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What should I do ? (depression, no money anymore)

Discussion in 'Making Money' started by Jarvannis, Sep 5, 2019.

  1. belg

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    I'm really sorry but if it's really been 11 years, you should probably look for another source of income..
     
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    Stop fapping
     
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    This is one of the core problems. Your current mindset is faulty and it's causing you pain.

    It's a hard one to just 'change'. It usually happens naturally from certain experiences.

    What you're feeling is basically an illusion of mind. The feeling that you need to change now and make money now.

    Money is not and should never be your goal. It just a tool. Think of it like petrol for your car.. You need it to drive the car you love, but you could have all the petrol in the world, but be driving an old bus, or you could have just a little petrol and be driving a range rover.

    Ie, it's not the money its self that will create happiness. It's the work.

    Here's the thing that you, and 99.999% do not realize.

    There is NO difference between the guy who has a billion a year company and each one of you who has no money.

    What does the billion a year company owner do?

    They wake up in the morning. They drink a couple of glasses of water.

    They meditate and feel some appreciation for the day.

    They maybe walk their dog if they have one..

    They take their notepad and write down some tasks for the day.

    They sit down and do 5-6 hours of focused work, getting through those tasks.

    The pleasure doesn't come from the fact that they have some virtual net worth figure. Their company has more resources to play with, and they can do more things, but it's still just work they're doing. Daily tasks, solving problems, taking pleasure in the day.

    You can have this RIGHT NOW. It's just a decision to realize "Holy shit, I am blessed. I can wake up and live my day". Not everyone can. Many humans don't even have access to clean water. You are really blessed. Everyone who can access this forum is.

    So with that in mind..

    Stop doing things you dislike so you can, in the future live a life that you already have.

    I can tell you from experience that money really means nothing by its self. If you aren't doing something you enjoy every day then money becomes like a drug to try and fill a void, and you can never fill it.

    Just create a budget where you are spending very little and can sustain yourself indefinitely, then enjoy each day. Remove financial stress by living off very little, and keep living off very little. If your turnover is $100k per month, your salary should be no more than $4k/mo. If your turnover is $1million per month, take a salary of $10k/mo. Don't set a goal of having money for yourself. Take pleasure in creating things and having complete freedom.

    You've already arrived. You aren't running out of time. This is it here, now. Live it. In 6 months you will feel the same unless you change your mindset now. If you change your mindset now, you'll never feel pain about this again, because it's impossible to fail. The person making $1mil/year doing something he hates has failed. The person making $50k/year enjoying each day is successful.
     
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  4. Jarvannis

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    Thanks dude! I hope too :p

    I feel you man, it's hard, but life in general is hard. I disagree with what you said. It's possible to make money online, in multiple ways. Hang on !

    Hey!
    1) Yeah a lot of members recommended that too, and as I said I started it (along with hypnotherapy) this year, and it actually started to work! Now I need to learn to do that that on my own, but I'm not sure where to start :(
    2) Yeah I spend time here but it's hard to get started haha. Not sure if this or that method works, etc... If I mastered meditation, it would have help me not to struggle that much haha. But I don't give up !
    3) It's hard these times. It is hard to enjoy anything. It's not just about money, but money would help ;(

    Anyway, thank you for your message, dont worry i wont give up :p
    This is awesome man! Good job with your success and with your life in general. This is inspiring ! And great advice about toxic people haha... I think this is a great advice, too.
    I wish the best to you too ;)

    I agree with your answer. This guy sounds depressed by IM, this is not the right way to do it haha. I always loved IM but I am depressed for other reasons (when I was a teenager) so it's just hard to stay moitivated. But yeah IM is amazing!

    Dude, i fell you, it's hard. but don't be that negative with yourself ! You're not a "monkey" at all, as you said you earned good money, we just have to bounce back when life is hard. And for the record, I know really stupid people making tons of money haha, so monkeys DO make money :p But yeah, I feel you, sometimes I think there are no solution, but it's an illusion from a depressed mind, we have to be stronger than that.

    Well I can't answer for this guy, but personnaly I love blackhat too. But yeah, you have to expect short time income in general with blackhat. But whitehat is not that easy neither haha... And kind of risky too.
     
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    I disagree ;( everyone can bounce back ! BTW they are plenty ways of making money online, or making money anyway, this guy will find his way!
    Lol I actually think it's a good advice :D
    Great post man, thank you. Actually, it's funny, I answered page 3 questions, I see your post after answering, and I find I start thinking more your way than the way I thought several days ago when I started this topic haha, according to the way I answered to other people !

    You're absolutely right, I have to change my mindset, I'm living, life is not easy but what ? I'm alive, as you said I don't struggle to get water, etc. We have to learn to appreciate life, it's really the basis.
    But when you're hit with depression, it's harder to change a bad mindset. But not impossible ! Since I started this topic for example, I feel a little better! Good first step haha ! (thanks again for all people with amazing answers on this topic)
    Another problem (with me at least) is obsession, which can bring fears, phobia. These one are really hard to deal with, because these are fundamentally irrational thoughts, it's hard to get rational again. But yet again, it's beatable. I need to look into it, though.

    Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and experience, man !
     
