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Should You Use Money To Get Your Ex Back?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by ScrapeBoss, Dec 4, 2010.

  1. ScrapeBoss

    ScrapeBoss Elite Member Premium Member

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    I need the advice of fellow members on one issue. I am really confused. I dont know what to do.

    I had a girlfriend with whom we were lovers for many years. We were fond of each other and we did many things together. We were inseparable.

    Things got bad between us when she finished college and got a good well-paying job. She was no longer the nice sweet person she used to be - wearing good, expensice clothes and a fine car. Few months later we broke up. However, I am still far higher than her in terms of financial status.

    I still love my ex and I would really like to have her back. I know it is bad using money to entice a lady. I also believe that money cannot buy love. But I still love this lady badly.

    Should I use money to get her back? I can't just imagine her in the arms of another man.

    That is the problem. Thanks for reading.
     
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  2. transam7410

    transam7410 Power Member

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    You need to do the opposite of what you think will work. I know exactly what your going through bro. Dont call her, give her some time. If she would have liked money and money status she would have stayed with you. Go out to the clubs find you another girl that will help out immensly
     
  3. ogeee

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    I've been through something similar recently so i know how fucked up you're feeling. It hurts and it won't feel like it at the moment but it'll get better with time. It has for me. Try to keep busy and focus on other things. The best thing you can do is move on. Meet other girls at bars/clubs/online dating/whatever. It's the only way you've got a shot at getting her back and by the time she's into you again you'll probably have found someone better :D

    The worst thing you can do is try to win her back. It'll drive her away even more. You need to stamp out all that neediness and clingyness that probably caused your problems in the 1st place.

    You're probably gonna want to win her back for maybe the next month or so before you finally accept it. So while you're in that mindset just be aloof, don't call/text/email/etc, make sure she knows you're out with other girls, make out you're totally over it and happy with the break up. It sounds weird but it's the only way you'll have a shot at getting her back.

    There's loads of ebooks and videos in the massive dating/seduction/pickup artist niches. There's even a niche about getting back your ex. Download a few off torrents and it'll help set you on the right path.
     
  4. Dumper

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    They are right, it may seem like the thing to do but it is the opposite. That bitch doesn't deserve your money, she fucked it up. There's plenty of fish in the sea, find another as hard as it may be. Good luck man!
     
  5. ScrapeBoss

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    Thanks for your words. What baffles me is that sometimes she behaves as if she wants to come back, then later changes.
     
  6. DaveWolf

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    Use your money to pick up a whore and get a good f*ck. After that... go get yourself another girl!
     
  7. sunbros

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    Dont let your EX to be your NEXT buddy!
     
  8. ScrapeBoss

    ScrapeBoss Elite Member Premium Member

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    Thanks so much for your words. I am really encouraged. Maybe she is even using on me what I can call the power of attraction. Today, she may show the willingness to come back (to the point of even sending love messages) and telling me about those wanting to ask her out. Some other times, she just snubs completely. I dont know what more she wants from me. When we were together, I never denied her of all the good things she wanted. Maybe now she wants more. I don't know. Only the future will tell.
     
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    dillfly2000 Junior Member

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    Forget, forget and move on.
     
  10. ogeee

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    Don't let yourself get confused. Disconnect from her, it's the only way you've got a shot...
     
  11. BENNY8877

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    Move on with your life and see what happens. Chances are she thinks of you as her back up plan, she assumes that you will always be there waiting for her. But when you move on or start dating someone else something will probably click and she will realize that she can't have you anymore. Basically, it sounds right now like she is taking you for granted but once she finds out that you are no longer her bitch she will have respect for you and possibly start stalking you. We all want what we cannot have and this sounds exactly like that type of situation in which you can use that against her.
     
  12. anti_dote

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    Remember she left you for some reason even though if you manage to get her back using you MONEY that is going to do no good. She might even come back to your for sometime but she will leave you again sooner or later.

    Remember man if she was ever ever interested in you she would have came back to you despite of anything but if she did not then she prolly is not interested in you. So just learn to move on and find someone who loves you.

    Always Remember if you can't be with the one you love then be with the one that loves you.
     
  13. Sanitarium

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    Sometimes people use you just because it was convenient and they themselves don't always realize, might be cold but, maybe she didn't really love you.

    swiftly kicked myself in the balls for giving love advice just now...wth
     
  14. ScrapeBoss

    ScrapeBoss Elite Member Premium Member

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    Thanks guys for all these responses. I am learning some new things.
     
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    Nobody said it would be easy to breakup.

    But using money to get **true** love from someone simply doesn´t works.
     
  16. hpv222

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    nah, buy yourslef a pair of balls
     
  17. tbrad

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    Spend the money on booze and hookers, forget her, shes gone.
     
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  18. ScrapeBoss

    ScrapeBoss Elite Member Premium Member

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    I dont think a pair of balls is the problem. I dont know. But she never complained about that.
     
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    when it comes to relationships....its better to be extremely picky and only settle for exactly what you want.

    if what you want is a girl that plays mind games, strings you along, only wants you around when its convenient for her, and is more concerned with your money than who you are as a person....then go for it.

    if that doesnt sound like what you want...then give yourself some time to recover and be patient. eventually you'll find a good girl that doesnt do all the shitty things your ex does.
     
  20. ScrapeBoss

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    Sometimes I think it is a problem to go for beautiful girls. She is beautiful and she knows that people know she is beautiful. Too bad