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What should i say to this fool?

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  1. fatjack'sblackhat

    fatjack'sblackhat Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    He messaged me this about my girlfriend. Keep in mind he has messaged her 17 times yesterday alone. I should probably do nothing as she hasnt responded to any of his crazyness. Here is what he wrote me. All of his "big" words do not intimidate me as they are used out of context and do not follow correct nuances. So humor me with ideas, what should I say to this loser? Im telling you don't let his talk fool you this guy is absolutley nuts:

    As a man, I can completely identify with the reaction you made, concerning myself. It is of course, a textbook case of "territorial pissings", being protective of the things you care about, or "Who the fuck is this mother fucker texting/calling my girl?" I get that. I understand completely. I hold no grudges towards you, as that is hardly my style. Alcohol can be fairly persuasive, especially in matters of the heart. What I think that you need to know, is that Kathy and I were never an "item". On the contrary, we were best friends at one point. We have never been physically involved with one another. We did talk a lot! Her and my, long lost relationship, was predicated upon our passion for language and life. We always talked in a way, that would lead people to believe we were in love. And, I do love her, but you have nothing to worry about. She loves you. I know she does. Let me digress though........, I love Kathy in a way that poses no threat to you. For so long, as a writer, I used her as my muse of inspiration. See, when we met, we shared a lot of similarities. I happened to be very outspoken, mostly for shock value, while she was less outspoken, but passionate when she spoke. I latched on to that quality, because, as an artist/writer, it was detrimental to grasp that power/ability to make people hang on your every word. It's pretty fucking admirable. So we would talk for hours on end, and I would learn from her, the secret to passionate speak. She really is something. I applaud you for being able to land such a beautiful treasure. Cherish every breath she makes. She is special. Just know, that I pose no threat. I may say things to her, sweet things, but I only say them for the truth behind them. That's the way it has always been, and it will likely continue. I lost her for ten years, but ten years doesn't mean shit to a couple of weird ones like us. But, dude....... for real, I live hundreds of miles away. What's the threat? Also, she LOVES you! First thing she had to say was about you. I don't "wreck homes". I'm not a "lonely loser". My gross annual income, no matter the size, makes no matter with the person I am. I'm real as it gets. I will tell you the truth, no matter what. The truth is this: I am happy for the both of you. I want nothing less than ecstatic energy for Kathy. I will always shower her with compliments, as she is the one who made me into the person I became. We are the same. I am genuinely appreciative at your attempt to clear the air with me. That is honorable, and to be honest... I didn't expect it. But....anyways, you have no reason to be jealous, insecure, overbearing, or angry with her or myself. Our involvement is innocent. Sometimes that type of thing happens in life. You are still young, grasshopper, with much to learn. She has the intellect, knowledge, and life experience, enough to where, you can trust her when she says its okay. And it is. Get back to me.
     
  2. tbkdkc

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    This dude is a nut job, how do they know each other? Dude is wack and prolly has no life, tell him to back the fuck off. Bro, that dude would be on my immediate shitlist. Lil punk ass, trying to get on my gurl, id kill him if he was close. But.. i tend to be violent sometimes
     
  3. MrsE

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    I would fuck him up... personally...

    Tell him to step off, or you're gonna rearrange his face.. :D

    Gotta be like John Wayne Toilet Paper- Rough/Tough/Don't take no shit off nobody...
     
  4. aмillionaírе

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    He sounds like a cunning sociopath. Watch out from them people :)
    I would personally respond with a plethora of fancy words, simply to say eff you and you aren't the shit you wish you were. I would definitely keep him under watch, and when the legal (or not) opportunity provides, even teach him a little lesson if he steps too close. He sounds confused and deranged, if you're going to exhaust energy into him don't entertain this shit, teach him a nice lesson.
     
