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The Destruction of a Noob

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by noob411, Oct 1, 2009.

  1. noob411

    noob411 Junior Member

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    Well not fully, but wow. I thought I would post this here cuz most of us here are here to better ourselves, so then I wonder wtf did I do in my last life? I am literally cursed here, I don't know how to reverse it, its not about money its about life. You all used to see me tons here. But lately my life has been falling apart, I was pregnant not no more, I had a horrible miscarriage that resulted in me having a blood transfusion almost dying literally I felt the first time what it feels like to have the life sucked out of you......then 2 weeks later cuz my happy ass has no insurance getting a bill for $19000.-- for my one night in the hospital....my husband can not work right now my mother wants to move and I have to work outside the house now and I am literally working from 9am to 7:45pm 6 days a week..... I had a very "abnormal pap smear" and the doc said that from a scale of 1 to 10 1 being nothing and 10 being OMG your really fuckking sick i am at a 9. WHAT THE FUCK IS HAPPENING!!!!!!! Thanks for letting me let go I am so fucking tired now it is pathetic. You rock
     
  2. theadultsplayground

    theadultsplayground BANNED BANNED

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    Wow, its true that someone always has it worse. I am one that believes in the "Law of Attraction". Think positive and things will turn around.
     
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  3. JasonG

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    I am sorry to hear about all the unfortunate stuff - hang in there though, I feel like BHW is sorta my online family, so we're here for ya!
     
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    Do some good things to others, luck will come to you :)
     
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    none of ur fr#$%ing biz dude!!!
    I'm sorry to hear about your bad luck run.
    For what it's worth, it's true that thoughts can change your life.
    I won't get into details, but I was pretty fuck up 20 years ago. Sometimes it surprises me that I'm still around.
    I read some of your earlier post. You're a strong one, I know you'll get through.

    PM sent with a personal suggestion.
     
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    redtide1969 BANNED BANNED Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    So sorry to hear about all that has happened recently, I really respect your strength. I will keep you in my thoughts until you get well noob411.

    Your friend,

    Redtide
     
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  7. taberdude2

    taberdude2 Junior Member

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    I just want to say, I'm sorry for the crazy crap thats happening to you. Like
    theadultsplayground said "Remain positive." I believe in LOA also. Though my beliefs have seriously been tested this week.:( Things will get better! Keep your chin up! My prayers sent to you.:)
     
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  8. noob411

    noob411 Junior Member

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    Thanks for all the support.... :D I will se e you all tonight. My day starts now...
     
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    Excellent advice here.

    You have to think positive no matter what and no matter how hard.

    I hope things turn around. I found BHW after my Dad died and a lot of bad stuff happened to me.

    Just be relentless in your positive mental attitude. There was a post about successful people not letting ANYTHING stop them in terms of personal barriers, circumstances I believe this is true. You get ppl in very bad situations who turn things round - poor, homeless, ppl doing amazing things etc.

    The logic is if you think positively positive things are more likely to happen to you. Things have been turning round for me recently as I never gave up. In a years time I should be in a better position than possibly I could have imagined.

    :)
     
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    carsonrathi Senior Member

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    Girl, if you are in so much problems, means your 'Golden Time' is on the way. Life is all about ups and downs. You are on 'down side' but soon be on peak. Work hard.
     
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    I agree with Crooker-- the most important thing right now is that you are still here and that is WONDERFUL and a true BLESSING. Getting a regular 9-5 yes it sucks, but it's the way that you are going to be able to support your family and heck, make some extra money so that you can put more into your IM that you maybe would not have had. Make a plan. One thing about IM is that it never really stops, open 24 hours so you can still put together income that you make online so that you can possibly stop working a 9-5. I wish you the best of luck and you will be in my prayers.
     
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    life can be hard from time to time , but as far as I experienced , after a very bad time comes the sunshine, so hang on , things will work out just fine
     
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    after the rain always follows the sun.
    so keep your head up and think, the more the rain, the warmer the sun...

    greets, darkstar69
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that
     
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  15. oblivion19

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    Hey,

    Such things do happen unfortunately to many of us. I guess thats why we should be thankful to God when we are just abt fine.

