Not Good to be Around Family Too Much!

natedogg

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Came back from a labor day cookout and some family you need to say bye and get out of your life! I'm not the type that likes to brag or compete, but man my in-laws make it so obvious they are jealous haters. I have been self-employed for a while now, and my businesses are growing. Someone asked how I am doing with my clients and I said it's picking up. My in-law tells me in front of everyone "You don't have a college degree and a house" I replied "yeah but I been on three vacations this year and driving around a 60K car. I think I'm fine right now. She says my husband just got a promotion and making 120K a year. I tell her, yeah but that's gross lol. Then my brother in law tells me being self-employed sucks because of no 401K matching, no pensions, etc. WTF is wrong with some family! Why so much hate and jealousy? I find when someone knows your self-employed they get all worked up.
 

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Eh, dunno the family dynamic / history there but IMO probably has more to do with them worrying about stability for their daughter than a jealousy thing. Only way to shut them up is to keep stackin!
 

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Ignore such words and be positive on your life, if you think you are right then be silent and do what you like to do for yourself.
As there opinion they are not wrong, if your business not going to work what you are going to do. What happen with her daughter? So many things going around in front of parents whether they are parents of son or daughter. So in place of them they are right and in place of you, you are right. Just say one word.. I'll try my best, don't worry. I'll do anything but your daughter is safe with me.
Parents were too possessive and want security all the time so it's not about jealous. it's about security and safety.
 

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When someone seems to react negatively to me been self employed, I just tell them that the next time there is a recession, unlike them or their spouse I'll not be worried about been fired! ;)
 

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It's just how parents are. Back then they didn't have the options we have today. Luckily my mom understands(after I showed her some results) that I can make quite a good living doing internet marketing. As for your brother in law, he's stuck in the corporate world. He has to wake up at a specific time everyday, slaving away, and making his boss rich. He's probably a little jealous that you have the freedom he doesn't have.
 

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I have been through this with my family (mostly in-laws). What comes with success is haters. My problem was they didn't understand how many times I have zero bank accounts, eating no food because I was so busy.... we grind hard! Once I purchased my dream car that is when all the questioning started like I was some drug dealer because I worked from home. I had family tell me to get a "real job" many times. Making a living online is a joke they said. I don't bother anymore besides I'm too busy growing my business. I sold a business on empire flippers. Gave a family member stats because they didn't believe me. Just an example I told them was I made 200K monthly revenue and had 100K monthly expenses. They tell me I'm on the verge of filing bankruptcy spending that much. People don't understand online jobs.
 

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I worded it wrong. It's not my father or mother in law. It's the sister and brother in laws that are acting up. Great advice by the way!
 

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Don't ever degrade yourself in life. You are beautiful and worth it. People will try to bring you down including some members of your family, you don't have to listen to them. If they pick on you, don't let them bully you. You should be perfect for yourself and forget the others.
 

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120k not a lot of money at all , but I guess it a lot given from a business your working for , the work load must be depressing and the times down grading, depression and stress heigh , talk to like a child, boss thinking he owns you , dam that no life ....

tell them self employed is safer then working for a boss anytime the economy can change and a business has to fold or give people up.

no job is gurenteed but self employed is safer as you can chase the lower falling fruit and still survive .

in a job your fully hoping the company dont tumble down.

working for a business you got times to obay and a boss and told what to do and when to do it like a child .

family's money talk will always bring tention

also being in a job you get a morgage to own a home and will take many years to pay off so your hoping the job last to pay the home off , no job for life anythink can happen, with a self employed person can also get a morgage but have goals to pay it of quicker then a employee working person FACT.

being self employed show your self independent dont need help making money from a business or have working fellows to guide you in a working environment

as a self employed person you can meet your money goals in a thu hours and go pub or relax watching tv or eat out rest of the day ,
try doing that on a working job get sacked ...

$340 a day over 352 days = 120k

that nothink in internet marketing .
 
