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What I learned From BHW: Some Insight From A Relatively Lazy Lad

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Elin Dotsya, May 7, 2017.

  1. Elin Dotsya

    Elin Dotsya Junior Member

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    Before BlackHatWorld, I was in a state of perpetual negativity. I couldn't see past my window, and not just because it was covered with foil and tape. I mean, seemingly nothing interested me. No matter what I did I just couldn't shake that feeling of having no purpose in life other than whatever it was that my religious upbringing taught me. Everything I did felt meaningless and essentially arbitrary.

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    Meet Umaru Doma.
    Umaru or Umar or Umr is Semitic for "Life". Doma is Cyrillic for "at home".
    In essence, Umaru = the meaning of life.​

    I won't go into a long existential rant about the purpose of life and whatnot. I'm simply going to talk about the conclusions I have reached regarding Internet Marketing and how it has affected my daily life.

    Everything that you read here on BHW will have an impact in other areas of your life.

    Here's a pretty big one that I learned - The more you fail, the closer you will be to success.

    It sounds rather paradoxical but it's actually quite brilliant when you understand the important bit: The fear of failure becomes less severe the more it happens to you, driving you to brush it off and continue doing whatever it is that you were doing.

    I have failed ALOT in IM by now. I have come close to quitting so many times that I could publish an open diary about it. While I haven't found success in my ventures, my experience here led me to have some success in other areas that I used to neglect, such as doing paid survey sites. I used to think to myself "meh, they'll probably not pay me after I waste my time on these sites". Thanks to BHW, I now do not care and simply see it as another opportunity to try new things and see if they work.

    BHW shaped my mind to think ahead. Instead of just doing 1 thing I am in the process of working on 10 different areas of online work. That's one of the keys to success - You never know what new opportunity might arise, so don't take it for granted.

    I was so focused on trying to make it big from the start that I completely ignored the fact that the journey itself is built by the little things. I realized how incredibly easy it actually is to make money by making some here and there. It all adds up if you do it brick by brick.

    Nobody can show you how to become successful, you have to get there yourself.
    This one was a pain in the ass to learn (and accept) because in your mind you want someone to spoonfeed you and hold your hand so that you don't fuck up. Many people come to BHW thinking they'll just copy/paste whatever methods they find and make it big. LOL. Sorry, but that's just not how it works.

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    Don't even think about becoming rich/wealthy/successful if you are not mentally prepared for the vicious journey to get there. You will fail and fail and fail. It doesn't matter how smart you think you are because it will beat you down. If you truly wish to continue in the "IM game" then you must have a will of steel. Look at your many failures as stepping stones and use them to get to the top.

    Believe me when I say that you will not be able to make a single dime from any of the countless methods if you don't test them for yourself and try different approaches. Even if you still continue to fail at least you'll learn how things work and apply them in other areas of your life.

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    Personally, I hate the marketing aspect of BHW because to me it feels like lying and deception. I was so close to quitting but I eventually found a compromise without fully investing my time in writing BS to people just to make a sale. I pretty much closed down my main niche site and began focusing on "micro jobs" that I could do for individuals without advertising. There are many sites out there that don't require you to hold up a sign saying "pick me! Pick MEEE!!!".

    Remember, there's no set way to make money online.
    Nevermind what those smartass gurus tell you and even BHW members might be biased towards one area over another. It's all up to you what you want to do and how you want to get there. Just because people do Facebook ads or Instagram + OGads doesn't mean that it will be for you or that you will even enjoy it.

    I may not be rich but as long as I'm doing what I enjoy - I'm happy. Dudes/dudettes... you have no idea what kind of life I'm living, lol. What do you really want in life? A car... a house... a spouse?

    See... for me the most necessary things are my comfort and freedom. I just want to be happy in this reality without concerning myself with most things that people sweat every day for.

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    I work whenever I want. I pretty much do whatever I want (nothing illegal, of course). I still get by because I don't have many expenses and liabilities. I don't even have many expectations from life as of right now. The two things I want most in terms of materialistic needs is a new computer and to fix up the house to make it look nice and pretty. That's pretty much it.

    There's no desire for a new car, for expensive clothes or even to look for a way to woo someone. Lord knows that I'm an introvert who doesn't really want much interaction with people other than talking to a store clerk or banker when I go shopping, paying my bills, etc.

    Final note:
    Do what you love, not what you think society expects you to do.
    You might find yourself thinking from time to time that you have no passion and life and that you should go looking for it. Here's something to think about: You don't find passion, you create it.

