Soooo....I'm having a tuff time....

Not really sure why I am posting this since I don't "really" know anyone here, but I am having some super depression right now and maybe was hoping that it might make me feel better to get it out. Maybe some funny person can give me a laugh...

I have always had problems at Christmas time ever since I lost my little sister in a car accident on Christmas Eve several years ago. My husband and I moved from the midwest to Nashville 6 days ago and we don't have one Christmas decoration up and aren't buying each other Christmas presents...
This will be my very first Christmas away from the rest of my family in my life and I just am feeling really down...I know Christmas is not all about material things...and sorry to be such a Debbie Downer...

Anyway...I wish everyone a very Merry Christmas and hope that you all stay happy and safe! :snowman:

~Vanessa

Merry Christmas to you! Hang in there and be happy for what you do have. Even if it is not much... its yours.... I hope you cheer up! Have a good holiday!

Sorry to hear about your little sis... I lost my little sis 11 years ago in a car accident too... She was on her way to church on a sunday morn. It does take time to get over something like that, but I promise things get better. Good luck in Nashville and focus on the positive things in life... I lost my job a month ago, and adopted a new born baby... It's been a really scary time, but I'm thankful for waking up today, my wonderful wife, and 3 children... MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Happy Holidays Nessa.

If it make you a little happy, I'm thinking about buying the device from your sig.

Im sorry to hear about that Vanessa. I dont think I can cheer you up by being funny. Sorry. Have you told your family that you are feeling down? I'm sure they wouldn't mind it if you told them you miss them. I havent lost a sibling before so I cant say I know what you've been through, I've lost family members as everyone has though. And it is horrible. Although as time goes on it gets better. But when they die young (as i imagine your little sister is) it is a lot harder.

You dont have to give presents to each other, you can just give yourselves to each other. Heck the greatest gift I know is love. You never know, you may see your little sister in some other time, dimension, whatever, because as we know. Life is energy, and energy cannot be destroyed, only displaced and transformed (yes thats a misquote from some physics smarty pants). So your little sister is not really lost, she is somewhere else where you cannot perceive. I know it makes no difference because she is basically out of your life. You will never lose her from your mind and your heart.

Im going to continue rambling much to the demise of a few people i bet.

One of my good friends told me that heaven is what you believe it is. Now im not religious or anything, nor do I want this to become a religious thread, but I would like to believe that what she said is true =)

If you believe that your little sister will be in your heaven, she will be. According to what my friend said. Tis a mystery though, just hope that someday, you will meet her again. Anything is possible.

I've had depression for 3 years so motivating myself to do anything is a struggle, especially at the sign of one small negative comment, or hitch. You've got to realise it for what it is, take a step back, and then try and think about all the positive aspects.

Sure your sister isnt here. But you are here, with your husband. Thats a good thing! I dont know about the rest of your family but im sure they are alive, even if you may be on bad terms with them.

Life is a constant balancing act. When something negative happens, something positive always happens as a reaction. Ok i will shush now. Im sure as soon as i click 'post' i will have millions of other things to say. But for now...

Merry Christmas Vanessa and Blackhatworld =)

Merry Christmas, enjoy your time with your husband. Set your goals high for 2009.

Sorry to hear you're down. I think alot of people are going to be having a tough time this coming year. Just keep your head up and push though the bad times. Things always get better in time.

Merry Christmas!!

Keep your head up! Hold your husband close!

And have a Merry Christmas - it's not about the presents anyways!

Blessings

Yeah, this is really a tough Christmas for everyone... But, hang in there as people said before, and let's hope 2009 turns out to be something much better.

Hope you feel better V, wish you a good Christmas.

Hmmm, let me think of a joke. I thought everybody got what they want for Christmas this year..

The blacks got Obama... and the whites got OJ!

I'm sorry you're down Life is tough, I'm sorry about your little sister... I would be devastated. Take solace in the comfort of your partner-- he is surely a shoulder to lean on.

virtualv,

i have no idea who you are, but i feel like i am supposed to be reaching out to you. i just read your post and got the goosebumps. i just lost my little sister in a car accident on the 18th, and she was buried on her birthday, the 23rd. she would've been 17.

i feel your pain but i know that it will be okay because she is in a better place right now. god bless you and your family!

RIP Kyley Brooke Wootan

double posted.. you can delete this

Thanks so much everyone for all of your kind words here and on PMs. I am amazed to hear of other similar situations and it really makes you realize that there is a lot of depression for some during the holidays! I appreciate all of the thoughts and prayers..

Have a great holiday!

Vanessa