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the REAL reason for NOT making money is your psychology???

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Jaykub, Jul 12, 2012.

  1. Jaykub

    Jaykub Power Member

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    hey guys, hello hello..

    the marketing niche and scene is really really interesting to me! especially places like blackhatworld und such, there are soooo many ressources, techniques, methods on how to make money which actually should work (and probably does till today coz if u ask the big ballers they all are using methods we think they are "outdated")..

    i for myself have found WHAT is actually going on here,,...i can talk from MY point of view -> the REAL reason why i haven't made great amount of money was NOT because of lack of methods (although it is important to have a really good action plan with your own ideas to really make things happen!) but rather because of MY-SELF.

    uuuh great epiphany isnt it?

    i'm in some sort of program which deals with these things...so i'm talking from a place with ressources which are actually true and valuable (I'm not pulling this information from my ass thats what i basically am saying).

    what do i mean exactly by "I'M/YOU ARE THE REASON FOR NOT MAKING MONEY"?

    pretty simple: a really great part of the marketing scene is NOT making money so i THINK i can make a generelized "statement" that MOST OF THE GUYS ARE SABOTAGING THEMSELVES. SUCCESS BARRIERS. now it's kinda more obvious what i wanted to talk about right?

    MHH success barrierer...sabotaging...what big words ..

    look guys, there are SO many sabotaging mechanisms, deep subconscious running "programs" hindering you from making $$$. This is a really quick test: If you have tried a bunch of methods, are in the scene for about 6 months and STILL haven't made ANY money then the probability is really high that something IN YOUR SELF is HINDERING you from success most probably without U even knowing it!

    one of the MOST familiar sabotaging mechanisms is for instance: PROCRASTINATION. not even starting oder not really taking action. this is one of them and there are much others..

    what could be the reasons for not even starting? fear of success, fear of failure, fear of what other people may think of you, thinking that "I'm not ready tos tart this yet", "Internet markeitng is great and i DONT deserve to get rich through the internet" all those kinda stuff (and i'm not kidding coz i have found myself in some of these things...unfortunately..maybe some of them matches to you as well ...who knows)

    since i GOT that the marketing game is running much better! i CAN actually now take action i am NOT blocking myself anymore (have been working on my inner psychology as well as my plan to make money) and now i'm actually having fun in the process of making money, even my parents trust in me now (after telling them my plan on how i want to make money and u guys gotta know my parents are REALLY sceptical)..



    ok wow, this is a really long posting but to put it in a nutshell->

    u guys HAVE to find out what is REALLY blocking you (internal) from having success (and taking action)!! Then after finding it out SOLVE IT FIRST coz otherwise you will be CONSTANTLY sabotaging yourself ....after having this shit done you will find yourself actually doing something till you GET success ..so success will be inevitable (what a great sentcence right?)


    sorry guys i had to write that down coz it feels right and i think there are some guys here having the same problem as my old self :)
     
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  2. ardvark

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    I totally agree with this post. I am currently reading a book called 'The Power Of Now' and it covers alot of what you mentioned. Too many people either are looking too much into the future or the past, and not living in the 'Now'. People might start a project, but fear of failure, or 'I havent made any cash before' so i don't think this will work either' attitude stops them. Do what you can 'Now' to map out your future.
     
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  3. Jaykub

    Jaykub Power Member

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    hehe yeah i know this book, its by eckart tolle and downloadable on the internet ;) it does like you said the only thing is it needs patience and practice but is worth it :) (am practicing it here and then hehe)
     
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    Yeah, it's a great book, and when you are reading it, you realise that you really are living too much in the future or past. Good luck in your marketing ventures mate :)
     
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  5. Aluxian

    Aluxian Newbie

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    "Success will be inevitable", I love this sentence!
     
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  6. deviatus

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    I know people who procrastinate so much that they only work 1 day a week, and they make more than a lot of people who work 24/7 and have great work ethic...

    That's because they are intelligent and creative, and the people working all the time that make little-to-nothing aren't.

    It's not usually about psychology or mindset or attitude, it's about your innate abilities.
     
