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Respect for money or respect for who you are?

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by synfig, Jul 27, 2012.

  1. synfig

    synfig Regular Member

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    I am not sure how many of you got such bitter exeperiene in life. I have to get this off my chest so that i don't get too much in my mind later.

    So here's short story - during my unemployed phase I worked on these freelance projects, struggled with internet connection, client deadlines (still do because of 3g issues) and other things. I got help from my sister during early phases like I was allowed to use a buggy laptop (HP DV 2500, go check google and you'll see how bad it was).

    I struggled to even refill the bike during these days and when I somehow used to manage funds to fill it up, my sister used to empty the tank by taking it elsewhere she wishes to. I didn't find it fair and asked her for the same. She threw money on my face and I didn't like it because there were more than 3 friends around there in my house. I tried to forget this incident but still can't because of the behavior of my sister. Whenever she gets a chance to treat me like this again, she never misses it, even today.

    Funny how family turns out like that. I understand my fault that I took help from family and friends during this phase which I am regreting now.

    Anyway, after all this I want to end this headache. I decided to count every help she did to maintain the higher ground. Next month going to buy her a new laptop and also pay her money with which she did helped indirectly(with good intention or something I don't know). I never wanted to be such a bitter person, but I can't take these insults based on my living anymore and have to settle score now because time is changed.

    I could be wrong or maybe right. I don't know.

    How do you react when your own family or friend treats you based on your earning and not based on what you are?
     
  2. WorkHardL0veLife

    WorkHardL0veLife Regular Member

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    In my family we offer to help each other in time of need. Like my brother just moved to texas and is struggling i gave him a few hundred bucks. And i know if i need help they'll do the same for me. Every family is different.. explain to them how you feel and how you dont want to be treated. :euro:
     
  3. synfig

    synfig Regular Member

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    You're right but this is going ahead of talking phase. I tried to take it lightly but I guess it's not worth being emo over this IMO. I feel that if life expects me to keep relations based on money, I have to change myself over that part.
     
  4. NeoPat

    NeoPat Power Member

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    Pay her back settle any debts with her so she cant have a one up on you. Always keep the higher ground but be firm if its bugging you turn around and tell her to stop you have paid her etc so you owe her nothing now, but keep your dignity and honour mate your worth more then that trust me be firm but be humble too surely there are those made amongst us as a test for those who are patient
     
  5. YugiMutou

    YugiMutou Junior Member

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    Yeah be Firm or as some people say don't be no punk and let her know that you not gonna take her crap. Family or not people will step all over you like a doormat if you let them. Also some people will always act like you owe them something when they do something for you. I feel your pain. Most of the time when I need help I refuse to ask people for anything because of this very reason. Although I have many friends and etc people are wondering why I don't have anything to show for being Independent. I told everybody that I cant do the "rat race" thing work a 9 to 5 most people don't understand.... but when You and I become successful they will understand why. All I can say is to forgive them not because they are your family but because they are human. I have beef(problems) with people over number of issues but I know about karma one day it will all balance out .
     
  6. Nick1

    Nick1 Junior Member

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    Touching money is a cardinal sin. If she knew you were hurting for money and she's still taking joyrides with your bike, that's at least on the surface, nothing substantial, but as Ghandhi said (I am horrible at paraphrasing, please forgive), a single day is a microcosm for our life as a whole.

    Forgive forget and move on... If you fight her tit for tat, it'll only get worse, and it looks real bad to others in the family when bro and sis don't get along together in their adult lives...

    I think for the sake of appearances, you should be polite but don't trust this person ever again. Better now over a tank of gas rather then something more substantial.
     
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