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Who Else Has This Problem? Family Has No Clue What You Do

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by redrubies, Sep 28, 2013.

  1. redrubies

    redrubies Supreme Member

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    So today my mother had a get together. One of the women who came over my mother's house loves vintage jewelry, so I took her and my sister to my new contact. He has bins of vintage jewelry in costume and fine jewelry. I didn't get to see all the bins because I couldn't get to his back room (my sister wanted to leave), but I did pick up some things that I liked. I brought back the jewelry to my mother's house and they wanted to see what I got. I took out a diamond and sapphire ring. I said that I was going to pop out the diamonds. My mother said "You have to take that to a jeweler so they can get the diamonds out for you." My father said "Don't try that yourself! You might ruin it!" I have been in jewelry for how many years??? And they still have no clue what I do for a living or that I have a store??? Some jewelry that I made for my mother has stones that I set. How does she think the stones got in there? I could feel myself getting agitated, but I calmly said "What do you think I do for a living?" The response? "I don't know what you do on that computer, but I think it's time you got a real job." I just walked away.
     
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  2. SeanAustin

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    Just reading this made my stomach turn. But I assure you, every internet marketer deals with this in some way or form. Don't let it get to you too much man, the lifestyle you live is probably so much better than that of anyone with a "real job"
     
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  3. redrubies

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    When one of my sisters got my mother a laptop for Christmas, she was showing my mother the joys of the internet. She said "Let me show you redrubies jewelry store." I had a big smile on my face and thought I'd get a "Wow, that's so beautiful! You do that for a living???" Instead she said "Oh. That's nice. I want to see youtube."
     
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    My parents know that I work on the computer and could care less, as long as I have an income. They know I build websites sometimes, but it was more difficult explaining search engine optimization. The final result? My dad proudly tells his friends and coworkers that I work for google...
     
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    LOLOLOL!!! I really needed that laugh today.
     
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    Finally, that cheer is needed for OP!

    OP- Show them what you can do and you should keep everyone's mouth shut by showing them what's achievable through IM. There's no use of getting upset, take it as a positive note and earn more!
     
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  7. redrubies

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    I raised kids as a single mother with this occupation and they still have no clue where the money came from. It boggles the mind that they don't wonder how things get paid for.
     
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  8. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    You can't choose your family, on the other hand you don't have to allow them to drag you down.
     
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  9. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    It 's natural if someone pays everything for you to assume that 's how the world works :) Time to cut down hard on allowances.
     
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    Similar story here as well.
     
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  11. MonkeyMindDS

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    i just tell everyone i do marketing / advertising online. i say i build websites, get it ranked high in google, and put ads on it.

    that's about as far as i tell anyone lol
     
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    Mostly old people come from generation W, X.

    Have no idea about computer and internet.
     
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    I just bought a new car for my father btw 1 month ago.

    And now he stop "talking" about get a real job. :D
     
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    i'm lucky enough that my father is a major geek, the day i told him i was building websites and doing seo he started asking all kinds of intelligent questions about it and built me an awesome computer to do my work with.
     
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    I totally know that feel, bro.

    My parents kept asking me to get a job after I finished my national service. I told them I have an "online business" (because I don't know how to explain IM to them). And they just tell me to get a REAL job.

    Heck, I have my own private office, yet they aren't convinced. So I just continue my own life.

    I guess they are still stuck with their traditional mindset: "Go to school, get good grades, and get a job." (As Robert Kiyosaki says).
     
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    Look at the bright side... you could have been a gay atheist in a family of extremist christians.

    About the "real job" - that's so common with IM people it became an icon. Most people are close minded and base the way they perceive a job on how their friends see things. If out of the blue your mom and dad had their friends come to them talking how cool it is for those people who work on the internet and how that's a great job to have and if they saw a bunch of news on TV about this they would have been the proudest parents ever. Why do you think parents see being a doctor or engineer as being a great job? Because in THEIR time, those were the best jobs. Today's generation doesn't see a doctor or an engineer as something special.

    Made a t-shirt for you:

    http://www.spreadshirt.com/design-your-own-t-shirt-C59/product/108007681/view/1/sb/l

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  17. incognito876

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    I don't think it is so much about that they don't understand what you do, but rather that it is natural to want our parents to be proud of us, and when they are not it is hurtful.

    Guess the best thing is just to feel proud of yourself - you know what you have achieved and I am sure your kids will grow up admiring you for it too.
     
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    In this situation I think wait until the day I pull up in front of the house with an exotic. Replace that with something cool. I have my own brick and mortar type of business and no one in my family will take me seriously. I am still on that path to get a Ferrari. With the naysayers, yeah I have the other stuff beforehand before I drive up in that car. On that note I was paid by Ferrari for a job.
     
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    This post really touched me! This is how life is. People, many a times even closed ones, are usually not interested in YOU, but only in what YOU can do for THEM!
     
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    Yup been there myself. "not a real job" issues.

    However it's only because they don't know what it is you really do, the day to day ins and outs.

    They don't have any experience, It's the same with me when I see people saying they love their 9-to-5 work and wouldn't give it up even if they won the lottery. I simply don't see how anyone could love a 9-to-5 grind enough to love it, But that's because I have no experience in it.

    You don't have to please everyone with what you do, just please yourself and that will be enough.
     
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