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What would you do if your wife told you....

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by XBLElec, Jan 10, 2013.

  1. XBLElec

    XBLElec Junior Member

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    What would you do if your wife of 2 years told you that she cheated on you and the baby that you've been caring for may not be yours?

    My wife just told me that she cheated on me and that my 3 month old child (Which I love with all my heart may not be mine.) I don't know what to do, I'm devastated. I don't know if any of you have kids, but the connection you have is something that's unexplainable.

    So, besides killing her, what would you do?
     
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    Oh my fucking god, thats shocking news man, hope your okay!!!

    Get a DNA test for one...

    Fuck... i am not actually sure what I would do, brave of you to admit it on here for sure...
     
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    Paternity test then go from there man...
     
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    Sorry to hear that XBLElec. First thing I would do is to get a DNA test to determine if the child is mine. If he/she is mine then I would take into account the relationship I have (with wife), and see if it can be worked out. If the child is not mine, I would not hesitate ending the marriage, as once the trust has been broken, it's practically impossible to get it back (for me anyway).

    Hope everything works out for you.
     
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    What would I do?

    1. Remove emotion from all decision making from this point on.

    2. Test to see if you are the father.

    3. If not father then leave them and let her parents or sperm donor deal with her. Start over. I'm sorry.

    4. If you are the father then it is your responsibility to raise that child as best you can regardless of your like or dislike of the incubator. Give him/her a great childhood, teach about the important things in life, pay for the best education possible, and be there when needed. It is up to you to make or break that new persons life regardless of your feelings.

    5. If the incubator is not willing to cooperate in providing a quality life for YOUR child then frame her for something like drugs in the car, take custody, do it yourself.

    But then again, that's just me. Good luck and hang in there!
     
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    Sorry to here that but this may be a blessing in disguise , get a DNA test and if it is yours than congratulations, but if it isn't than move on. You mentioned you loved the child not the wife. These woman nowadays are prone to mens weakness, if you let this slide and take her back even if the kid is not yours.. She will do it again
     
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    Id ask her does the guy know u have a husband. If she said yes, id kidnap him, tie her up but them both in the basement, Skin his arm, Cut his toe off feed it to her, cut his dick off shove it up her ass. Id take a rat put it in a metal bucket, heat up the bucket the rat will get scared and eat at her stomach. Then id cut off each of his fingers one by one, then id put a none stop dripping of water hit her head until she went insane. id keep them alive for as long as i can and just get doing more fucked up shit. then feed them to the pigs and take off on a Vacation for awhile until things die down. Before all this get a DNA test take the kid and start this and start a new life after i did what i had to do.
     
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    This is what you do, take care of the child and leave her..I'm sure the child has a attachment to you, no need to destroy that bond. But get rid of her ass. But prepare 15 years from now to have that talk with the child "your not biologically mines speech" just so he or she doesn't find out in a weird way. But do get a DNA test cause who knows the baby prolly is yours.
     
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    Paternity test, without her knowing about it. Then secretly contact a divorce attorney. You'll need to be able to prove infidelity, of course, the paternity test should take care of that.

    The thing about people who lie... is that you never know what they're lying about, ever. Although she came clean... who knows what else she has been hiding. Don't end it.... plan ahead, then end it.
     
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    Get some professional help and talk it out.
     
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    I'd celebrate my new "get a cheat free" card.

    In all seriousness bro, tough break and I hope it works out well for you.
     
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    She have to beg for forgiveness. She have to do whatever you want. She have to feel like a shit!
     
  15. XBLElec

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    I don't know if she's telling me this stuff because she is in some sort of rage, or if it's actually true. I'm really numb right now. My child is my everything. I want to wake up and think this is all a dream....
     
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    I have no idea I;m still young but if that going to happen to me I leave them And start over
     
  17. XBLElec

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    That's the thing. It's not as easy as leaving and starting over. I watched this baby grow for 9months in the womb, spent $44,000 in hospital bills. I cut his cord, I spent 24 hours for 7 days at the hospital when he was sick. I spent 3 amazing months everyday waking up, falling asleep, rocking, caring, etc. for him. It's a feeling I've never felt before.
     
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    You need the paternity test, might be stuck as daddy(ie child support) without it. I am adopted, so you can love the kid even if it isnt yours. You and her need counseling as well, if your in a church ask your preacher for a good marriage counselor! Good luck!
     
  19. Arsis

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    I sincerely hope the kid is yours then, either way you need to kick your wife to the curb. If the kid isn't yours, and your wife is an evil bitch, you could never see the kid again.

    I have 2 girls, one just turned 2 yesterday and the other is 3, and I couldn't ever be separated from them. Just get that DNA test done, I hope the kids yours... good luck man.
     
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    I honestly don't know what I'd do I just got engaged literally 1 year ago in the next few days here,
    and my fiance is pregnant with my Son.

    I know it's not quite the situation but I don't know what I'd even do now if she'd told me something like that this could even been someone else's Son and that's before he's even here.

    But I'd suggest taking a paternity test like most other people suggested, as far as your wife goes I couldn't ever stay with someone if they cheated on me it means at one point they did think they could live without you ( Shouldn't marry someone unless you do feel like you can't live without them, until that point I don't consider it love ).

    If I woke up and my fiance wasn't here I'd truly be lost she's the reason I wake up in the morning, the reason I strive to make myself better and go to jobs, work, or etc but if she didn't feel the same then that would kinda change the way I feel as well.
     
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