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question about eye contact

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by nonai, Dec 18, 2013.

  1. nonai

    nonai Power Member

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    This is something that confuses me and has caused me to mess up my approaches time and time again.

    let's say you approach a group of 2 girls. When talking, who do you address? in other words, who do you look at?

    This is what I do while talking: I look at girl 1 for a few seconds, then I look at girl 2, then I look at girl 1, then I look at girl 2. But this makes me very uncomfortable, I feel like a weirdo when I do this.

    Then there is the alternative, just look at one, ignore the other. But the problem with this is that it seems kind of rude. Wouldn't the other girl feel like I am ignoring her? isn't that rude?

    which option appears more natural, to look at both of them, or only one of them?
     
  2. bluehatface

    bluehatface Regular Member

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    Talk to the 1 you want to nob. I'm with mrs. Bluehatface and she says that its polite to talk to both, but men are twats trying to pull eithet way. If she wants your nob either way you'll know.
     
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  3. Hawkster

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    How do you determine which is girl 1 and which is girl 2?
     
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  4. kinlee

    kinlee Supreme Member

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    Pay more attention to the least attractive one to you.
     
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  5. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    ^^ This. Working a set starts with the least attractive (to you) one.
     
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  6. nonai

    nonai Power Member

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    really? why? this sounds like something I read in mystery's book but i never understood it.
     
  7. kinlee

    kinlee Supreme Member

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    Hasn't anyone ever told you women are a mystery? ;)
     
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  8. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    If you can't understand that, you might as well enrol to the nearest monastery :)

    I 'll spell the obvious - the more beautiful one is used to getting hit more and the less beautiful one is used to getting ignored more. By ignoring the hotter one, you create the spark of antagonism: "Wtf? Why is he hitting on HER?", which gives you a chance to talk to her later on much much more easily. This assumes your first impression is decent, it 's not some magic thing you do and you get laid :) Value attracts value.
     
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  9. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    Only they aren't ;) Guys simply tend to be stupid on this since they 're fed with crap about it from their peers in all their life so the fail until the get the hang of it (if ever).
     
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  10. MadStacks

    MadStacks BANNED BANNED

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    Just make sure it is the eyes you are starring at and not anything else ;)
     
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  11. sonicpunk32

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    Heh, makes me wish I was a girl.
     
  12. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    You could turn gay :eek:
     
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    Rokebono Senior Member

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    @OP, make another 25 posts and then buy Jr VIP to be able to close the thread. That's^ everything you need to know.
     
  14. lancis

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    ^This. Or get yourself a Google Glass and make them both WTF, while staring at the projection of Girl number 3.
     
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  15. ShadeDream

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    This puts things in perspective!
     
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    You've apparently never harnessed the power of Mystery.

    The less you seem to care, the more they want you to.
     
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    Thanks guys. Some solid info in this thread. Will definitely put to use.
     
  18. jazzc

    jazzc Moderator Staff Member Moderator Jr. VIP

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    Obvious NLP attempt is obvious :eek:
     
  19. Duffers5000

    Duffers5000 Elite Member

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    Dont bother with the eye contact at all if you want to pull the pair of them do some magic tricks.
     
  20. Conor

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    Dammit I'm out of thanks, but :rockon:
    This works every time. Find yourself some porn and enjoy talking to girls like a BOSS.
     
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