What should I do?

I have a vlog that I make as part of a group, that we do in our spare time. There are only three of us. I handle the technical and web based stuff and strategy. We have someone who deal with recording, editing and animation work, let's call him B and one who is our presenter and deals with the scripting, SM and PR stuff too, let's call her C.

So a few months into it, we are getting some decent engagement now and i've found some pretty innovative way to improve retention rate. Thing are looking well and now our cameraman want's to get his sister on board the team too. I asked what she could bring to the table and was told she could be a co-presenter and was also very useful as she could get us lots of lucrative leads for our audience and market (or 'niches' if you like) as she has a lot of friend in the industry and has some experience in a somewhat related field to some of the topic we cover. I have verified that this indeed does look true...

So I said how about if we just make her strictly about promotions, advertising and PR as she's obviously strong in those areas but apparently she is adamant about becoming a co-presenter along side my good friend C. I am not an idiot I also saw her SM pages and she obviously is leveraging our vlog to help her gain more traction and coverage for her quite obvious attempt at becoming a social influencer. Which is fine I think, as long as she can help us achieve our own goals it might just be a mutually beneficial arrangement. But here is the issue now - my good friend C absolutely is not having it. She said it's out hard work and efforts we put into this who is she to butt when it's not needed. She enjoys being in the limelight and I understand her concerns but at the same my friend B, says his whole family is for idea, I know them quite well as i've known this guy the longest.

Now I don't know wtf I should do. This whole thing might potentially fall apart just as it was starting to look promising. Everyone puts the pressure on me about this like I am some kind of leader when it's a group effort. So I guess that puts me in charge. Now what would you do if you were me.

According to this website - https://wts.indiana.edu/writing-guides/paragraphs-and-topic-sentences.html

A paragraph is a series of sentences that are organized and coherent, and are all related to a single topic. Almost every piece of writing you do that is longer than a few sentences should be organized into paragraphs.

Love you bro

Scorpion Ghost said:

According to this website - https://wts.indiana.edu/writing-guides/paragraphs-and-topic-sentences.html

A paragraph is a series of sentences that are organized and coherent, and are all related to a single topic. Almost every piece of writing you do that is longer than a few sentences should be organized into paragraphs.

Love you bro

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Is that better?

qwerty_123 said:

Is that better?

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Much better

I'm reading now...

1) I don't work in groups so I'm out of my element from the first sentence
2) Is C hot?
3) Is the sister hot?

Okay so I'd try to find some middle ground so that both C and sister are happy, or at least not unhappy.

But push comes to shove I'd probably reject the sister and stick with C and with what we're doing, because I'm loyal like that.

Is your penis involved? Because if it is, then maybe there are other considerations

Make a plan with lots of careful input from yourself and your team and thoughts to gather, no matter if it's brainstorming or whatever. Use this to show you are a leader, take the responsibility of collating that information, and work with some sweat time on a plan. Then rip that plan up and start a new one. With that one (really a top-quality revised plan) present it to your team, delegate the specific duties to each of them, and confirm they are happy, and what they would like to do about that which is whin the boundaries you have set. Don't let the team decide the boundaries. Only you. At the same time, allow the team to have at least some influence on you about those, so you are not like a total swashbuckling blackbeard pirate in danger of a mutiny.

Be concise and clear about their understanding of their role, and find out what they plan to bring to it. Make it your plan, and give each of them an interview about how serious they wish to take it. This will encourage you to take it seriously too, which every decent project requires, a cheerleader.

qwerty_123 said:

Yes, she's ok, otherwise she wouldn't be on screen.



Not really, but she's super glammy




Now here is what I have in mind, the average joe in me thinks it's best to basically stick to our original plan and tell him that his sister can help with the networking and lead generation like an agent but is not allowed anything other than occasional / special guest screen time and that's the best I can do. If she doesn't like that then she can do one. Esp since B is less likely to bail than C as things are - she really really wants the screen to her herself. I'm guessing he would just have to bare the brunt of his own families dissaporval esp since she's clearly the favourite, as for me i'll just avoid them for some time until i'm so rich i'll naturally start getting invites back.

