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When you have problems with something another member says.

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by 2011nfl, Aug 25, 2012.

  1. 2011nfl

    2011nfl Supreme Member

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    Over the last couple of years I have had quite a few disagreements with other members, and some of those disagreements turned into public battles. Then, one of us would pm the other, and most of the time we would find out that it was just a misunderstanding, and then everything would be ok.... Kind of..... The problem with that is that when that happens, you can't just simply take back a whole public arguement. Of course, you can edit your post, but most of the time, by that point everyone has already seen what you said anyways, or someone has quoted your comments, so they are still visible. So why not just cut out all of the public arguing, and if you see something someone says, and think it's about you, or it just offends you, then you can pm them to resolve the issue. This way, we can avoid alot of public battles.
     
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  2. SilverMovieDownloads

    SilverMovieDownloads Power Member

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    Agreed if you want drama or "public arguments" head on over to the shitlist. The main forums should consist of civil conversations.
     
  3. tashrif

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    Whats the fun without fighting ;-)
     
  4. 2011nfl

    2011nfl Supreme Member

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    Was that directed at me? Thems fighten words!!! lol just kidding :)
     
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  5. silentthunder

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    Sometimes after the fighting is done you realize you were saying the same thing in different ways.

    I'm reading a marketing book that says psychologists have discovered its harder for people to see themselves than it is for a stranger to see them. So we're all looking at the other guy's behavior and sizing him up meanwhile he understands us better than we do. No wonder there is so much conflict. We're all like dogs chasing our tails! :p
     
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  6. 2011nfl

    2011nfl Supreme Member

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    I actually agree with that 100% I do alot of peer mediation with my pastor friend, and I tell people all the time, "Its easier from the outside looking in"
     
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  7. Grizzy

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    Don't troll of flame, but if someone posts something stupid/inaccurate/offensive on a public forum they deserve to be put on blast and mercilessly gutted in front of their fellow forum members.
     
  8. silentthunder

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    Touchy feely type, eh? :flypig:
     
  9. synfig

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    If I disagree with someone, I clear that out in the same thread. I don't take it to the PM or so. I am not the type of the person who go on neg rep just because the view doesn't align with my view. I like different opinion, if it is negative criticism against me or even that random neg rep that people these days on forum love to pass, lol. It's better to have disagreement and different opinion than silence which doesn't take you anywhere with one set of medicore thought.
     
  10. DUVIS10

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    jajaja lets get ready to ruuuuummmmmbleeee!! nice one
     
  11. Grizzy

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    Haha figuratively speaking of course.
     
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    J/K - Good one OP. While communicating online, its difficult to judge the other side reaction. Stupid questons can be tolerated , but not troll.
     
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  13. BottingWorks

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    There are always going to be people that don't get along, and that's fine.

    One thing to realise, this isn't a counselling forum or somewhere to complain about life, it's about the World of Blackhat, so lets keep it that way.

    I find that by loving everyone, they love me. So soon I'll be having lots of BlackHat babies, and I'll use them to backlink for me. I'll have a team of SEO children!
     
  14. umerjutt00

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    Well, I never got any problem with any other member saying anything..At least not at BHW...
     
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    imo it's just a matter of respecting peoples' boundaries.

    if one person says they like vanilla ice cream, and another person says they like chocolate ice cream, and they both leave it at that, then it's all good.

    problems only start to arise when somebody attempts to take the stance of "i like chocolate ice cream and you should like it too."

    don't be that guy ;)


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    I don't know about the backend of the VB but is there a way that a specified thread is visible to only concerned members?
    If that can be done, there is a possibility of making threads hidden from general public and made public only after the claim from complainant is verified. And only both the parties and the moderators would be able to view such a thread before going public.

    Just my 0.02
     
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  18. madoctopus

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    A quote I remember from a youtube comment:

    "Arguments are like ass holes: everybody's got one and they think yours stinks more than his"
     
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    Totally aggred with you OP. That's how problems should be solved, in a professional manner.
     
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