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Some real girl advice

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Dubtube, Nov 21, 2011.

  1. Dubtube

    Dubtube BANNED BANNED

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    So I found out that my girlfriend has been talking to a guy that I really don't like behind my back. It's been done via facebook messaging (not IM). I'm trying to find a way to tell her I found out, besides telling her that I saw it on her phone, (which is how I did).

    How can I do this so I can confront her with it? Is there some way to find out on facebook?

    She's not his friend, I made her delete him. The guy is a douche and he messes around with other peoples' girls.
     
  2. joaquin112

    joaquin112 Regular Member

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    Hmm that sucks dude, I'd just man up and tell her. It will really harm you emotionally to be suspicious all the time.
     
  3. Dubtube

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    I'm more than willing to tell her. The way I found it was literally her phone was laying there on her messages, but if I tell her that she's going to think I'm snooping. So yeah.
     
  4. kirahster

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    Tell her that you heard it from your friend who is also a friend of his.

    If she asks you who that friend is tell her that you cant name any names. "bros before hoes".
     
  5. Dubtube

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    That would work except for I NEVER talk to the guy, and it's not really talking a lot, so I doubt his "friend" would know. Also opens me up for lieing about seeing it from her phone.
     
  6. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    The indirect/guilt approach

    Start by telling her how you 'd never lie to her and how your relationship is based on trust and all that crap.

    At a later moment, start talking shit about that person and how you 'd never want to find one day that she was talking to him, or that would really shutter the bond of trust that you share (and all that crap :D)

    Point taken - scene avoided - you rock.
     
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  7. dannistone

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    Jazzc is right in general.

    If she doesn't show ANY marks of guilt (I assume they were flirting etc) while you talk about all that, then she is not worth your attention. A guilt-less woman is dangerous for your sanity!

    If she shows no guilt you can easily confront her and tell her you are breaking up because of that. Tell her everything including that you saw her messages. Be ironic and make her understand that you don't care and that she can fuck-off; no need to curse and call her names. This paragraph is the crash-and-burn approach. Don't do it unless you are 100% sure that you will break up.
     
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  8. JAllen12132

    JAllen12132 Registered Member

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    There are even blackhat methods to dealing with girl issues, i like it.
     
  9. Scipio00

    Scipio00 Regular Member

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    Why do You look in the cell phone of Your girl?

    You answering fucked up tricks with other tricks, i don´t like this approach.

    Why not just telling her that You don´t like that she has contact with him. Make a good marketing story where you subcommunicate Your feelings.

    If she still speaks with him she didn´t understand your story (clearly Your fault) or she doesn´t care (Your fault that You be with her...).

    Perhaps You should start thinking about why You have a problem if she speaks with him? If You really have the opinion that You are the best choice for her You probably woulnd´t making stuff like that...
     
  10. memyselfi

    memyselfi Junior Member

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    do you really love or care about her? If yes then be upfront and straight forward about what bother you.

    If not that much, then find new girl or start to give her less attention.
     
  11. assphuck

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    Honestly, if you must make your partner do anything chances are the relationship is not that strong in the first place. She should have avoided chatting with the guy out of respect for you.

    Don't stoop to lies and untruths. Tell her exactly how you found out and be honest when you confront her. If she can't handle the truth, you are probably better off moving on anyway. I hate to be so blunt, but it is true.
     
  12. keytenx

    keytenx Supreme Member

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    first Bartman, and now you. :D Is it Valentine Day already?

    Seriously, if thats the case, the guy is trying to hit on your girl. tell your girl not to have any means of communication on him. but the real question is, why is it your girl is having conversation with this douche as you say behind your back?

    Seems you might do a little checking first of your self mate, before you confront her.
    just an advice...
     
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  13. zebrahat

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    How long have you been with her, and how clear are both of you as to where your companionship is at this point? It makes a BIG difference if you've been together for two months, or over a year, or are 'just fooling around,' are 'shacking up,' or are 'marriage minded.' Have you said to each other the 'love' word, and are on the same page as to what that is supposed to mean? If there has been no meeting of minds on these things, to what extent has anybody's trust been violated by her seeing another guy?
     
  14. Kickflip

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    Keep snooping every time she goes pooping.
    You will either find out its nothing or its something.
    Either way, you will figure out what you should do after you get more information on the situation.
    If he sends a pic of his dick, dump her real quick.
    If she tells him she loves you, then tell her you love her too.

    Simple.
     
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  15. j3rki

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    act like its your fault. ask her what youve done wrong that shes more interested in other guys. say it doesnt matter HOW you found out. it just matter THAT you found out. and that you are such a bad guy that nobody likes and blablabla.. ;)
     
  16. Lordsenf

    Lordsenf Senior Member

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    Dude...you can't forbid your girlfriend to talk to people you don't like, trust me I tried the same shit your only going to constrict her and lose her. (So did I)

    I learned my lesson - just chill and let things go, jealousy is pure poison for a relationship. After your tell'in her your spied her phone you just gonna affort she's more trying to hide things from you because she is afraid of you being mad again.

    But you won't gonna listen to me and make the same mistake as I ...thats the shit about life you must make the mistakes by your own.
     
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  17. wgn_white

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    Believe me, she won't be long with you.
    It's not that I want to turn you down but the same thing have happened to me and we eventually breakup.

    If you want to listen the story, I don't mind sharing.
     
  18. capripio

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    Just make her choose you and him(guy on fb) if she is yours then she will back other wise decide that she is never belonged to me its just some kinda joke to me!
     
  19. Freeopkiller

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    Wow, everyone is so civil. I say while shes sleeping, pretend your her, text the dude to meet somewhere and, and um, sandbox him..
     
  20. Lordsenf

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    Time for a "penalty" would fit more :D