As for the businessman in me.... I mean as hopeful as I am that she will agree to this, I am doubtful she will so here is plan B esp if it turns out her leads and PR stuff will be helpful to... i'm asking myself what would Jeff Bezos do? And so this is the plan - now my friend B (and his sister) are black. I can convince C that her being black will be a great chance for us to capture whole new markets and appeal to a wider liberal audience especially (which it more or less was anyway) but this will help to augment the image further.... obviously I just fixate on how this will help her to get more publicity and potentially it will help make us all more revenue...



No it isn't. It is strictly business.

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I like plan B to tame C

I don't know bro, can't really give much advice on this one.

You could always bark orders and give ultimatums, and let the chips fall where they may

Scorpion Ghost said:

You could always bark orders and give ultimatums, and let the chips fall where they may

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He has stated in another thread he is 16,

Should a 16 year old bark orders at me I'll laugh.

Persuasion is the way to go here once you decide what you want to do as opposed to the BTB way which is bark orders.

Scorpion Ghost said:

I like plan B to tame C

I don't know bro, can't really give much advice on this one.

You could always bark orders and give ultimatums, and let the chips fall where they may

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As you average douchebag it sounds mean and slightly exploitative if you talk about (which is why I deleted it) I would fucked up on reddit for saying that. But it's smart.

BassTrackerBoats said:

He has stated in another thread he is 16,

Should a 16 year old bark orders at me I'll laugh.

Persuasion is the way to go here once you decide what you want to do as opposed to the BTB way which is bark orders.

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Oh I didn't know that. Okay that changes things.

But if he's 16 that means he's dealing with other 16 year olds probably. Also that his penis never sleeps, assuming he's a healthy male hahahaa

Yeah persuasion sounds good. He should do that.

You could always go the honest route. Put A, B, C and Sister in a room, and lay all the cards on the table and how you feel about it. Then you all either come to some sort of agreement, or not, but at least after that you won't have to wonder about it anymore

BassTrackerBoats said:

He has stated in another thread he is 16,

Should a 16 year old bark orders at me I'll laugh.

Persuasion is the way to go here once you decide what you want to do as opposed to the BTB way which is bark orders.

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We are all more or less the same age.

Unlike them I have a thick skin from working at a flagship apple store for some time and between having every customer (from local drunks to filthy rich gulf customers) yelling and screaming at you for no apparent reason to having managers yelling at you because you can't do your their job properly, I think i'm pretty good now at putting up and dealing with bs in many ways, working under pressure and prioritising tasks for sure. I did ok just by honing this attitude. I broke the store record for the max number of macs ever sold in one day and the key as you say is persuasion, not barking orders.

qwerty_123 said:

We are all more or less the same age.
Unlike them I have a thick skin from working at a flagship apple store for some time and between having every customer (from local drunks to filthy rich gulf customers) yelling and screaming at you for no apparent reason to having managers yelling at you because you can't do your their job properly, I think i'm pretty good now at putting up and dealing with bs in many ways, working under pressure and prioritising tasks for sure. I did ok just by honing this attitude. I broke the store record for the max number of macs ever sold in one day and the key as you say is persuasion, not barking orders.

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I like you. You're gonna do good in life

BTB said persuasion, I just sort of agreed with it.

But yeah, be a diplomat and try to persuade everybody to play nice and get along. Or find a way to diplomatically remove the sister from the equation and keep going with what as you said seems to be working out and coming up.

Scorpion Ghost said:

I like you. You're gonna do good in life

BTB said persuasion, I just sort of agreed with it.

But yeah, be a diplomat and try to persuade everybody to play nice and get along. Or find a way to diplomatically remove the sister from the equation and keep going with what as you said seems to be working out and coming up.

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Thanks!
Yes I agree