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OMG this chick makes me wanna hang myself

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by popcrdom29, Dec 25, 2010.

  1. popcrdom29

    popcrdom29 Jr. VIP Jr. VIP Premium Member

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    Sorry but I need to vent. I have this female friend who's sucking the life out of me and
    I'm getting sick of her. She's only a friend, nothing more. She's cute but I'm not physically
    interested in her. I've been knowing her for a couple of years, we met at the gym and we're
    just workout buddies.

    This girl is so high maintenance is unbelievable, she never gets enough of anything.
    I will do things for her sometimes and she will immediately turn around and ask for
    something else.

    An example: She knows that I'm very computer savvy so she might ask me to find some
    pictures, software or a movie for her. I'll do it then she will almost immediately ask
    for something else.

    Another example: I have this SEO client in downtown LA who gave away some clothes so I took
    some and gave some to this friend, told her it was all I got. I told her it was a giveaway.
    This chick immediately turns around and asks me to get her something else. Why did I even
    bother?

    I can give more examples but I don't want to depress myself even more.

    What has she done for me that makes me keep her as a friend? I don't have a good answer.
    Maybe I'm just a nice guy. Sometimes we will go to lunch, dinner or a movie and she
    will treat. Other than that, no other good reason.

    I think it's time to cut all ties with her.

    Maaaaaaan did that feel good to get off of my chest. I'm gonna have another drink now.
     
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  2. yousefgreat

    yousefgreat Regular Member

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    This situation it totally up to you. How much longer do you plan on being a door mat. If she respects you as a friend she will have more respect for you and your feelings, she wouldnt do that. If you care about that friend, you should sit down with her and have a frank talk with her about how she makes you feel, if she see's that you have a point and does something about it, then work on that friendship. If she doesnt want to try or doesnt see your point, then you should consider ignoring her bigtime.

    I know you mentioned that she wasn't a close friend.. U've really got nothing to loose!
     
  3. srb888

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    She is self-centered, thankless, care-free, and a leech, and doesn't really care a damn ... you also don't seem to understand this but I think you are "in love" in spite of all "heartbreaks" she is giving you, either (un)intentionally or knowingly on her part. She is (definitely seems to be) a leech and will never be compatible, so get away from her and find someone matching your own temperament, or you will get yourself into more depression. Do some more self-research and you may find this to be true.

    HTH
     
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  4. silentthunder

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    My friend. You're a Black Hatter. A modern day pirate of commerce. :cool: You make
    rules suit you. Don't let others use you. Make a decision that you won't be used
    by anyone and stick to it. Your friendship with her will improve with her immediately. If your assertiveness causes the friendship to sour maybe she wasn't a true friend after all.
     
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  5. mani911

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    Its all onto you how you react. My point is ; You should know where you are going?. Are you actually in the process of adoring her " and so called mr nice guy takes over ".If yes take things seriously get along her more often and tell her the truth " i mean each and everything that you are actually talking here ".


    if she listens that's perfect she will be cautious in future or either she will take it positively and in future no more "Do this for me" will actually happen. A good listener always understands a bad listener.

    Judge her Just don't jumble yourself up.

    And yes dont stay up close too much. That surely hurts and at the end of the day.You are left with nothing to talk about.

    Socializing too much just leads to nowhere in case of relationships .

    Have a great day .!
     
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    I think you should just flat out be blunt and tell her not to ask you for anything. Tell her that if you offer her something its one thing, but dont take advantage. If she is truely your friend,she will understand. And if she dont understand and she stops talking to you, did you lose or gain? Its a win win for you if you do it that way. :)
     
  7. dvno879

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    Tell her to get on her knees and get busy. :p
     
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  8. mccullum

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    like you said,you are just too nice,dude.
     
  9. angelas111

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    wow. you do all that for her and she isn't even giving "it" up?
     
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    It's better to talk to her frankly about this. Tell her how you feel because she must realize what she is doing.
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  11. thizsukz

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    Make sure there are no cons to you breaking it off with her, but first make sure you have no feelings for her. I assume you don`t live in same apartment complex/ subdivision/ condo or wherever you live, in case she gets offended by you dropping her and tries to make your life hell. Honestly though, I believe that you don`t need her or somebody like her in your life, and there is no reason to, except for realizing that there are still shitty people out there, and you can encounter them anywhere. Hope she doesn`t become some psycho stalking bitch (personal experience) it sucks
     
  12. mybatsinurbelfry

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    sometimes people like attention. I do not see human beings. Billies are amongst us dragons like the sea is amongst an island. We are not you.
     
  13. goodtimes

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    I would just cut her off. I learned something recently that may help. I share this because it helped me understand myself.

    Some of the behaviors you talk about are very similar to people with a gambling addiction. They may be good people but they have an extreme lack of self control. They go back to the same place every night and play the same games knowing that they will probably get cheated. And yet they always walk into that same place with a sense of hope that things will be different this time around. Their sense of hope is a false one but a sense of hope nonetheless.

    My advice to you is to stop relying on things that have not worked before. Change hour habits, change your actions and you will ultimately change yourself. And the results you are currently getting will also change.

    It's not that different from IM. If you get crappy traffic that doesn't convert from CPC, try social media instead.

    In this case, forget about her and find some girls that care about you. Spend your time being nice to the people that respect that you are going out of your way for them.

    That being said, don't go ovetboard. There is a fine line between being kind to people and being a doormat that does nice things to get other peoples approval.
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    Poke her in the eye
     
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    Say to her to get the fu*k out of your life.. She┬┤s ugly like a fat cow!

    I hate those girls!! 100%
     
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    take her to drink some whiskey with 1k$ on your packets and 2 slaps on her ass,
    she will be fine.
     
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    Thats an Xray and scanner of op
     
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    Simple method....shout loud at her on her next demand, "WTF!!!"
     
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    Well after reading your post I have one thing on my mind.
    You're blackhatter, right?
    So imagine this: You're Google and she is a blackhat user. She is sucking as many things as she can from you. That's what you do with blackhat methods. She's just blackhatter in real life lol. Do that usuall thing that Google does to almost every user. Tell her to fuuuuck oooff!
     
  20. wrangler

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    Walk away. The world is absolutely full of people worth a lot more than that, actually worth your time. But when you do walk away, walk awy hard. Don't go back, again and again (even if she ups the ante). Hmm actually, if she comes back begging, then give her a jolly good seeing to, THEN kick her to the curb permanently.