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When "friends" tell you you're not a real friend because you don't spoonfeed them

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by richjtf, Dec 24, 2015.

  1. richjtf

    richjtf Junior Member

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    So, it had been a while i hadn't talked to this particular guy, i met him before coming into blackhatworld, at the time i was making like $10 or $20 a day from internet alone and he was too, we became friends and we used to talk daily about a lot of stuff but our focus was making money online. He was always the kind of guy that wants everything spoonfed to him, he was too lazy to look anything up on google, or to read whole articles, or to try new things, he rather go with something somebody else told him was working, and that pissed me off of him.

    For example, at one time i was doing about $5 a day with CPA alone from knowledge i had gathered from reading around so much, when i put it down detail by detail he said it was shit because he didn't understand anything and nothing made sense, he then went ahead and paid $20 for a shitty guide that was about spamming social sites with CPA offers, whichm as expected, made him $0 in return. Meanwhile i was making $5 a day(really little i know) but at least i was making something out of something i learnt on my own.

    Anyway, i stopped going into skype for about 2 months, today i opened it and he was on, he contacted me and we talked for a while, he was at the exact same place where i left him 2 months ago, i then went ahead and told him what i was doing, which companies i was working with, etc, in good detail, he started demanding i showed him my sites (i got two money sites, one which is a porn one and the other is not), i told him no, because that brings bad stigma(just bullshitting), i didn't want to spoonfeed him to that point.

    I had already explained exactly what i was doing, but since i didn't want to share my site with him he got mad and told me i wasn't a real friend and that i had changed, wtf. I mean seriously, if i was where he is and someone came to me to tell me what i told him i would be happy as hell. Anyway, just needed to rant a little as this isn't the first person this has happened with. Why are some people like this? Why can't they be more independent? More mature? Seems like everything is about money now, if i do something you don't like suddenly i'm not a good friend and i suck, even though i explained everything in detail. Interesting.
     
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  2. Euphorix

    Euphorix Supreme Member

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    If you had any idea how many "friends" I haven't talked to in years have been hitting me up lately....

    Give him the learning resources and then let him decide whether or not to take action. I've referred over 10 people to BHW this week

    None of them have posted once
     
  3. PinguSpy

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    That's not a friend.
    I will ignore it btw.
     
  4. Cnotey

    Cnotey Power Member

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    I find the older that I get, my friends that I have known for 10, 15 and 20 years have been through me with everything. I would hand them the world on silver platter. But people you meet in passing and know for a few months or even years, they will come and go.

    Don't even waste another thought.
     
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    Sounds like a douche bag.
    It would be one thing if you were part of a mastermind and you both did your own thing and both shared your wins and failures with help each other learn and progress.

    But in your case it sounds like he is just one that likes to take but never contribute.

    If I were you I'd block his ass and tell him "Sorry you don't feel I've been a good friend to, but I wish you good luck with what ever you do. Bye."
     
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    Well to be honest, everyone here will have a friend like this, happen to me many times so now i have stopped replying to most of them. I still guide people here and there as its a part of my job (9 to 5). Its better to create a line and you have to be very clear with them from the beginning what you can tell them and what you can't makes it alot easier.
     
  7. monsterseo

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    This has happened to me several times in the past. Dont even bother them. Move on.
    You're no bullshit just because if they say so :)
     
  8. Ste Fishkin

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    Tell him to fuck off - if he can't help himself why should you help him.
     
  9. LostConnection

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    Exactly.

    I've taught a friend of mine how he can make money as an entrepreneur (focusing on online marketing and money sites to be precise), but I've known the guy for over 10 years and he's extremely proactive. All I had to do was point him to a few resources and help him a bit with the Wordpress theme he chose.

    But this "friend" of yours is something else. He's a real asshole.
     
  10. Sherbert Hoover

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    Ninth Jr. VIP in a row to post, what up.

    OP, you need to re-work your definition of what a friend is to you.
     
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    Why do you care if another person is angry with you? cut them off and stop acting childish.
     
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    ajithrocksca Senior Member

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    Some friends deserve more than spoon feeding... it all depends on what your friend means to you and you to him.. I would do more to some of my friends that I would to a close family member..
     
  13. HoneyHelper

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    I lost all of my SO CALLED friends like this!
    they were boring people anyway...so i don't care!
    now! they just gossip about me with their girl friends and I give a f*** to that!
    move on dude life's big!
     
  14. redarrow

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    Help those that would help you sorry ,

    also dont forget business is busines there no friends in business
     
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    On the other side, some people cannot start a business on their own. That is why WF is full of shiits for newbies.
     
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    You are a real bad friend. Take a spoon full of your Sh*t and feed him.
     
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    Thats why I have only one friend :)
     
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    Run from these friends!:aargh4: