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Teaching girlfriends about IM; a HIT or a MISS; more about it, inside

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Madruga, Sep 8, 2012.

  1. Madruga

    Madruga Senior Member

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    Well this is a complex question, because it should rely upon several (maybe critical) factors. But until I'll mention those, let's focus on the main question: Would you teach your girlfriend, how to bank with IM? Would you explain and spoon fed (or not) her in the first phases, how to bank in this world?

    Now your reply would be wrong (because I say so) if you would only answer directly to the question itself, but let's consider a few 'clauses':

    -you just hooked up with your girlfriend vs long term relationship
    -you live under the same roof with your gf vs you live each other at their own house vs long distance relationship (forever alone)
    -she doesn't care about what you do, as long as you make money vs she does care what you do and keeps bugging you off as long as you make money
    -same as above as long as you don't make money
    -she is annoyed by the fact that you spend a lot of time working in the front of computer (in her mind: he's just watching porn and makes money, God how?)
    -as I said above, you two live together and she is trying to learn (self desire)

    Now what are you going to do? Would you let her know all your secret recipes? On a second thought, even if you would, she won't understand it. Would you give her small tasks or some normal ones where she could do well? (like writing articles, using MVB software (not advertising, but giving an example of a no brainer/ on your indications), or some other stuff~

    I myself am set on a financial succesful career mindset, "disregard bitches, acquire currency", but you know that even the strongest, can fall in love and start think different (no? well say a statement, get yourself fucked up with drugs, then come back and say the same statement. Love is mental drug). Sure, it would be awesome if your gf maybe even wife would be your personal JV on everything you do, but.. (gf is risky no matter what, but wife, although there are risks like divorcing, we won't go there, but being in IM with your wife and banking good, I think that would be a dream for every IM-er, especially if the wife is good at what she does, someone like Marusia, the only girl from blackhatworld.com)

    Getting back to the topic, what would you say about teaching girlfriends about IM? I am sure that many of you don't talk in real society as much as the virtual world, about backlinks, seo, content lockers, PR, traffic, Panda/Penguin/Dinosaur and so on, so talking these things with your gf after a fantastic sex, would be more awesome than listen her superficial problems while you fall asleep exhausted. But there are risk too, right? You can brake up and who knows what might happen afterwards.

    My best advice is that if you will get into something like this, make that relationship very open minded. Like when you(if) broke up, still remain friends, and collaborate, in case the girl starts to walk good on the IM pedestal.

    Well, I'm drunk as fuck, but you guys are the only people on this world who would be able to answer correctly (no matter what you say) about this subject. So, would you teach you girlfriend the arts of Web Marketing?
     
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  2. DanTe_0101

    DanTe_0101 Senior Member

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    I don't have a GF(not kidding) :(
     
  3. привет

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    No I like my girlfriend out of the house at her day job, women in general (easy white knights) are not that great at technical things to begin with and don't have a strong desire to learn things on their own which is a much needed skill in IM.

    As far as setting up the whole machine as in for point A I'm looking for these results, I need to build xyz for point A, and then on point B I need to setup xyz to get X results, etc. Systems like that, are not for women, these are engineering tasks that men thrive in. If you want to be a successful internet marketer you need to be very analytical; study results, tweak, manage numbers, find weak points, improve, etc. This is not an ideal career for women.

    Now if you're just going to get her to write articles that's fine, women's strongest points are making emotional connections and that transcends well to writing. But that's really not getting them involved in internet marketing, you're just making them a professional writer.
     
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  4. Razvan

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    I've found my girlfriend a writing job for a bhw member :) , shes pretty good at it.
    and teaching her other stuff its time consuming

    girls and computers dont mix
     
  5. DanTe_0101

    DanTe_0101 Senior Member

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    i've got a job for my sis at fiverr lol
    and she's like
     
  6. Allnightlong

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    First of all, "disregard bitches, acquire currency" is a downright ridiculous attitude. The only people I hear saying those kind of things are semi-depressed "forever alone" guys that can't take care of themselves and have no idea how to handle women. Don't make yourself unhappy, don't go down that road. There are exceptions, I know a guy who is extremly successful and good looking, he is just not a relationship person. But even he admits that he'd feel lonley if he couldn't bang a girl or two on the weekends or have occasional short affairs (And boy does he get girls, believe me...).
    I know that may offend a few people here, but it is truth still. Humans are hard-coded to be social and to be with the opposite sex. I am not talking about disney style "true" love stories that last forever, but for every person there comes the time when they need a significant other in their lives. Money alone will not make you happy. Unless you are a sociopath.

    Don't get me wrong, I am perfectly fine with what other people choose to make of their lives and even if one is a sociopath, living alone in his cellar for 20 years, it does not mean that one can't be a nice person and it especially does not mean such a person would not make an excellent business partner.