    Be brave. Money does not matter. Take care of your health first. Make sure you get back to 100% and then start working.

    You can make wealth only when you got good health..
     
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    Hi there

    One thing i would say is dont let others not pull their weight

    I spent years not saying anything for an easy life, now i dont take shit from anyone and will even take companies to court if they piss me off enough about things.

    I spent years in debt, ill health and being walked on, now i pull the strings and do what i want to do

    Dont know why ya hubby cant work, but unless its coz his legs are falling off etc, then tell him to get off his ass and get doing things, people can work from home, or do less physical stuff if needed.

    Tell ya mother that she can move when things are sorted out and to put up with it and get on with helping you.

    Alas ill health and miscarriages are unfortunately a lottery in who gets what, but i hope you recover and your tests end up being not so bad.

    Call in ya family and friends and get them to help, thats what they are there for, good times and bad.
     
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  17. silentthunder

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    Hi noob411,

    Your openess is the source of your strength so don't ever let it be the source of your weakness too because it's too beautiful. Here's another version of what darkstar said, it always darkest before the STARS come out so our question is When Are You Coming Out of The Dark? :)
    Sooner than you think...

    You did the right thing posting here if you listen to some of the good advice especially the part of never letting others leech off you and bring you down even if they're family and you love them. Also, this is the one that did it for me only make sure you balance it carefully with the leech thing. Help others in a worse situation than you. Not leeches though. Helping others who need it more than you makes you stronger, wiser and brings really good luck.

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  18. IcedCube

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    Damn. This is exactly what is wrong with people who believe in Karma and the Law of Attraction.

    As people like ShanedK have pointed out before, what you are basically saying is that whatever bad is happening now, is either because she did things that were horribly wrong or not good enough (Karma), or that she inflicted it upon herself by being negative (LoA).

    @OP: I do believe you are a good person, and I feel awful (if not awestruck) that these things are happening to you. But contrary to what people are saying here: shit happens. It's all chance, luck. If you work hard, you will get yourself out of this situation, and basing this statement upon what I've seen from you the past few months, you deserve to get out of this situation.

    I'd rather give my support than false hope. Maybe that's just me.

    I have recently lost a grandpa and a brother, my parents have neglected and abused me until I was old enough to live on my own, and I spent 3 years in an asylum.

    If you people are seriously saying that's because some people think too negative (because don't get me wrong, I love life) or are unkind or otherwise deserving of what they got, then my response is: grow some sense.
     
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  19. oblivion19

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    hey noob 411, we would like an update from ya..

    how are u doing now.. are u better?
     
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  20. LHaskins

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    Sounds like you are having a tough time, but you will get through it.

    As far as the hospital bill, they can wait.

    You could put your husband to work doing some online work like comment spamming, ewhore, making blogs, ect. You be the brains and let him do the grunt work, plenty of ideas in the money making section and in the download section. I nothing else, get signed up for clickbank, and have him start making blogger blogs that tie to CB products. Doesn't cost anything but time, which it sounds like your hubby has plenty of at the moment.

    Tell your parent she will have to wait to move unless she can figure a way to do it herself. Put her to work too if you can.

    As far as your health issues, You can PM me, and I'll give you some suggestions that might help, but I'll need more info than you would probably want to post on a public board. Make taking care of your health and nutrition your #1 priority right now. I know that's hard to even think about with all the other things going on in your life, but if your health fails, everything else fails along with it. All the other things (bills, job loss, ect) are temporary, failed health is not.

    Many people on this thread have told you to think positive, and a couple of people have told you it does not matter. It Does Matter! If you don't believe, try experimenting with it on a day by day basis. Positive thoughts give positive results and a attitude of gratitude is the most powerful of all. Get up each day and be grateful that you have been given one more day of life and think about the things you have to be grateful for, and don't dwell on the bad things in your life.

    Things Will Get Better, Just Hang In There! :)
     
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