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Success and expectations of people around you

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Titanlord, Nov 8, 2019.

  1. Titanlord

    Titanlord Newbie

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    So I am curious to know after seeing your success finically how did people around you react? how many just did a complete 180 and expected you to give them financial support, what are your stories?
     
  2. blackbeans

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    I noticed that I started making a WHOLE LOT more money when I started hanging around people who have the SAME ASPIRATIONAL VALUES I have

    Surround yourself with people who will challenge you and push you out your comfort zone

    In other words, by inspiring each other, we pull each other up

    Surround yourself with haters, doubters, and insecure people and it will take a WHOLE LOT MORE ENERGY to achieve success
     
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  3. Pesa Man

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    rich people do not hang around with broke people. Keep that in mind.
     
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  4. TheVigilante

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    Many of my relatives suggest me to go to other city for a job just because many of their relatives have a good job like they say lol

    It's so funny that they suggest me all this without even knowing the industry I am into!

    The sad part is these are the people who don't have a good bank balance and are suggesting other people to do something they don't know a shite about

    Crazy world we live in right?

    Relatives think I am doing something which doesn't have any value in this world lol and it must be so simple that they want me to teach them how I make money online
     
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  5. Kikerinka

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    I think both of you didn't get the question of the OP.
    He was asking how your friends & relatives reacted to the success you achieved online.

    For me, there was no reaction. I keep a low profile and nobody from my relatives & friends know how much I earn. Honestly I believe it is a best strategy.

    Have a friend who boasted about his earnings (in offline business) too much. His brother (who happened to work in his company), as well as other employees suddenly started demanding better salaries. They started to steal money and slowly ruined the company from within....

    Moral of the story: People do not like to see that someone is more successful than they are. Keep a low profile and don't talk about your earnings...
     
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    At first, my parents, especially my mom, started to show me more affection. It's like I finally deserve her love because of money. So disgusting...
    Then, I started noticing some other family members looking at me differently.
    When my best friend, who was raised in a wealthier family, suspected me to earn way more than her, she started to drifted away. It's like, she wanted me to stay poor to feel superior or something like that. We don't even talk anymore right now.
    Being raised in a poor family (in a third world country), I wasn't aware of what it is really like to have money. So, when I started to bring in good cash just after college, by freelancing, they noticed it qwickly and that's where all of this started.
    Now, I'm married and my husband and I like to keep it at a low profile to keep people like all of them away. We moved relatevely far from most of them too, just for that.
     
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  7. SEOMadHatter

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    This.

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  8. jefis

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    Envy from those who haven’t succeeded.
     
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  9. snacky3

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    I had a lot of money, and banked +6k / month for long time many times.

    The problem is when you stop working because you are already banking good money. In my experience, it's hard to keep working when you already making money on autopilot.

    What I learned now, is, keep working not matter how small the deal is. Keep working
     
  10. MisterF

    MisterF Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    I'd like to think family values never change.

    When I started my first business from scratch in 1990, my family were supportive all along that journey.

    Your real friends and family will be there for you through bad times and good.
     
  11. tubeboost

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    I think that depends on social environment and people around you. There is no right answer.
     
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  12. Universe0

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    People around you will always try to drag you in their level.

    So if you surround yourself with average people they will envy you when you are successful, cause you have escaped their "reality".
     
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