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so there is this girl that I like

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  1. Bartman

    Bartman Power Member

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    I am looking for advice. I know there are some people here that can give some great advice.

    I was taking a class at a community college because I may want to go to grad school. there was this girl in my class that i liked. not sexually. At first glance, I didnt like her at all. I thought she was ugly. However, I fell in love with her personality. Ya, I didn't know that was possible for a guy.

    PS she is a lot older than me. I am in my 20's, she is in her 30's.

    I had secretly liked her since about beginning of May, but never said anything. once again, "like" means I like her as a person, not sexually. would I fuck her? sure. But I don't think of her that way. Until now, I did not know this was possible for a guy.

    so this week was the last day of classes. after we took our final exams, she saying bye and hugging everybody she knew in the class.

    when she came to hug me, I started to cry in her shoulder. then when i got out of her hug, i told her, in my crying voice, "i love you"
    just as I expected, she didnt take me seriously and she said "I love you too!" in a tone like "we all love each other!"

    she has no idea how special she is to me. for some reason, I really really like her. and now I miss her. How can I keep in touch with her? I dont want to sound creepy and scare her off. I dont want to just call her up and say "you know, I want to tell you a secret...since May..."

    Basically, here is my goal: I want to be constantly in touch with her. I want her in my life. how do i do that?
     
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  2. Katarina

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    So sweeeet of you!:D

    My advice, get alot of quality backlinks and write good articles, then youll surely be closer and closer to her eventually. Be prepared with the dance too.
     
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    interesting topic :)

    please call her before anyone else proposes.

    before that, confirm she is single
     
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    use xrumer while doing that.....xrumar has all the solution :D
     
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  5. dpatel1357

    dpatel1357 Registered Member

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    Wow.. You seriously cried on her shoulder?!
     
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    thanks.

    Regarding the girl...maybe facebook her and casually talk to her. Maybe you can get her to hang out sometime.
     
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  7. Bartman

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    ya, you know, our relationship is kind of weird. she does have a boyfriend. but she doesnt feel threatened by me because i am much younger than her. she probably thinks of me as "that cute little kid" or smthng. you know how a 4 year old can say he likes a woman in front of her husband and the woman wouldnt care? that's how it is. she doesnt care about me that way and she doesnt take me seriously, which is fine.
    so ya, there is no way that I could get romantically involved. but i miss her and i want to see her every day.
     
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    Don´t be rude guys.
    I was also in this situation back in school when i was at his age.

    But it didn´t happened anything after.. So ..

    But my advice is that u maybe can meet her up, send her a text mess, email her? It´s good to let her know instead of keep holding all your emotions inside you.

    But the sad story is that i don´t think you would become a couple.. That thing u have to take..
     
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    Man, I don't want to be rude or something but are you really on your 20's?

    Seriously dude, I had these type of problems when I had 15.


    Anyway, tell her you love her.
     
  10. dpatel1357

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    Look. Heres my opinion man, you seem pretty desperate for her love, and from my experiences girls hate that.

    You said your in your twenties, here is the best thing to do. Call her, dont text her, then be casual about it and be like hey its me from class or whatever, and ask her wanna go grab lunch and a few drinks at Buffalo Wild Wings or any other casual restaurant that serves beer.

    Then, have a few brews, and start teasing her, make fun of her and stuff, dont make the jokes personal but make them teasing.

    Make sure you do it during the day, if you do it at night it will make her seem like its a date, and you dont want that. You want her to like you, but dont show her how madly in love with her you are.

    Do it again the second time, but go a base further, get personal and kiss her.

    Repeat.

    Edit: if you wanna get anywhere with girls, you kinda gotta grow a pair dude. cant be crying on her shoulders. Shes suppose to be the one crying on your shoulders..
     
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    Jesus christ, you started crying on her shoulder? No offence but she probably thinks you're gay or something now. You dug yourself a big hole.

    And I don't care how good her personality is, falling for an ugly girl when there are millions of hot girls out there? WTF. I agree with the above post, you really need to stop being such a pussy around girls. It sucks but it's nature.
     
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  12. dpatel1357

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    sorry OP, but I lol'd
     
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  13. Maruk

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    You're done. You're in or going to get into the friend zone. She'll never bang you nor ever have a relationship with you. You're not alpha to her.
    You are going to cry a lot more when she goes through boyfriends that time after time hurt her and you know you would be best for her. Eventually you are going to hate her for being so blind she can't see you are the one she should be with.
    Sounds bitter? Yes, been there done that. Once. Learned from my mistake and will never ever get to that place.
     
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    Is this girl a boy ?

    When you cry in front of girls some of them might say "oh he is cute" but one thing is sure, they won't rely on this boy in a couple

    Anyway there is this universal attraction law which work in any kind of relationship :

    If subject A is over attracted then the the subject B is over pushing.

    Chance for subject A are low. Try to reverse this, with teasing like you don't care about her and rely on her ego
     
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    crying in front of a woman is the absolute worst thing you can ever do if you want her respect or to like you
     
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    I'm still baffled by the whole "i love you" part, those aren't words you can just throw around.

    Some girls get majorly turned off when they hear those words, especially if they don't know you well enough.

    I'd say it's a good thing that she didn't take it as serious as you wanted her to, otherwise things could be a lot more awkward.

    Just be her friend, then see what happens, if she already has a boyfriend, don't try to intercept, just let it play out.
     
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    Crying really?? You twat
     
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    This guy is 100% right. If someone started crying on my shoulder I would think they were a creeper. Or emotionally disturbed. You're supposed to keep me from crying, not the other way around!!

    At best, fb stalk her, if she has a page. Other than that, you're out of luck. Sorry! Next time, keep the tears to yourself. It hurts to say, but that's the truth.
     
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    thats an awesome site, never heard of the ladder theory before but it makes perfect sense! OP, you should probably read that site before you interact with any other woman