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    I understand mate. I'm not at all saying "you should be grateful for what you have". Not at all.

    The biggest point is that, your life if you are worth $1bil compared with now won't be THAT much different. Billionaires aren't out partying on roof top mansions. Not the entrepreneurs who are happy and have purpose in life anyway. They're just waking up and doing their tasks every day. Same as we all are. So just find something you like. If you like to write, then start an amazon affiliate authority site and write daily. If you hate writing, then don't do that. If you like to build websites, then run a little web design company. If you like copywriting, then do copywriting for companies. If you like social media, then do something with social media.. Just do the thing you like. Don't have to love it.. Just something that when you wake up in the morning you think "I'm looking forward to my work today". That's the big secret. So you don't work for money. You work in something you like, and the money just allows you to do MORE cool things with what you like. With a billion dollars you can have a huge amazing company doing awesome things in the thing you like. Understand? :) It's not about the money, it's just about doing work you like. Work and purpose is a beautiful thing. It will beat depression.

    And when I talk about us being lucky, I don't mean "be grateful you have the simple things" -- Yes, be grateful of course, but by all means strive for the world.

    What I mean is. Realise how lucky you are because you are in a position to choose to do something you like. Whether you make money quickly or not, you can do work you like.
     
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    hey you,creator of this post. you live in tier 1 country. do you see my avatar here? it's something which im not proud with,but i like to show the truth about my country,truth is my no.1 priority rather then anything else. you see this flag with banana? im living in Serbia , if i go out for a real work,i will be paid like 13$ per day. if i get more lucky maybe 20$. if i get less lucky maybe 10$. do you know how hard is to save the money for internet marketing? when im getting only like 300$ per month for REAL WORK,8 hours from monday to friday? and everything has the same prices like in tier 1 countries i belive. coca cola 2L=1,10$,box of tobacco 2,30$,hamburger 1,40$...you should be more lucky. as someone already said above,you should go and do heavy exercises. do it for 40 minutes at least and drink water before that. you need to get sweating so hard,do it intensively. and after that,u will feel like God. :)
     
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    @Jarvannis did the online casino promotion method work for you ?
     
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    Many of us struggled in past and started earning some bucks, and here's my experience with depression.
    I had a rough past, and the present is also not so good but I'm happy because I can earn and live on my own. I don't even make 15$ a day(around 5-8$). But I'm happy with my earning and you should too.
    About depression that kicks me every week at least once or twice, I try talking with my friends for about 1-2 hour(normal talk with both male and female). If I'm not in the mood of talking, then I play an online game; CSGO, for 2-4 hours. And my last option is just to forget about everything for a day, not to worry about anything and chill with friends or sleep. I leave tomorrow's problem tomorrow.
    About earning, try joining communities or groups in different social media. There you'll find many people struggling and chilling. Nothing is too hard if you decide today to do it.
    Find happiness in small things(this line helped me a lot when I really came to know what it means).
    And don't forget, there always some alternatives, try those and keep on trying even if you fail. You will learn and grow.
     
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    Have you ever heard about microdosing? If not, do some research about it. People experience amazing results and there are legal varients of the substance needed.
     
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    If he had Vucic as president I'm sure he would be cured of that depression in no time ! hahaha, sta je tu je :)
    Joke aside, as everybody here pointed out, money doesn't buy happiness , it makes you feel a bit better and it kinda masks it but deep down if u are depressed you will be depressed with or without money.
    Changing some key things in life should help with that as I've been told, new place, new girlfriend, anything that's not monotonous. Live, laugh, love.
     
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    In my tier 1 country: 1liter coke = 1,5€ =1,7$, 1 hamburger = 3,4$, box of tobacco ~ 8$, .... Not trying to say that you earn much for your prices but why would you say your prices are the same as in tier 1 countries?
     
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    i shouldn't talk about that stuff like alcohol,tobaccos and coke...the prices will vary. but i wanted to say,all the other things have the same prices or even higher. we are in deep shit here. we have mc donalds here,that sort of hamburger is also 3,4$ i think. where u live and how much sallary? Uk,France?
     
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    I live in Austria and ye sI also used the Mcdonalds Hamburger price, but it's liekt he cheapest out here. Salary is about 2k/month on average for the ppl here so yes we have an advantage over your country.

    But remember there are methods on how to earn with 0 budget - I for example started my internet businees with 0$ at age 12 ;)
     
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    Why waste your money on garbage like coke, burgers cigarettes? With that money you can buy products and make meals to survive the day.
     
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    @Daddykins, if you have a blog/vlog/channel, I need to subscribe and follow. And 50% of human mankind also.
     
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    Ha, thanks for your kind words. I'm all about self improvement and have been in bad places before. I try to give advice when I see questions like this, but don't see myself as a Youtuber. Though maybe in the future I'd consider it.



    To piggyback off your comment and add another helpful tip for anyone reading this. If you have anxiety, obsessive thoughts, OCD, etc. I suggesting checking into Claire Weekes. She teaches learning why you feel a certain way, and to learn to accept these thoughts/anxious feelings. She's referred to a lot in CBT / anxiety help books. She has an interview on Youtube (google her name then interview and it should come up), that will help you a bit.
     
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