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This is VERY personal and I hope you can help

Discussion in 'Blogging' started by dextor1372, Sep 2, 2008.

  1. dextor1372

    dextor1372 Regular Member

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    Without going into GREAT detail, my son passed away at the age of 15months in May this year. He has a wordpress blog that we used to show photos and also collect goodbye messages from friends and families that where laid to rest with him (we have family spread ALL over the world that could not make the service)

    I have done alot of tweaks and mods to the blog but somehow EVERY hour to two I keep getting new comments from spammers and its to the point that I want to kill someone. Its extremely disrespectful and I HOPE that no one here has this site on their blog spam list

    the address is
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    www.tylerwhittingham.com
    
    Here is the kinda sh*t I get

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    Author     Kelvin Moses
    E-mail     [email protected]
    URL     http://mvxufvbfq.com
    Comment     neuropter urethrostenosis capot malcultivation tudel deorsumversion ammoniticone repurchaser <a href="http://ijwzgpgpzv.com" rel="nofollow">aftiowq ssfqnk</a> http://scuzirzdoben.com <a href="http://yzwywetabqgj.com" rel="nofollow">nbhkc tdcr</a> http://seuogrp.com <a href="http://qbhycqsq.com" rel="nofollow">jcoqxrz esofudrn</a> http://jrzsehoteicq.com <a href="http://ojviqecvd.com" rel="nofollow">sltrcqq oheclkh</a> http://wvhhfw.com
    As I say, hope that non of the blog spammers on BHW are posting on this site and if you are, you dont have to say anything but if you are please remove this url for your list if you can.

    To anyone else, what else can I do to stop this from happening, its extremely painfull to see our son's memorial site being abused in this way.

    Any help would be great, thanks in advance

    Jamie
     
  2. justAIMe

    justAIMe Junior Member

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    Moderate all comments and find a good spam plugin to install.

    Sorry for your loss.
     
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  3. davidson

    davidson Registered Member

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    Jamie,

    Three years ago my son died after living only 32 hours. I quickly created a website to tell his story and found the exact same thing you did. Spammers would start adding inappropriate comments. I was able to deal with it quickly by deleting the comments from the database and installing a couple of pieces of software that helped to filter out auto-spamming. I still get some from time to time and it drives my wife crazy - just as I am sure it does to you - and so I am constantly trying to make my system a little better. I've found that someone who would do this is not respectful of anything.

    Unfortunately, I did not use WordPress to create my son's site so I am not familiar with all the tools that are available. I did, however, find this information about how to prevent some of the spamming on a WordPress blog. I think if you implement a few of these strategies you might cut down on the number of posts. Keep reading up on the subject and implementing ideas and you will eventually make it too difficult for them to continue.

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    http://codex.wordpress.org/Combating_Comment_Spam
    Hope that helps a little. PM me if you want. My wife runs a support group for families that have suffered infant loss. Won't post the address here, but if you need someone to talk to, I'll hook you up.

    Charles
     
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  4. dextor1372

    dextor1372 Regular Member

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    thanks for the info guys
     
  5. deth_by_uv

    deth_by_uv Power Member

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    Man, all I can say is that people will prey upon 'mitigating circumstances' and perhaps you could run a keyword analysis of your blog and see if there is a certain term or phrase that is being posted by your true family and friends that spammers are unwittingly hitting upon...

    Perhaps that is what is triggering the spam...I don't defend the act or marketing process...just trying to see if you could spot a pattern to what is causing such actions?...

    Then you could perhaps tweak your security upon what you do find that is causing the spam...then take reactionary and preventative measures against such infractions...

    Once again, sorry for the loss, I have a young child and can't imagine going through a situation like that...
     
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    themagician Regular Member

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    '...There are some quick-tempered people here but I doubt anyone would be so incompassionate as to spam your website while you grieve.

    Added to that, and I mean no disrespect, we tend to be a very busy lot and there aren't enough hours in the day to waste time being disrespectful to a grieving parent.

    Sorry for your loss'.

    themagician
     
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    Sorry for both of your losses.
     
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  8. eastado

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    sorry for your loss.
     
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    Sorry for both of your losses, i have loss my son was just 2 day old i can feel the pain. but you know guys the life is like that.
     
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    More than likely it is being done by software. More than likely looking for ******** tags, You can start by changing them.

    It sucks, and I would guess that whoever is doing it, has no idea of the content on the site or would pass it by. So when you get the comments think of it as a robot that put it there, one that is not working correctly.

    I can immagine it would be hard, and dont know how I would handle the loss of my daughter.

    But I dont think you will ever get around the comments completely, But approve all your comments from now on, and hit delete.
     
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  11. dextor1372

    dextor1372 Regular Member

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    thanks again for the help guys, i am sure its a robot, i don't think anyone does that by hand anymore do they lol.

    Its just a matter for more tweaks, its odd, I hit the spam instead of delete buton in WP all the time but does that actaully work? I have my API key from wordpress.com installed and working but dont actualy see the spam part working that much , if any.
     
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    Sorry for your loss dextor.
     
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  13. zebrahat

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    Adding submitting a turing number in order to post ought to stop the spam cold. I'm sure there are CAPTCHA scripts available for non-WP blogs that can be incorporated into your site, just keep looking around. Sorry for your loss and troubles.
     
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    Sorry for your loss. :(

    In response to your issue, as already suggested, make sure you have the Akismet plugin active. Adding a captcha would be good as well, along with making the comments needing moderation before being published.

    One of the biggest things though, is keeping your wordpress up to date with the current release. If you have an older version, it gets hit with the exploits the new version fixes.
     
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    One of the best anti-spam plugins is called WP Spam Free. Google it and you can install it on the blog.

    It's a strong one but all normal human comments get through easily.
     
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    Go to wordpress dot com and join you will get a Akismet key, go to the wordpress plugin on your blog, its almost always is already included, activate the Akismet plugin with the key.. This almost completely eliminated all of the spam from my wordpress blog
     
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    Life can be so unfair not giving everyone an honest share.

    A thread like this puts you back in perspective.
    I take it for granted being here, should realise more that every day on this earth is a gift.
     
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  18. bhnoobz

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    I would enable moderation of comments. Simple enough fix, no need to mess with extra plugins that can be defeated. I wouldn't take it personally, your blog got spidered, indexed and showed up in results. The results are abused by software that many people on here use. It's not as if someone was feeling rather vengeful and wanted to spam your blog.
     
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  19. AWG123

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    I am sorry for your loss. As far as spam goes. In your comments tab you will see a Askimet plugin. Register for this key. This should do the trick.
     
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    I know that it was not done of purpose, its just software and I dont know if the software they use can exclude url's they set, like exclude their own blogs etc

    thanks for all the helpful comments and kind wish's, i have onlybeen on this board for a little over a week and its nice to find a online community that still knows where to find their heart.