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  7. Jaykub

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    while this may be true i've written my post for the general masses on here who may not be all "geniuses" etc.

    on the other hand tho it doesn't matter how creative and intelligent you are, if you are sabotaging yourself on a deep subconscious level there will be no way u will make money no matter how great your ideas are ;) intelligence doesn't mean that you wont be sabotaging yourself , right? ;)
     
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  8. deviatus

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    I never really bought the self-sabotage thing.

    Sure, maybe the college kid who does 4 years of work but neglects his very last paper and doesn't get to graduate is self-sabotaging himself.

    But in the world of IM, with a lot of these people desperately needing money... you'd be hard pressed to find many people who would be uncomfortable with making enough money to be comfortable.

    What you might see as self-sabotage is just good old fashion procrastination and laziness, though they still want success on a deep level. And only the intelligent/creative can procrastinate and still have success. But if that IMer has kids and needs to make rent, he'll get off his ass.
     
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    Thanks, I just downloaded that and am reading it now.
     
  10. Jaykub

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    it's a great book but keep in mind that it can take a bit of time to make the things from that book happen...i can sum it up:

    you have to be in the NOW. whenever you get "in your head" and start thinking about what can possibly go wrong just focus and come back to the NOW. how do you do that? if you are doing something FOCUS on it ..feel the sensations, hear what you hear and see what you see.

    for instance- when u r writing an article and you think "oh no this is gonna be so shitty and it isn't going anywhere" just STOP THINKING what u've been thinking and focus on the reality: look at your laptop, feel the keyboard etc. if that makes any sense to you

    on the other hand there are IN MY OPINION easier ways to achieve that instead of training that "be in the now" thing for years to become some kinda zen u know hehe
     
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  11. Raevinn

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    I agree with the OP, but how do you solve this issue?
     
  12. Jaykub

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    going to write some of the stuff in here in a few days :)
     
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    I'd have to say that the problem for most folks going into this career is taking action. Information overload is also a big success barrier because you can't stick with one method and in turn always go for the shotgun approach of doing everything you read about in little amounts hoping for success when inevitability it will make you more discouraged if you fail. In my book that's not working smarter.

    People tend to give up when they feel they have put so much energy into something and never reap the rewards.

    Now for talented people that are creative and plain genius then yeah it comes easier but they still put forth some kind of effort which is the main factor to success in any situation. Consider every day you procrastinate as money lost and never settle for just enough because as we have seen nothing is guaranteed forever. Google will smack your site or an affiliate program you were banking with might shut down. It takes what you learn from failures to continue on in this field , so assess what failures such as not taking action are affecting you NOW and develop your mindset for future success.
     
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    I'd like to think that the self-sabotaging thing isn't in me but recently when people have called me regarding my business (even though it's what I've been wanting all along), I make excuses not to call them: what will I say, what if, what if, what if. And on a couple of occasions didn't call them back. One would have been for a client taht was totally out of my league. Rather than telling her that upfront, I just ignored it. Self-sabotaging? Yes. Did I like it? No way.

    I think it has to do with my mother always telling me I wasn't "mechanically inclined" like my brother. Over and over again. Can you get beyond it? Of course but it takes concerted effort.
     
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    ain't that the truth
     
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    the real reason is motivation/drive AND the fact you're fucking unskilled
     
  17. hi.imandrew

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    I agree you can self-sabotage yourself; and there are many ways to do it. Procrastination, laziness, giving up to soon -- actually giving up at all, but I would argue that the biggest reason for failure, you haven't made your idea your life.



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  18. imserious

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    So, you think nothing like this actually exists and the only reason people can not make money is coz they are undkilled.

    Have you ever seen a depressed person?

    I guess not, coz then you will come to realize that success or failure is much more than a simple function of motivation and skills.

     
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    Depends on his definition of skill..

     
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  20. narfunk

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    I've read before (and possibly seen a video) about Ralph Ruckman from IMGrind preach about "getting shit done". Very simple, but something we forget about sometimes. I say that to myself a lot if I'm just sitting around not doing anything productive. Sure, sometimes we all need downtime, but if I know I should be doing something I always kinda tell myself to start "getting shit done". Anything's gonna be better than sitting on my ass.