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People hate what they don't know, and not very many people are self-employed anymore, or if they are, they often don't talk much about it.
It's been beaten into many peoples heads essentially since birth that self-employment is full of failures, hard-times and instability.

I find people seem to think very linearly nowadays, in regards to financials.
 

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People hate what they don't know, and not very many people are self-employed anymore, or if they are, they often don't talk much about it.
It's been beaten into many peoples heads essentially since birth that self-employment is full of failures, hard-times and instability.

I find people seem to think very linearly nowadays, in regards to financials.
really i been self employed since 15 I am know 44 never had 1 problam to earn a crust daily ever , i have never been insulted or judged always been praised via family and friends how well I do in money and life.

I always fort being independent out weighs any job or boss

i ant got no friends that are not self employed , in the uk self employment is heigh not low and classed as a success in life.

a person self employed will have a lot more assist and money then a every day worker the point of being self employed is to independently live life above any paying job and have the very best of everythink at home and best holidays and cars and foods , only my opioion .

self employment has made me and my family finacally secure , i dont think any job can do that .

a pention from a job in the uk are crap anythink from £140 to £220 a week and maybe private another £110 a,week that around £350 retired over 65 weekly income to retire till dead, Maybe with 1 , 3 bedroom home all paid , that real hard worker full out fucked worker end of working life nearly dead.

I guarantee a self employed person retired with savings get more then £500 a week in intreast and atleast 3 , 3 bedroom homes and still living up life finacally with assist over 65, and still got life in him enjoying it as normal .

self employment pay off 100%

know let look at a shop worker bless them on a under 20k job , there millions in uk, what happends on a low wage when retired they get what £65 pention over 65 till Dead some cases top up of £140 a,week , don't own a home still have to pay full councel rent , some can not afford food or heat bless them afther 50 years working.....
 
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One of the many reasons why I don't tell people how much money I make, the cheddar breeds jealousy!
 

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really i been self employed since 15 I am know 44 never had 1 problam to earn a crust daily ever , i have never been insulted or judged always been praised via family and friends how well I do in money and life.

I always fort being independent out weighs any job or boss

i ant got no friends that are not self employed , in the uk self employment is heigh not low and classed as a success in life.

a person self employed will have a lot more assist and money then a every day worker the point of being self employed is to independently live life above any paying job and have the very best of everythink at home and best holidays and cars and foods , only my opioion .

self employment has made me and my family finacally secure , i dont think any job can do that .

a pention from a job in the uk are crap anythink from £140 to £220 a week and maybe private another £110 a,week that around £350 retired over 65 weekly income to retire till dead, Maybe with 1 , 3 bedroom home all paid , that real hard worker full out fucked worker end of working life nearly dead.

I guarantee a self employed person retired with savings get more then £500 a week in intreast and atleast 3 , 3 bedroom homes and still living up life finacally with assist over 65, and still got life in him enjoying it as normal .

self employment pay off 100%

know let look at a shop worker bless them on a under 20k job , there millions in uk, what happends on a low wage when retired they get what £65 pention over 65 till Dead some cases top up of £140 a,week , don't own a home still have to pay full councel rent , some can not afford food or heat bless them afther 50 years working.....
This is 100% true and facts
 

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Came back from a labor day cookout and some family you need to say bye and get out of your life! I'm not the type that likes to brag or compete, but man my in-laws make it so obvious they are jealous haters. I have been self-employed for a while now, and my businesses are growing. Someone asked how I am doing with my clients and I said it's picking up. My in-law tells me in front of everyone "You don't have a college degree and a house" I replied "yeah but I been on three vacations this year and driving around a 60K car. I think I'm fine right now. She says my husband just got a promotion and making 120K a year. I tell her, yeah but that's gross lol. Then my brother in law tells me being self-employed sucks because of no 401K matching, no pensions, etc. WTF is wrong with some family! Why so much hate and jealousy? I find when someone knows your self-employed they get all worked up.

Where are you from OP?
 
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