There's no better fuel for a man than COMPETITION.

It seems that people nowadays deal with competition or competitive people as a mental problem. Something like a crazy obsessive behavior to put others people down, something inherently egoistic.
People have also created names for competitive people like "workaholic", "obsessive", "megalomaniac" and things like that. But I never get it what's the problem.
Why it's so wrong to go hard to reach your goals?

I believe that when people are lazy, don't have a goal or don't believe it's possible to reach their goal and see someone waking up early everyday and working hard this makes the lazy guy feels bad about himself.

This remembers him that he could be doing the same if he really want it. That all obstacles that he believe that are preventing him to reach their goal are absolutely bullshit and in fact he simply doesn't want to do some hard work

However it's hard for people to face the reality and start grinding as well. It's much more easy to label the hard worker as a sick egoistic man that is obsessive about work. Even when all society support this mindset based on absolute envy and laziness.

Don't let that slow you. If someone is telling you that you are working too much on your dream, don't tell nothing. Just work 2x harder than before to make sure he knows that you don't give a sh**t

Awesome post.

my wife always say this....you nailed it

B00m this guy gets it #workaholic bro. Lets grind even harder this year!

Workaholic is not the same as being competitive.

This is more of focus and hardwork and not getting affected by distractions

kretchi said:

People have also created names for competitive people like megalomaniac and things like that.

as a sick egoistic man that is obsessive

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Abah moses said:

my wife always say this....you nailed it

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My therapist always says this too, it sucks.

I remember when I was training brazilian jiu jitsu everyday that I had a training partner that was absolutely crushing me every training. His guard passing techniques were too much good for me and I didn't had a clue how to stop him. After some time watching videos about how to stop his technique, I tried on training and it worked really well. So it was my turn to crush him

Then he did the same and learned another technique to beat me, then I did the same as well and so on...
After a 1 year doing that we were incredibly better than all other guys in the gym.

Now imagine if when he crushed me the first time I got upset and start talking/bitching about him to the other training partners about how aggressive and crazy he is. I would not have evolved at all.

See I'm pretty young - I'm 21 and I had to go through a lot of this from friends, family and even my girlfriend.
Pretty much anyone who like bitched about me not being able to go to an event such as a wedding because I'm working - I cut them off.
I even cut off a family member for this.

I feel like being a workaholic is the fastest way to hit your goals.
and I feel like too many people bash it.

You can't change people's opinion - so what you can do to maintain your focus?
Cut them the fuck off.

I'm now 21 and really successful for my age with no college degree - no pressure from people that don't have the same vision from me.
I have my parents, my siblings and my girlfriend and that's all I need.

I feel like when you cut off all those people bringing you down or steering you away you don't even think about anything other than your goals.

In all seriousness people will call you stuff like this until you're rich, then they will STFU.

ChesterF said:

In all seriousness people will call you stuff like this until you're rich, then they will STFU.

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This is actually true. I'm not like a multi-millionaire but doing really well and have old friends hit me up and wish me congrats and say "we should hang out sometime" I leave them on read. If you aren't with me when I was down - don't hit me up when I'm up you know.

I'm 25 and I have woraholic attitude too, inherited from my mother who projects her unrealized potential on me.

This holiday I realized that working all the time, I'm blowing away my youth - no life experiences.

So this year, I'll take a balanced approach - time for work and time for people.

Work can always wait you but life won't.

imbveej said:

B00m this guy gets it #workaholic bro. Lets grind even harder this year!

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That's the spirit!

ExperimentalSEO said:

Workaholic is not the same as being competitive.

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Not all workaholic are competitive, but all competitive are workaholic.

Goddissee said:

See I'm pretty young - I'm 21 and I had to go through a lot of this from friends, family and even my girlfriend.
Pretty much anyone who like bitched about me not being able to go to an event such as a wedding because I'm working - I cut them off.
I even cut off a family member for this.

I feel like being a workaholic is the fastest way to hit your goals.
and I feel like too many people bash it.