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    if your uncomfortable with it talk with your gf... tell her how you feel... if she doesnt understand tell her to put the shoe on the other foot and ask her if she would feel uncomfortable if an ex of yours was to do the same.... if the answer is yes then do something about it...

    do that or hunt him down and make him your bitch... lol
     
  6. fatjack'sblackhat

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    I am 21, my girlfriend is 29. He and she went to high school together over 10 years ago. I feel like saying some dumb ass shit like: Ahh yes grasshopper it IS the early bird that gets the worm, but what you fail to realise is that it is the second mouse who gets the cheese.

    I should end it like that and walk away from it as if I have just said something epic, no? What do you guys think? Thanks ;)
     
  7. blazen

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    How do your girlfriend even know this nut? Is she even talking to him? Tell him to stop contacting her. Bewatchful, this type of nut sounds like one of those psychopaths.
     
  8. fatjack'sblackhat

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    I have already spoken with her on this subject and she doesnt message him, but he continues to leave messages. Here is an example of just one from many from yesterday:

    If I may be a little presumptuous, I think that, by you changing your photo to that time period, you are feeling a renaissance, as I am. That time period is priceless. Look at that smile! So full of real joy! I would like to think that I could give you a smile like that. When you called me, and you were on the verge of crying from my emails, I felt a wave of positivity, and warmth, that I cannot find the words to describe, over my whole body. My entire being becomes wrapped up in your voice, when I am fortunate enough to hear it. My dear, you may never truly know the doors that have opened, from your simple key twist. I was serious when I said that I get all nervous, inarticulate, and stuttery, when I hear you speak. What a blow to the mind to learn that, even after all this time, we still shared some parallelism with each other, i.e. black cats, Gun's N Roses, relationSHITS, etc. It makes me wonder if we are just pretending that there isn't a greater significance to this experience. I probably did do what michael said, wrecked homes, caused problems, etc. But, i think I may have come along at the right time. I know you've had some revelations, as I have had some amazing pulses of energy. Having you back happened at the exact perfect moment for me. I still feel the same. I never knew it was possible. I still am holding back, as to TRY to not disrespect your situation. I want so badly to let the floodgate all the way open. Kathryn, I hang on every word you say. I noticed how intertwined I felt to you tonight on the phone. I typically space out on the phone. I can't help but absorb every word, tonal inflection, and ounce of passion behind what you say. It is, as you have always been, intoxicating. I mean that in the most literal fashion. I am high and intoxicated with every thought, call, message, and dream of you. I know that these things are a bit forward, but you have to know. At one point, if you had asked, I would have dropped the world, to insure your happiness. I know, with the little conversations we've had, that it wouldn't be hard to get to that point again. I was so scared of rejection, I'd have never asked. But we both new. i mean, was there not always tension between us? Not bad tension, but the type that makes you want to tackle someone, and roll down a hill with them, full speed, regardless of the consequences. As long as you know that they were in your arms, it wouldn't matter the injuries sustained. That's the type of tension I still feel. You would think these things would fade over time. I was so in love with you. I still love you to pieces, but just with more reservation and refrain. Not saying that I am him, but you deserve so much better, babygirl. I looked through you man's website, did a little background search and what not, and besides the fact that he is young and naive, he seems a bit boring. Not the thinker, art appreciator, and passionate one I would have imagined to capture such a great treasure. Well, I've been with some pretty boring, non-thinkers myself. I don't blame you for wanting to be loved, held, caressed, and cared about. You deserve it. I want those things too. I bet that you give more than you get. Isn't that the way? I will always love you unconditionally. apparently, I will always be madly in love with you. These things I can do, and be happy with no reciprocation needed. I can be content with a fresh image or voice of you, and give birth to beauty on paper, and in song. I love you for that. I'd yell it from a mountain like Ron Burgundy. Whenever it feels right, I ask that you let me change your label, from the one that got away, to the one I've always had, the one I always need. The one I'd do anything to please. I couldn't be more real. This is my poker face typing. I hide nothing. Please don't be apprehensive over what I've said. I just have to. If I would have then, I wouldn't have been able to explain as good as I can now. I want to know everything about you. I want to experience the things you love to do, together. I'll walk in parks and forests with you, gladly, with "no A.D.D", as it is not allowed there. I want you to indulge my past times as well. I want to show you passionate art and music, in the likes of which, you have never seen or heard. I want us to know each other so well, that even in our silence, the feelings we have toward one another, scream their virtue. I've said too much? Well, I'm a risk taker, and for you, I would jump! Neither Dante or Shakespeare knew of this reality of mine. Thank you for this moment. Thank you for every future moment.
     
