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What would you do?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by ahiddenman, May 28, 2011.

  1. ahiddenman

    ahiddenman Elite Member

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    ok so basically i have probably the most messed up life on this forum.

    My parents have split up , My mum has MS and my dad has just recovered from cancer and he's an alcoholic and i've never got on with my mum and due to this illness she has now i cant handle her nor my dad.

    She argue's everyday with me , Wishes i was dead and basically she does everything to knock me down and trys and make me feel as low as i possibly can.

    I've not told her yet but i'm taking drugs regularly , Just going out drinking alot and taking a girl home each night and i've not long turned 18 and to be honest if i keep on like i am doing now i will be dead within 1 year and i'm not evening joking. But i think to myself , Would i be better of dead? But then ofcourse my mum will think she has won and i dont want that + I'm pissing my life away.

    I'm just thinking of dissapearing and moving up country or even getting my own apartment , What would you guy's do if you were in my position ?

    P.S - This is not a feel sorry for the dude type of thread. I need some serious answers
     
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  2. Abstroose

    Abstroose Elite Member

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    Spend three months alone in Thailand.
    Read books on Spirituality and Metaphysics.
    Help people, donate to charity.
    Begin studying something which interests you.

    They're the things I did when I was going through hard times or in dark places, and I started seeing life in a new light.
     
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    Yeah i know what you mean but its gone past that dude.

    My mum finds little faults and makes them bigger. We could probably make her find niches and she would find hot niches with low comp :eek:

    But i've always helped people + I donate to charity alot (Locally and online)

    Just stuck on what to do.
     
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  4. Abstroose

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    Why don't you just get away then? Two years ago I was sick of everything, so I sold my car, quit my job, got myself 2 credit cards and booked a ticket to Thailand. Was the best thing I ever did!
     
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    I will , Need to save a bit of money and i'll ask my mate to come because he's sick of his family also.

    Just checked out holidays for Phuket island and Pattaya , Where would you recommend?
     
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    Going away can also be bad if you dont make the effort to met people and go out. If youre bad at making friends you might end up in a worse situation. So be aware of that.

    I would also try to get new hobbies and change your life completely. Even the food you eat. Buy things you normally wouldnt, you dont have to do it forever but it will help you out.
     
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    I've always been good at making friends , Had no problem Socialising with people especially when i've had some dutch courage haha.

    Yeah i'm going to avoid my mum completely until i go to wembley on monday to watch the football final and if she starts when i get back i'm going to for good , Some family members who know what i'm going through even offered to help so i have people there for me
     
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    I stayed in Phuket for three months. Want to go back there later this year!
     
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    You can't let others define your life for you, parents or otherwise. Find out what's important to you and make your own way in the world. You know what is right, just listen to yourself. Getting wasted everyday is just a way to self-medicate the pain away and is basically a road to suicide. Plus there has to be others in your life that "you do matter to" so get closer to them. If not get professional help and keep looking until you get the right therapist.
     
  10. J1218

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    Just get away from it all man. You sound like you're doin OK for yourself, so find another place to live and don't even tell your parents.

    I think once you take yourself away from the stressful situation and have a clear head, you will feel much better. You'll probably start makin a lot more money too since you won't be dealin with all the bullshit.

    You don't necessarily need to dip off to Thailand (unless you want to), but even if you got a place of your own like 30 minutes away I bet you would feel way better.

    Good luck, hope it works out.
     
  11. imlol

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    Well if youre in London why not get a cheap flight to spain and live there for a while? Its probably the same price as somewhere in London but when you relax, you can be on the beach.