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why why why is it so hard to talk to a girl?

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  1. Jason_parker700

    Jason_parker700 Regular Member

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    Today, i went to watch harry potter and the deathly hallows(sick movie), thought id return home happier but that didn't really happened. The movie was pathetic. Very little special effects! But what makes me even more sad is the fact that i lost such a great opportunity.

    I saw this fair girl who i'd call impeccable. She was dressed in a saree, had colored hair with extra large silver ear rings. Walked like an angel, had a really beautiful face and her body would actually turn a man into a sex hungry dog. She was giving me those extended stares, indirectly saying that she wants me to approach her. I kept looking back at her and looking away, because i am a shy guy basically. This entire episode went on for about 10 minutes and i decided to walk away cos i thought that she wouldn't like to be bothered. When i entered the movie hall, i was actually banging my hand against me forehead and calling myself an idiot for doing so. How do you guys approach a girl at a movie hall? Do you find it tough too?
     
  2. cody41

    cody41 Power Member

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    Here's a quick tip: Never...EVER..put a girl on a pedestal. You'll set yourself up for failure every single time. Treat them like normal people and you'll do fine. Sounds like you lack self confidence?

    btw- this line made me lol :) "her body would actually turn a man into a sex hungry dog"
     
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    Say F*ck it "in your head" and just do it next time.
    Those who get girld often just ask more, if you are a ass who ask every girl you wanna boink then your BTC "Boinkhrough Rate" should be fairly high, a BTC of 50% isent to hard to get.

    If you smell abit confident and can talk alot of shit then you should be able to top that BTC.

    Just one example for you, a friend just had bin dumped. And we went to a restaurant an had something to eat, he liked the waitress and said to himself (fuckit, i can ask her out, i dont have anything to loose). When we paid he asked her about what she would do later and so forth. 1 min later they exchanged numbers and got together.
     
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    Approaching women successfully is a numbers game: you have to actually take action, and the more you take action the more data you will get so you know what converts and what doesn't. A 1:100 is worst case scenario btw ;)
     
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    Yeah it's happened to me before, you don't wanna take the chance of lookin like an absolute mug. I can't offer much advice but you're not alone bud. I haven't had a girlfriend for a year now and I'm slowly turning to wanting one again, despite the hassle!
     
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    BTW, there is aloooot of Help Yourself things on the net. Maybe good idé to look in to that.
     
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    I'll tell you, if you buy my "how to get a girlfriend" e-book, PM me and I'll give you my aff link, just kidding:D Anyway, just approach her nicely and get involved in a converstation, for e.x you think the movie is great, express your feelings(girls appreciate that) and then ask her about this, if she likes you, she's gonna ask, after that I assure you, everything will get well, just talk to her normally, make compliments sometimes and you'll get her:)
    And don't forget that you should make the first move;)
     
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    M1ndfluX Senior Member

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    Uhm... Hi! What did you think about the movie... Uhuh... Yeah... Uhuh... Right. Wanna go talk somewhere else i think ur nice etc.. blah blah...

    Any questions?
     
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    Wanna fuck?

    Dude just ask her that, if she likes you she'll laugh or actually say yes.. if she doesnt, then its not meant to be and you just walk away knowing you tried. :p

    Works 100%, has never failed me!
     
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    A pessimist is someone who yells about the noise when the opportunity knocks.

    But only a FOOL yells about the noise even though he knows that it is opportunity waiting outside.

    No offense but you are a fool.:)
     
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    Do like Mike The Situation from Jersey Shore ;)
    SHOW YOUR ABS DUDE!
    lol, tell me what do you have to lose? Tell her she looks amazing and if you can buy her a drink after the movie, big deal if she says no.
     
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    Dude, word of advice, read The Game by Neil Strauss. Changed my life, im 28 pretty good looking but totally shit at chatting women up cold, decided to read that one day to humour myself but it turned out to be the best thing i ever did and that's no joke, try it bro trust me.Don't bother with snippets of his videos cos u won't know what he's talkin about, read the whole book cover to cover and trust me you will be psyched like nothing else, you'll wanna get straight out and hit every broad you lay eyes on.
     
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    Well you sound somewhat similar to me :)
     
  14. navycliper1

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    I feel you buddy on this, i've once been in the same situation & i know it really hurts, like you can press rewind, i also hate rejection, so i'll even feel bad if i approach her & she ignore me. You can take some of the advice above. Best of luck buddy.
     
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    Find the balance between being confident but make compliments too. In your case, saying something about her dress/earrings would be such an easy start. It would not look too obvious that you are a sex animal:) and you would look like you are into fashion which is a plus for most girls.
     
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    A lot of it has to do with the way you were brought up, here's some examples. When you were a kid, you were taught, "Don't talk to strangers." It's a subconscious thing and now you feel as it's wrong to talk to strangers. Also, when you were a kid, you were probably taught, it's wrong to interrupt people so guys make up excuses in their head not to approach a girl because they don't want to bother them.

    Seems like you have approach anxiety which is pretty normal and about equivalent to public speaking. Just like the advice above, you really have to go with the "i don't give a fuck attitude" and just do it. If you see a chick and don't approach within 3 seconds, you'll never do it. You'll talk yourself out of it, you'll make up excuses and then things will just get worse and it all started in your head. The Game by Neil Strauss is a good read and there's a ton of material online.

    One exercise I recommend is go to your local mall, and approach every girl you see and ask for the time. After about 10 approaches, you'll see how easy it really is to talk to a stranger. If you can't even do that, then I don't know what else to tell you.
     
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    You my dear friend, are a first class V-Giny :D

    Next time, approach her be like... hey whats up? why do you keep staring at me? I know I am sexy but dmmm girl! ;)
     

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    I had the same problem until i started drinking, the liquid courage works like a charm. Take a flask of Jack Daniels to the movies with you.
     
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    Well...personally, I don't like women unless they can obey me. So taking charge of any relationship I initiate is just second nature.

    In my experience, girls don't really know what they want, on a primal, instinctual level, until you show it to them. Take charge. Be assertive. ASSUME that you are the master. If it doesn't work out, oh well. If it does, you have an attractive, naturally servantile female.
     
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    You should have confidence in every thing you do. Never think that one person is better than you. When you walk up to here you will feel overwhelmed if you don't have confidence in yourself.