    But I am drifting of. To your original question:

    I would not teach my girlfriend IM. She has a vague idea of what I am doing here because I tell her stuff every now and then, especially when I closed a great deal or an investment turned out to be very well.
    Me working alot is a problem every now and then, but she knows I love IM ( :D ) and it is okay. I also let her help me, she does write articles for me for example, but she never knows too much. :)
    I really don't see the benift of my girl being an "even" partner in that way, like a JV partner or sth. I don't want my relationship to interfere with my business and vice versa.

    I am not stupid, who knows how long this relationship is going to last. It have been 4 great years now, we are living together and everything is going great, but this stuff can turn really ugly. I was with my ex for almost 5 and things went batshit crazy when we broke up, she knew too much about my business and I was really afraid she might go talk BS to my clients or spoil secrets to a certain competitor.
    This is not a thing about trust. You never know what the future holds for you, just don't be naive. A wonderful person can change over time, I have seen it myself, and then you will want to be able to make a clean cut.

    IM is great, girls are great. They don't need to mix to be awesome. ;)


    Edit: Wow, I just read the beginning of my post again and it could be misunderstood - "hard-coded to be with the opposite sex" - that is not true if you are gay and I don't meant it that way, of course. To each their own.
     
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  7. Madruga

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    @allnightlong regarding my statement "disregard bicthes, acquire currency", well I didn't really referred to waht you said. Every peoson interprets such quotes in different meanings. My only thought was that I'd rather spend my time to get rich than on falling inlove, talking about nonsense stuff, broke up, find a new girl to fall in love, and repeat the whole story. Sure, it's nothing wrong in having a gf while being set to have a succesful, but I look upon friends of mine who spends HUGE amount of their time on their stupid relationships, arguing upon dumb subjects, discussing about insignificant stuff, and not even related to them.

    As for the rest of your post, you have my respect. But I can't comment too much because as I said, I'm quite drunk.
     
  8. Allnightlong

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    Yeah, being obsessed with women is also not the way to go, of course. And if I had to choose, Id rather stick to building an impressive business then to building an impressive list of exes. ;)
     
  9. dubious

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    My girlfriend isn't technically savvy for IM, she has maybe a 50/50 chance of being scammed with online shopping.
    I think she's too kind for IM, the idea of scraping thousands of targeted emails she is not exactly on board with, however she is entrepreneurial and all for buying stuff from China and selling it for a premium.

    We've discussed opening small business like selling jewellery from DH gate in our local shopping centre for a huge markup which she is cool with, but I doubt she'll be interested with CPA, backlinks, referrals etc.

    I (barely) tried for a few hours to let her know what I'm doing, but she isn't the personality type to jump into the IM game; she works hard.

    That said, in my former workplace our IM team were an outsourced husband and wife team who did manual comments and Whitehat SEO all day so if you happen to meet that kind of person, sure why not.
     
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    Teach her e-whoring.

    There is a huge market for that... a girl that understands men + CPA = $$$$$$$
     
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  11. captchadreams

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    +1 on teach her how to e-whore.

    just have her setup a few accounts on random social network accounts.. use a top 10 zip city or something.. and tell her just to flirt with dudes.. i'm sure she could last longer doing that then most dudes.. then after a couple days try and bate them in to an offer.

    I use to have a few girls that would get on the free webcam chats (tinycam,stickam) .. and just ask dudes while she was camming if they would fill out some offer for her cause it makes her money and she needs it for college or some bullshit.. and split profit with them.
     
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    ewhorin is the way to go if u r not a jealous person
     
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    To be honest, if you want your girlfriend to do internet marketing stuff, you'd be better off finding a girl who is already in internet marketing (or one who is very ambitious).

    I think IM is something that you have to really be dedicated in to succeed, you can't do it halfway (it's hard enough for a lot of people who work all the time at IM to make money) that if you aren't completely into it you will set yourself up to fail.

    There have definitely been times when I've been proven wrong, but I'd rather find a girl who was a go-getter from the beginning and already has a business she's working on.
     
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    My girlfriend writes decent articles and types way faster than I do.
     
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    My GF sucks at writing articles, but RULES at posting to social networks. So I just put her to work on pinterest and facebook for me and we're making some decent bank :D
     
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    I've got one on-going JV with my husband. I had to take his interests and figure out ways to market and monetize his expertise. We've tried a few different projects but there's only been one that has worked out. He loves it because I'm devoting myself to his passions. (HINT: Great for the relationship.) If you can do the same with your GF/wife then she will love that too.
     
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    Aww I got neg repped for being sexist.
    You just have to love people with humor :D
     
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    Yeah...
    i was planning to teach her how to solve captchas for money:)
     
  20. BlackxHat

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    its pretty goddamn simple, and i dont know why you make it so complicated. If you care about the person enough, then you'll help then as much as you can as long as it doesnt hurt you.