what happened (she actually did end up getting what she deserved) and ended up quite miserable; which is why I feel like I should throw her a bone. Be the "bigger" person in the situation.

    I'm on the fence with this one, and need the male perspective...
     
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    TermsB Senior Member

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    People never change, don't make the same mistake twice.
     
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    Hell389 BANNED BANNED

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    Everything changes, so do people.
     
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    gbmack Power Member

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    Tell us the whole story and we will decide what's best.

    Everything depends.
     
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    TermsB..thats not good advice..everybody in this forum has changed either to good or bad..suprised you put it like that.
     
  7. bizzybee76

    bizzybee76 Junior Member

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    Here's the abridged version...

    We worked together at an offline business. I was in Technical/Sales Support. She was a sales person.

    They had an opening in another sales division, and this was seriously my dream job. A ton of money, creative opportunities. Seriously the closest I EVER came to finding my "dream job."

    She knew this. I told her, we talked about it several times.

    She decided to apply for it too because she thought that division would be "easier" than what she was doing...I already told her it wasn't.

    She and I were the only ones who applied for the job.

    She got it, I didn't.

    After I went to congratulate her, she told me point blank that she didn't give a crap about the job, didn't want it, didn't know why she applied for it, and shouldn't have taken it. And she said "if they think I am going to treat the customers like Mary-Anne (the woman she replaced) they have another thing coming!" Then she went on and on about her "learning curve" and how she didn't have a clue...knowing all the while that I knew all about it.

    She basically went after the job because I wanted it. We both thought they would give it to me because the sales manager hated her. But, as it turned out, they gave it to her so that they could make her miserable. They soon reversed the territories, and gave her the REALLY shitty territory and took all of the "money maker" accounts away from her.

    Seriously though, she and I were friends. She was and still is amazing at sales, and brought in so much business she won the sales rep of the year award, she's a marvel.

    So, for me it is just a matter of leaving the situation of the "job" in the past. Which is something I struggle with.
     
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    MuonTrail Registered Member

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    Setting aside your personal feelings, it really depends on whether or not you can trust her. You already said she stabbed you in the back once. Do you feel you can really trust her?
     
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    Sanitarium Regular Member

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    Would I bring home the woman who placed first in the sausage biting competition at the fair, and then have her mouth near my manjingles, I dont know.

    I don't think people change at all, but they sometimes are able to adjust positively or negatively and sometimes it sticks most times it does not. But man when the enemy is down you just never know if they'll have your balls for dinner.
     
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    I know you're right...

    Its like I have the little devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other...

    One is saying "Holy Shite this bitch will bring in a TON of money, leave the past in the past"

    And the other one is saying "She's a complete cunt so WHY would you want to pay her for ANYTHING?!?!?"

    I think I need to buy them both a drink...

    One wants a white russian...and the other wants a jack and coke...go figure.
     
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    she did not do anything to you, the company did, if it was her right to put in for the job also.

    If its not a partnership, you dont have to like the person you are the boss of, they just need to do their job.
     
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    I can't believe nobody has said it yet, so here it is:

    IT'S A BUSINESS - TREAT IT AS SUCH.

    You've gotta be a little "Tony Soprano" about this decision. It doesn't matter if you're best friends, second cousins or mortal enemies. It's a business decision. If she's a closer you should hire her. ;)
     
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