    It's all on you, now go out there and succeed. ;)

    P.S. I feel like these things should be stickied and put into the making money section.
     
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  2. Rυѕh

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    Pretty nice thread OP. I'm new here and I can understand what you've written, thank you.
     
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    nice Op I wanted to read but I kept staring at the nice gifs
     
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    This post reminds me of a quote by Peter Thiel (founder of Paypal)

    "I think failure is massively overrated,"
    ~Peter Thiel

    "I think people actually do not learn very much from failure."
    ~Peter Thiel

    And I think in a sense it is and we don't. We hear so much shit about how important failure is and sure it can be beneficial *to an extent* but there comes a point where you're just wasting time failing.
     
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  6. radiant13

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    Those are some very inspirational words you put down, op. You've certainly gotten way more out of BHW than most. Sounds like it's helped you reached a good place in your life, good for you.
    The first big one that you learned is like what Babe Ruth said "Every strike brings me closer to the next home run."
    Wish you much success and happiness, you deserve it.
     
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    Might I ask your age? Teens, Twenties?
     
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    Nice to see a balanced look at how BHW can help people.
     
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    Seems like you have discovered the importance of having a process and having the ability to refine it over and over again, take massive action is another thing I learned and like you said be open to try new methods because you never know what will start earning or what you can apply to an existing method.
     
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  11. Elin Dotsya

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    I like cheeky titles. I have done a fair share of 100 hour work weeks but I still consider myself a lazy person. The type of lazy person who will find ways to do things in a way that require me to take less steps than the average person would.

    The sooner you accept failure as part of success, the easier it will be to get back up and keep going. I wonder how many times Peter Thiel failed before making it big with PayPal, lol.

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    I'm in my late 20s. Basically, young enough to still want to travel the world but old enough to know that there's no place like home, lol.
     
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    Loved the "5 star thread" tag. :D
     
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    We do learn and a lot, I wouldn't be were I'm at now if I'd never failed. It's painful but if learn from it, you'll succeed. The problem is when you fail and do nothing about it. One has to learn from failures.
     
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    post-data: this thread should be "cow"-ed to another subforum, perhaps to the "making money" one.
     
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  15. Turhan

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    You should learn from failure but you shouldn't be content with failure. If you're always extremely comfortable with failing then you won't have much of a drive to change.
    Would you feel you had a fulfilled life if you failed at everything you did? NO, you wouldn't. There has to be an end to all that failing but if you're so fucking comfortable with failing then there probably won't be.

    Failure is extremely overrated because all the people with booboos from all their failure just want to feel better about themselves and want to believe all that time and effort didn't go to waste but instead taught them shit.
    I'm sorry but this isn't true.

    I'd love to hear about your failures and what you learned from them.
    Then I want you to ask yourself
    Was the amount of money and time I wasted worth the lessons I learned?

    I just want to be a little realistic and stop kissing people ass's with this "failure is important" bullshit to make them feel better
     
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    Of course, I'm yet to find someone who is content/comfortable at failing or whose main goal is to fail, that's beyond ridiculous. It's not that people look for failure, failure is natural and unavoidable, it will always come. Instead of fearing it and making everything to avoid it, just analyse it, learn from it so the next time you won't fail or fail less. Eventually you'll barely fail or know how to gracefully handle it.
     
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    I'm glad you finally found your succes in Im :) keep going!
     
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  18. Turhan

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    I strongly disagree with this and I'm sure any other rational person would as well.
    You're basically saying we shouldn't avoid failing but instead try to fail.....

    Anyways I gotta get back to work. I'd love to see you post a journey so I can keep track of all your failures ;)
     
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    Are you kidding me? It's not black or white. What I meant is, the problem is when people stop making important decisions such as introducing innovations or exploring new areas in fear of failure. Of course we all try to avoid it, the difference is the level of avoidance. I'm basically saying people should try to succeed and not be fearful of failure if they encounter it on their way.

    And yeah, even though you're being sarcastic, you should check out other people's journeys so you learn from their failures, what didn't work and how to overcome them. You'll be much more prepared than you're now.
     
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  20. opiosko

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    Inspiring!
    Unfortunately, I hate failure (especially failing someone). Of course, I understand the essence of learning from mistakes, and it could sometimes be the best teacher. But there is this line of thought that perpetually haunt me like crazy....
    "Learning from your failure is experience while learning from the failure of others is wisdom."
    I would choose wisdom over experience any day.
    ....But what do I even know?o_O:confused:
     
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