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    Maybe he will rearrange his face or burn them both with acid. He sounds like a maniac. Block and ignore him!
     
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    This guy is definitely a psycho :D
    I'm not even you but I'm urged to say some bad things!
    He's one of those psychopath that smiles with you and stalks you...
    He seems smart but when you're socially deprived you'll turn into a psycho!
    Tell her stop contacting this man, have her understand his demeanor.
    He's obviously attached to her, but he's too attached.
    You need to scare him nice and good...if that fails then take action!
     
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    Craaaazyyy!. Try not to interact too much with that psycho. I had a stalker once, and it was a really stressful episode in my life.
     
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    I agree with nirvana.
    You, and your girl, should not respond at all.
    Keep watch. Sociopaths aren't crazy like you might think.
    They are crazy, intelligent, know exactly what they're doing, and they
    WILL mess you up.

    For fun. They don't care-even when they get caught.
    (I remember Ted Bundy. Look him up, if you don't remember.)


    Those big words are there to advertise intelligence, and precision.
    He is very specific in his use of meaning. Truly dangerous, and definitely not a fool. He is baiting you. Please don't fall for it.
     
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    doesnt she have like a block email from certain addresses feature on her outlook or email service?
     
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    you could say:
    "With respect to your sentiments, I will have to request that you respect our relationship and present yourself accordingly. Whether or not you pose a threat is not the issue; the issue is the fact that you would invade our personal space and relationship like that. If you love Kathy the way you say you do, you should respect her in the very least. Can you sincerely admit that you would be okay with another man 'showering' compliments in an uninhibited manner as yourself to your girlfriend? While I respect your verbose reply, I am going to have to ask that you respect our relationship and boundaries that come along with it."


    or you could just say "No matter how much color you add to your replies, your stripes will always show. F- off." =D
     
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    Seriously, if your gf's not replying, then she's not interested, block him, and report him to the police (that way if he comes knocking and you happen to "protect yourself and her" using force it'll help you out).

    Better to nip it in the bud now, as it'll get harder the longer it goes on.
     
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    Personally, I think it's your girlfriend's job to tell him something. All you're doing is fueling him even more. This guy is very calculating and sorry to say but I think the age difference makes a big deal here. I'm sure he knows you're alot younger than he is and he might know how to push your buttons a little. Don't prove him right! Your girlfriend needs to tell him to stop. If he hears it from her then he'll probably stop. If she refuses to tell him, then you better think twice about the relationship you're in. Just my 2 cents.
     
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    This guy is VERY MUCH IN LOVE WITH YOUR GIRL!

    He has sent you an email that is an obvious attempt at getting the attention of her. His hopes are one that she will read his message to you, and quickly realize how much of a better man he is over you.

    He is hoping for her to reminence (spelling?) of their history and may find an old memory of an intimate thought she may have once had, and then phone him to discuss.

    This guy is dangerous on MANY levels, and will leave his home town at the slightest thought that your girl is interested in him.

    Do NOT entertain his mental meanderings with any response. And it is imperative that your gf does the same.

    Hopefully in doing so, the old adage of "time heals all wounds" will ring true and his infatuation with her will fizzle away to a definite death.

    Good luck, but leave it all alone. Do not even tempt your anger by reading anymore of his messages!
     
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    I agree watch him very closely and if it starts to get to the point of stalking, then get a restraining order. It won't stop him but will give some legal recourse. Keep records of everything. If he ever shows up to your house, whip his ass and say he attacked you and you were just defending yourself.
     
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    lol!.
     
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    Oh no, if she does, he'll become more and more obsessed and resentful!.