What was the most challenging event you had to get over personally?

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I know I have probably said this a million times, but for me, it was my mother's death. She was my best friend, and I would talk to her for hours each day, I guess it never gets easy.

I was wondering, [seriously] what is the toughest thing you had to overcome?
 
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Mrnewbie said:
it was my mother's death. She was my best friend, and I would talk to her for hours each day, I guess it never gets easy
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I cannot remember just a single event, cause during the past there were a bunch of ugly moments, who let deep scars (scars which are now transformed into, let's call them, beautiful tattoos, stamped on the 'skin of the soul'). So, the best part is: All pass (it may be also the worst, so act now and start to live your life). I am really happy for the path I'm following, and I hope I will succeed. For now, all is good. For the future...Let's see.
 
TheMarquis said:
I cannot remember just a single event, cause during the past there were a bunch of ugly moments, who let deep scars (scars which are now transformed into, let's call them, beautiful tattoos, stamped on the 'skin of the soul'). So, the best part is: All pass (it may be also the worst, so act now and start to live your life). I am really happy for the path I'm following, and I hope I will succeed. For now, all is good. For the future...Let's see
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Thank you so much, as those words are very touching, and I take it day by day. Lastly, I try to honor my mom by treating others how they want to be treated, so thanks for the support.

TheMarquis said:
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Circle the wagons, bros!
Let's send OP something funny, sweeten his day a little bit.
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I cannot remember just a single event, cause during the past there were a bunch of ugly moments, who let deep scars (scars which are now transformed into, let's call them, beautiful tattoos, stamped on the 'skin of the soul'). So, the best part is: All pass (it may be also the worst, so act now and start to live your life). I am really happy for the path I'm following, and I hope I will succeed. For now, all is good. For the future...Let's see.
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Thank you all, but it is not about me, so I would rather it be just a regular lounge post. Thank you to those concerned, as it is genuinely appreciated.
 
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cutting ties with 95% of people in my life to focus on work and gym
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I’m at the stage where i’m holding onto these ties for as long as I can.

I don’t want to believe that’s it - How can I go from having best friends at the age of 6 to now having no one?

It doesn’t make sense, as much as I try and keep in contact I get a cold shoulder.
 
I don't know, probably seeing my grandpa losing weight due to cancer to the point of looking like a skeleton. Generally, life has a very ugly face.
 
Mrnewbie said:
I know I have probably said this a million times, but for me, it was my mother's death. She was my best friend, and I would talk to her for hours each day, I guess it never gets easy.

I was wondering, [seriously] what is the toughest thing you had to overcome?
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Mrnewbie said:
I know I have probably said this a million times, but for me, it was my mother's death. She was my best friend, and I would talk to her for hours each day, I guess it never gets easy.

I was wondering, [seriously] what is the toughest thing you had to overcome?
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My wife cheating on me multiple times. And I still have flashbacks from time to time when I am in a normal conversation with her of those moments.

We have been together for 20 years now. I don’t bring it up. But I learn people can change and people can mature. And it takes a lot to forgive.
 
Sol said:
I’m at the stage where i’m holding onto these ties for as long as I can.

I don’t want to believe that’s it - How can I go from having best friends at the age of 6 to now having no one?

It doesn’t make sense, as much as I try and keep in contact I get a cold shoulder.
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Sooner or later they will forget about you and if they never even call for you why'd you think they actually wanna hang out with you? Better have few friends who you hang out and trust than bunch of them. Additionally i have bunch of connections but I don't conside those friends.
 
sscaz said:
if they never even call for you why'd you think they actually wanna hang out with you?
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For me it’s just not being able to accept how we could laugh in school together, go out to parties, play video games etc and now all of a sudden nothing.

It’s crazy to me - most of it is because I left school early to work and they continued on but still in disbelief.
 
Sol said:
For me it’s just not being able to accept how we could laugh in school together, go out to parties, play video games etc and now all of a sudden nothing.

It’s crazy to me - most of it is because I left school early to work and they continued on but still in disbelief.
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Yet you waste your time on league of legends instead of working :/
 
In recent times it was the death of my 12 year old dog. She just fainted one time when walking, we went to the vet to find out it was terminal cancers.

For me the most difficult part was and is what could have I done to avoid this. And I still remember her eyes looking at me when we had to put her down.

The grief process is something difficult to process. Sometimes I just grab my guitar play a song about her and cry.

I can't compare this to a mother's death. But when something like a loss happens in ones life this is the moment that puts everything in perspective.

Have a great day
 
Mrnewbie said:
I was wondering, [seriously] what is the toughest thing you had to overcome?
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Inferiority complex. I am being serious. I always was fighting against my “intruder syndrome” being a self taught programmer (in all honesty, I do have a grad degree in computer application, but I learned more by myself than reading the books). I think I have gotten rid of it in the last few years, but it was a tough fight to win..
 
Well cant say just one there were lots of them, each one is a different pain. Like right now i found out i had 2 hernias in my cervical spine and lombar, a colapse disc and maybe other much worse health conditions still waiting for the results. It's hard because i have to stop going to gym which i wont accept because sports is my way of maintaning my discipline and my life feels that its going backwards if i stop. But regardless of whatever problems i will still do whatever needs to be done.

Others include: (this isnt by order its just parts of my life until the present)

1 - Watching my aunt commit suicide and trying to bring her back. In the end at least could say my goodbyes.

2 - my grandfather that was like a father to me died because of a fall

3 - handle my father sometimes of our lifes when he had crazy episodes he is bipolar so he can get in crises of euphoria that makes him a little bit crazy or he gets in big depressions.

4 - step up and handle all my family shit parents debt, business (even if it isnt what i want), taking care of my grandmother that cant move, money for all my family day to day expenses.

5 - heartbreak from past relationships. To be honest cant complain much from this since i also did lots of the heartbreaks to past girls (what goes around comes around)

6 - cut ties, with lots of people, stop doing drugs, start heating well and start going to the gym

7- 2 friends that were killed and others that died from cancer or accidents.

8 - getting my new house and going almost a year without having any money and food.

I could keep going but im done.


I'm gratefull for all of that hard times in my life it build character and made me who i am today and i love myself. People complain that life isnt fair and "why it happen to me" fuck that shit.

Life isnt fair, its also hard it isnt for the weak we has humans build comfort and try to minimize all the bad stuff that life push in our way i can understand that but i don't think its good.

the obstacles are there for you to grow if you take them out of your life you wont grow.


Sonner or later its going to knock on your door and all at once. You will be weak and will paralise, crying without any direction to run "what should i do" and life wont stop the problems will get bigger. So go face your demons they are yours and yours alone to face.

You will see you will look at life and yourself with a diferent eyes and will be much more stronger and happy with yourself.
 
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