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Please don't make a generalization from a single case.
I've lost more non-dinking-non-smoking friends than those who do.
For me, smoking + pina colada, has gone well so far, and... I am not looking to die healthy.
Thread’s more about using unhealthy coping mechanisms and not talking out our minds than social drinking/smoking.
 

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Sorry for your loss. You have a really good point that men need to try and be more in touch with their feelings. It's not unmanly to feel. It's human. Escaping those feelings with substances is harmful for anyone.
 

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Sorry for your loss man, having alcohol, smoking and whatever is fine but one should know the limit.
 
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Sorry for your loss, brother. Hope all is well with you. If not, I’m always a PM away, bud.
 
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Please don't make a generalization from a single case.
I've lost more non-dinking-non-smoking friends than those who do.
For me, smoking + pina colada, has gone well so far, and... I am not looking to die healthy.
I just woke up from a dream where I did meth, rejected it and then I had cancer I could easily see and take that cancer out of my body cause it was open somehow.

Basically, cancer is inevitable as you age and you make it happen faster with cigs and alcohol.
 

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I remember I was in a bit of dark days, and @xReminisce and @Yes spotted it so this forum does help, but please use it responsibly. do not pester for how to earn and stuff.

lastly condolences to your friends family.
Hope you’re doing much better now dude. :)
Sorry for your loss. You have a really good point that men need to try and be more in touch with their feelings. It's not unmanly to feel. It's human. Escaping those feelings with substances is harmful for anyone.
Yes. You worded it better than me I guess.
 

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Sorry for your loss. You have a really good point that men need to try and be more in touch with their feelings. It's not unmanly to feel. It's human. Escaping those feelings with substances is harmful for anyone.
You got to kill it with music and some punching bags. :)

BTW, I heard of someone dying in my town a month ago. It was someone my sibling knew.

That guy had real issues and died at the age of 27. He was shoplifting beers, destroying cars, getting in extremely bad situations while high and he probably overdosed...

I'm not trying to say bad things about that person. It's just an example of what it can do to you.

I heard of 15 overdoses in my circles, so it's pretty bad. 5 of those were fatal... Nobody in my circles has died for a reason other than overdose.

It caused a lot of pain for people around. Don't do it to your relatives, even if you don't contact them often.


That video shows what might happen to people who start partying in their 20s and forget to stop or it becomes their coping mechanism.
 
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I'm so sorry for him and his family.. Sending love to them to be peaceful!

And yes, addiction towards anything is dangerous! If we have such friends, All we can do is, listen to them and bring them back to the track..
 
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Too much in anything is bad, Sorry for your loss man.

To everyone, If you ever need to talk about your feelings, the BHW fam is here for you, Take care.
 

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Just got a call that a colleague of mine died of MI yesterday (aged 29 for context). I knew him from a very young age and actually looked up to him as he was an all round nice guy.

He turned dark when he was around 22. He started drinking and smoking heavily as a means to cope with family trouble and life in general. Someone looked at him the wrong way, smoke. Someone did something he didn’t agree with, smoke. Tea break? Smoke. And of course, liquor every night of the week because it was “boys time”.

As men, we’re often not encouraged to talk about our emotions or how we feel and it’s much more common to use unhealthy habits to cope with our distress. I know this for a fact as I too was a bit like him and am trying my best to grow out of it. You don’t have to bawl your eyes out but it might be a better idea to understand why you feel the way you feel and find helpful ways to deal with it.

Talk to a friend or family or hire a therapist if you don’t have the first two. Something.

Take it easy and don’t stress yourself out too much.

PS. Our mutual friends’ idea to deal with this loss is to get drunk tonight (an invite which I politely declined but you get what I mean).
Wow sad story my condolences to you and your family's friend,
Talk to a friend or family or hire a therapist if you don’t have the first two. Something.
I would like to take such things by the easy way but, everyone who want to talk to someone or takes advice, make sure that person really love you or takes care of you, because sometime if you talk or take advice from wrong person you will be in deep.
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I don't trust them Mate I know 4 persons in my life "friends-family member" I remember that they take medication and therapist session since 8years, some of them his state get more worst,
Any one should select people who live with and around him.
 
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I don't trust them Mate I know 4 persons in my life "friends-family member" I remember that they take medication and therapist session since 8years, some of them his state get more worst,
Any one should select people who live with and around him.
Interesting take. Everyone‘s experiences are different of course but if you know for a fact that someone’s getting worse off of therapy, you should probably stay away from them or have them reported. There could be an unavoidable purge where the person gets worse (as they unravel the past trauma) before they get better but can’t comment on that.
 
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