You can't change people's opinion - so what you can do to maintain your focus?
Cut them the fuck off.

I'm now 21 and really successful for my age with no college degree - no pressure from people that don't have the same vision from me.
I have my parents, my siblings and my girlfriend and that's all I need.

I feel like when you cut off all those people bringing you down or steering you away you don't even think about anything other than your goals.

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I believe expand our social circle is inherently something good, the thing is: who are the people you will let in?

There's people that are lazy and envy and also there's people that are focused and hard worker. You just need to choose the right ones. When you're surrounded by people that think the same way you think you will feel more stronger and motivated than ever before. That's my honest opinion.

kretchi said:

That's the spirit!
There's people that are lazy and envy and also there's people that are focused and hard worker. You just need to choose the right ones. When you're surrounded by people that think the same way you think you will feel more stronger and motivated than ever before. That's my honest opinion.

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Deep - I need to try to let more people like me in my circle I guess.
I just feel like most people are trying to use me - I'm unsure how to explain it - might just be paranoid.
Would be cool to have a beer and talk about projects xD

Goddissee said:

Deep - I need to try to let more people like me in my circle I guess.
I just feel like most people are trying to use me - I'm unsure how to explain it - might just be paranoid.
Would be cool to have a beer and talk about projects xD

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My friends are cool but they don't understand shit about SEO, link building or things like that. When we have a beer together sometimes I try to explain all the stuff but they never get it, just the general idea.
But they support me on my ventures and don't tell that I'm working too much, they understand well how I think and what I'm doing. So it's okay for me. However have friends that does the same thing would be amazing.

I’m gonna go against the grain of this self-righteous circle jerk.

Competition and being competitive is fucking stupid.

You’re working yourself to the bone because you want to be better than someone else.

I’m not going to applaud anyone for that.

You want my respect? Do it because it’s something you believe in.

Work yourself to the bone to create opportunities for others and change the world.

edit: And why does everyone think it’s okay to cut people out of your life at the drop of a feather because they “didn’t believe in you”.

Is your ego seriously that fragile that you can’t handle hearing anything contradictory to your opinion.

That’s pathetic.

Real mother fuckers just shrug it off—not get their period pad all twisted up.

tf.

ChesterF said:

In all seriousness people will call you stuff like this until you're rich, then they will STFU.

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Nope. They actually say, “you need to stop working so much you’re already successful.”

Daggermouthx said:

Competition and being competitive is fucking stupid.

You’re working yourself to the bone because you want to be better than someone else.

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If the person you have overcome before approach the situation like a man and tries to learn from you and then overcome you also, you both will benefit from the competition. You both will evolve.

Maybe you see competition as something egoistic because you act egoistic when you compete with someone and believe everybody is like you

Something for you to think.

kretchi said:

If the person you have overcome before approach the situation like a man and tries to learn from you and then overcome you also, you both will benefit from the competition. You both will evolve.

Maybe you see competition as something egoistic because you act egoistic when you compete with someone and believe everybody is like you

Something for you to think.

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Nice, bro.

Through one ear and right out the other.

Nah.

At the end of the day, everyone knows you let this shit get to you, because you wrote a post gloating about you don’t let people’s negativity affect you.

You just deflect it on them without doing any real introspection.

On God, you ain’t fooling anyone my dude.

You youngins think everyone’s against you.

You work so hard to prove them wrong.

But in reality, their opinions never fucking mattered.

Quit chasing people’s approval and just do your own thing.

kretchi said:

That's the spirit!



Not all workaholic are competitive, but all competitive are workaholic.



I believe expand our social circle is inherently something good, the thing is: who are the people you will let in?

There's people that are lazy and envy and also there's people that are focused and hard worker. You just need to choose the right ones. When you're surrounded by people that think the same way you think you will feel more stronger and motivated than ever before. That's my honest opinion.

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Competitive people still have time for their family and friends, workaholics don't care about their friends and family.

The competition is what keeps me motivated