Need some sense slapped into me.

Guys I’m going through it at the minute and need the advise of here. Why because you guys are all crooked I think and you’ll give it to me straight. No sugar coating. Platitudes.

I’m depressed. I’ve been going through an insane amount in my life. I have no support. I am self made. I am 30. My mom taught me nothing. Family only cares as long as I’m useful. Extended family only cares as long as I’m useful. Is that the point of being a guy? To be useful and nothing else? I watch other families invest in their kids in my social circle but my sister and I are literally the only ones whose mother expects them to take care of her. From the minute you walk till her retirement and after. I have no one to ask advise. everyone tells me I’m too stubborn and don’t listen but when I have a problem and ask o get “ you’ll figure it out”. From family “friends” etc. I’m really tired of investing in other people. On top of that I’m swamped in health issues that ruined my career. Autoimmune.

I came to this site and it gave me ideas to make money and move foreword in life bit I can’t make myself care and get started. No matter that I have an actual plan that’s almost gaurenteed to make good money for me. I don’t see a point. Let’s say I’m a millionaire. I’m going to sit and watch everyone else in relationships and not understand it and what’s the point in money?

The problem is I feel like I matter to no one. Not even me. Even if i stopped investing in everyone else and invested everything in myself what’s the point?

I’m really tired of having to be useful to everyone or I’m worthless. But if I focus on myself I’m a monster.

Idk bros I don’t mean to be all bitchy and whatever but I’m really going through it. If you guys have some advise I’d appreciate it. Many of you here I think are successful at the things I want.

Don't lose hope dear. everything will be alright

Everyone face problems in their life in different ways, be strong dont lose hope, one day you will come over it, and make yourself proud for not giving up.
And check this thread i am sure you will find some relief https://www.blackhatworld.com/seo/i...s-with-you-during-your-times-of-need.1574974/

Acquire some skills that makes you employable even with your health issues. It's easier to blame others when things don't work out but you can't just blame someone and sit there cursing your luck. Gotta make things happen for yourself because no one else is going to do that for you. Once you make enough money, move out because some parents don't earn the love of their children.

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Acquire some skills that makes you employable even with your health issues. It's easier to blame others when things don't work out but you can't just blame someone and sit there cursing your luck. Gotta make things happen for yourself because no one else is going to do that for you. Once you make enough money, move out because some parents don't earn the love of their children.

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Lol. They moved into my home. My kidneys failed and I couldn’t afford the lease and my sister was homeless and my mom next to. They moved in.

I had a $100+ job as a nurse I lost. I got sick and they don’t want to employ you. Your a liability. You forget a med? Don’t do correct routine? There’s your license and federal charges maybe.

I’ve worked my but off time and again. I make things happen for me, but if I want to be around other people I need to be useful. If I don’t care about that I can do whatever, but I offend a lot of people fast and often and no one wants to be around. I don’t get the balance.

And I have tech skills. This forum gave me quite a few good ideas but I haven’t done them. Seems little points

But thanks for the advice, I agree with making it happen and can’t blame everyone.

I find that when you get financially comfortable, there is actually only a small portion of that wealth you can actually spend on yourself without becoming obscene. The truth is, acquiring wealth just for the purpose of it will not bring satisfaction. You have to find a purpose where your wealth will make life easier for somebody somewhere. Normal humans are hardwired that way. If you do not find joy in putting a smile or laughter in somebody's face somewhere, then you need to look at yourself again, because that is abnormal. Normal people find satisfaction and happiness, making someone else happy. That is why you find that at the end of the day, many wealthy people end up giving out lots of their wealth to a cause that makes people happy, and this in turn makes them happy. That is not to say people who feel "entitled" must be patronised. You just find a way to still meet their need but just sufficiently for them to "get the message".

Another thing, you can not exist as an island. You need people too. Like when you get sick, someone, even if its the doctor or nurse, has to help you. So its a two-way street. You can not expect to live selfishly, and expect others not to respond to you in kind.

It's tough to see light when you're in such a dark place, we've all been through it, the difference is only in some small things, but the state of mind was the same for all of us.

Depression is fuc**d up thing, it can break you OR, make you do things you have never done before, and I don't mean on bad things, I mean on some good ones.

When I fell into depression, we always thought that it couldn't get worse from the worst, but an even worse situation always happens, no matter how much you don't believe in positive and negative energies, there is something there, negative energy in a person attracts negative energy, and vice versa, I don't know how to explain, it happened too many times for it to be just a "coincidence".

I have always overcome my depression by working, I think that in practice at least 90% of people trained for this type say "do something = work" in the first few words.

Yes, it is very difficult to concentrate the brain in such difficult moments, but I can tell you from my personal experience, work has saved me from many things.

I will tell you the situation I was in, just 1 as an example, 3 days after the birth of my daughter I lost everything in one damn second, I'm talking about 6 figures + 5k/6kmonth...

Now, reality says: You have a daughter, you just started a family, and time and no one around will ever ask you how you will manage to get out of the situation!

A child at birth needs everything, you have to buy it all and you don't have a single cent with you at that moment!

So, there are 2 options, either I'll shut myself up and let depression kill me literally, or I'll get up and go "head through the wall", I'll stand my ass up and go create something, I don't know how, I don't know what, I don't have an idea where I just know that I have to do it!

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I can tell you all the nice things just to get you "feel better", that won't last for too long, you have 2 options @Pseudome4765 mate!

And you are going to get your ass up and do whatever you need to do, to get yourself at some better place!

The 2nd option does not exist!

If you need to chat with someone, I'm always here... <3

No sugar coating? I remember when I was young I blamed my lack of progress on others "holding me back" when in reality I was choosing to spend time with them. I haven't done that now for years, and life is going better than ever for me I feel. Thats my perspective. I spend time talking to people that help my situation, not take away from it. Fortunitly everyone is mostly online for this, so its quicker than stopping at the pub to meet people! lol

Pseudome4765 said:

Guys I’m going through it at the minute and need the advise of here. Why because you guys are all crooked I think and you’ll give it to me straight. No sugar coating. Platitudes.

I’m depressed. I’ve been going through an insane amount in my life. I have no support. I am self made. I am 30. My mom taught me nothing. Family only cares as long as I’m useful. Extended family only cares as long as I’m useful. Is that the point of being a guy? To be useful and nothing else? I watch other families invest in their kids in my social circle but my sister and I are literally the only ones whose mother expects them to take care of her. From the minute you walk till her retirement and after. I have no one to ask advise. everyone tells me I’m too stubborn and don’t listen but when I have a problem and ask o get “ you’ll figure it out”. From family “friends” etc. I’m really tired of investing in other people. On top of that I’m swamped in health issues that ruined my career. Autoimmune.

I came to this site and it gave me ideas to make money and move foreword in life bit I can’t make myself care and get started. No matter that I have an actual plan that’s almost gaurenteed to make good money for me. I don’t see a point. Let’s say I’m a millionaire. I’m going to sit and watch everyone else in relationships and not understand it and what’s the point in money?

The problem is I feel like I matter to no one. Not even me. Even if i stopped investing in everyone else and invested everything in myself what’s the point?

I’m really tired of having to be useful to everyone or I’m worthless. But if I focus on myself I’m a monster.

Idk bros I don’t mean to be all bitchy and whatever but I’m really going through it. If you guys have some advise I’d appreciate it. Many of you here I think are successful at the things I want.

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Focus on yourself and your priorities first. It might sound selfish, but you need to prioritize yourself until you reach a point where you actually can help with the burden of others without overexerting yourself.