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Pushing past the resistance

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Michlap, Oct 19, 2014.

  1. Michlap

    Michlap Regular Member

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    What do you guys do to push past the resistance?

    Time and time again I find myself almost hitting the jackpot, just to give up right before hand, moving on to something else.

    This is because I can't push past the "resistance" feeling, where my body is simply screaming, DONT DO THIS WORK!!

    how do you guys push past it?
     
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    FBGuru Senior Member

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    Are you talking about shagging or workout or ?
     
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  3. Michlap

    Michlap Regular Member

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    Well we are obviously both virgins I can tell by your picture.

    So definitely mean working.
     
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    If you find yourself withdrawing just before you reach the goal, it means you don't want it hard enough. We all do this everyday subconsciously. Find out what's stopping you from getting things done. It's either your atmosphere like distraction from friends/tv/gaming or its just your mentality. Split your routine into smaller tasks and always carry a reminder with you. There are tons of smartphone apps that can do it for you. For ex, I'm working on a pretty big project for myself right now. After a week of testing, I know it will bring me at least $1k/day passive income when its finished and the whole process can be done within a week if I simply sit and work on it everyday but I can't accept that overwhelming feeling so I'm simply working on the project for a minimum of 3-5 hrs/day and leave the remaining jobs for the next day.

    You can try the Pomodoro technique, though. You won't feel exhausted if you take a 5 mins break every 30 mins and free up your mind from whatever task you're working on. Listen to the 80/20 principle, I'll attach the video below. Also, do some self-hypnosis to fix your mindset. There are tons of videos on Youtube. Self-hypnosis really do wonders.

     
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  5. Michlap

    Michlap Regular Member

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    I was thinking of getting a office but then I back out because I think I'll just feel the same while I'm there.

    do you have an office?
     
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    [video=youtube_share;0Bo-RA0sGLU]http://youtu.be/0Bo-RA0sGLU?list=PLXw_klNOTFvreiDJmahGyGAJ3y_LRtSl-[/video]

    Skip to 0.15 secs
     
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    Having your own office will make a whole lot of difference, but I'm still working from home and occasionally go to some public places at evening and work from my Macbook. As a person with ESTP personality, my social circles in the offline world is pretty big and I will receive 3-10 guests/visitors/friends every day. I kindly requested my buddies to not disturb me when my door is locked. My mobile is always in silent mode and keep it on my desk and answer the call only from my family members if I'm busy. I'm thinking to move to an office from January.
     
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    What age are you? Do you have your own place?

    I live with my family, parents included, so its pretty annoying
     
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    I used to have a ESTP personality but now I'm a hermit.
     
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    Yes, I have my own place and I do have parents, but I'm an adult and don't depend on them. Being a hermit is good too but you need to make money to enjoy the loner life even more.
     
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    and you support your self soley with your IM income?
     
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    Yes of course and I buy things and help homeless peoples every time I hit the jackpot. That's my way of enjoying the success.
     
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    So I'm guessing you don't depend on SEO? I'm finding it to be very risky, and not the way to go for a long term sustainable business.
     
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    I have several income streams and most of them rely on SEO and social traffic, but not for my own sites. I have my own twist to get traffic from top ranking sites which is not utilized by many peoples.
     
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    so you do SEO services for others?
     
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    You'd know it if you read my past posts. I just hope the interview is over.
     
  17. Michlap

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    lol yeah thanks for the help!
     
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    Do you have any close family or relatives who you love more than yourself? If so, I'd work for them, not you. That's how I motivate myself. I think, "I'm doing this for my mother, my father, my brother.... not me". I've always been the type of person who cares about other people more than I care about myself, so I work for them. If I make it all about me me me more often than not I get lazy and detached.

    Second, this is obvious. But pick a niche you're actually interested in. You don't gotta love it but you should actually have some interest in it.

    Third, develop real skills. I find the more I develop my skills, the more effective I can work, and the less work actually feels like work.

    Fourth, this is another thing that helps me a lot. **TRICK YOURSELF**. I'm dead serious this is how I start work everyday. I tell myself, "I'm just gonna work on this 1 task for 1 hour". It's called a micro-commitment and they are awesome.

    Like yesterday was Saturday and I didn't wanna work. But in the back of my mind one of my sites was annoying me and I wanted to give it a makeover / redo a lot of graphics. At first I was overwhelmed like, "damn, am I seriously gonna redo the entire site"? But then all I did was say, "I'm just going to CLICK on photoshop, OPEN a few graphics and work for an hour".

    I always find if I can force myself to work for just 1 hour, I slip right into "the zone" and lose my ability to STOP working. Like there was a documentary I wanted to see yesterday but I got so excited moving graphics around, changing shapes and colors, adding gradients and uploading new graphics to my site... to the point where I could NOT close out photoshop. I got into this addictive cycle like, "I'm just gonna make 1 more edit" that's it. But I kept doing it over and over for hours on end.

    So seriously man, don't make a huge fuss about it. Just tell yourself "I'm gonna work on this for 1 hour". What would you be doing if you weren't working on IM?

    Watching TV? Playing video games? Watching porn? Those things can be fun too but they're not fun like IM is. Like when I watch tv for more than a couple hours I get bored as fuck. If I play GTA for too long I get bored as fuck. IM is how I vent my boredom. It wakes up my brain. Gets my creative juices flowing and once I get started I can't stop.

    If you serious can't sit down and just start doing something (notice I didn't use the word "work") then maybe you need a boss behind your neck barking orders all day long Maybe IM isn't for you?

    One last thing. Look at all the people on welfare sitting in government funded projects watching tv all day. Why do you think these areas have such high crime rates? My mother always use to say "idle hands are tools of the devil". And I don't believe in god or the devil, but I do believe that people are 100xs more likely to snap and just start killing each other when they sit around watching tv all day. All because they've been conditioned to believe that work has to be this hard, boring thing.... which it's not. It's fun. It's invigorating. It's fulfilling. It gives your life meaning and direction. And it can also make you HAPPY! Isn't that crazy? LOL. :)

    -BB
     
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  19. Michlap

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    Your right, it does make me happy.

    And if I don't do it I feel like Sh!t