Ok, so my 10 year old son was standing in the cafeteria line for breakfast at school when this other kid hit him in the back of the head for no particular reason (And yes, that is what happened so says the teachers that saw the fight). My son turns around and pushes the kid to the floor. Then, another kid comes charging my son and pushes him back. All 3 boys were sent to the office and all 3 were suspended for fighting. The teacher says that my son did not start the fight, but he did try to defend himself. I asked the VP of the school, "IF my son didn't start the fight and was only defending himself, then why did you suspend him?". She told me that the reason is that no fighting is tolerated in the school no matter if they are the perp or the victim. She said that my son should have walked to a teacher and told them what happened. In my opinion, if my kid had not fought back, then those boys would have not left him alone in the future. (At least that is how it was when I was in school). My kid would be marked as a pussy and he would get a bad rep from it. Are we supposed to allow our children to be hit, punched, pushed or shoved at school without defending themselves in fear of being suspended or expelled? What kind of lesson is that teaching the bullies? What kind of lesson is that teaching the victims? The kind of lesson it taught my son was to fear being suspended and not being able to fight back when another kid hits him. (Which, as I am sure most of you can relate to, is a very frustrating feeling) It taught the bully that he is not the only one that will get in trouble if he starts a fight. I think that the victims should be allowed to fight back and teach the bullies a lesson. Not only that, the bullies should then be suspended by the school and the victim allowed to stay in school. This will potentially alleviate potential problems in the future from that bully because he/she will then fear the kid fighting them back and also being expelled. What do you think?