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My wife won't talk to me!

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by mkanz, Apr 24, 2014.

  1. mkanz

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    Hi guyz,
    I have been married for 2 years and we have a 7 month old daughter. My wife has formed the habit of keeping quiet to me whenever she is displeased with something. Although it doesn't happen frequently, it disturbs my mind every time she does it. What bothers me the most is that she will do this due to the flimsiest of reasons.
    For example, this time round she got angry with me coz I told her to put a nappy under the baby so that she didn't soil the seat as she played about (she had no clothes on). While I agree that she is entitled to get angry even for reasons that I don't agree with, I feel that she keeps quiet deliberately coz she knows I hate when she does that.
    For those who are married and have at one time gone through the above scenario, what advice would you give me on how to resolve this issue?
    Please, if you are not married or simply want to be a hater just ignore this thread. I am really looking for serious advice as I feel the issue is rocking our marriage and would therefore like a lasting solution.

    Thanks guyz!
     
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    Don't let it get to you :)

    She does it because it obviously works. Just be calm and happy. Little things don't bother big people (that's some sound advise to apply to life in general).

    Ignore it, and she will stop doing it.... and if she doesn't.... it doesn't matter, because now you don't mind it anyhow :)

    Been happily married over 3 years BTW.
     
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  5. citizenx28

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    yea.. show that you're absolutely fine with her not talking to you and actually you're enjoying every bit of that moment.
    and then let us know how mad she went.
     
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    Some people are best off ignored, your wife sounds like one of them.
     
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    She's thinking of George.
     
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    Jokey answer - enjoy the peace and quiet and have a list of things that will annoy her in reserve, so you can get peace and quiet whenever you want.


    Serious answer - she is playing mind games with you and being silent is her way of getting a specific reaction from you. It must be working as it has caused you to seek advice.

    You could try not reacting to her silence. Just get on with your day in a happy mood, don't try to get her to talk to you as that plays into her hands. Keep that up as long as it takes for her to break the silence and start speaking to you again.

    I guarantee if she is annoyed about something, she wants to talk, so she will not take too long to break her silence.

    After a while I bet rather than being silent, she will choose to discuss things at the start.
     
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    so you join this forum to take our advice regarding your personal life.......and if im not wrong EPIC first post ha
     
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    Don't show your weaknesses, it's human nature to exploit others weaknesses when they are mad at the other person, man or woman.
     
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    and this is your first post?
     
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    Just tell her that this is a poor thing to do and that two adults should talk about the problems they have.
     
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    You need to take her to a psychiatrist !!
     
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    Quite sure BHW is ranking #1 for "marriage advice forum" as this is not the first thread of this type that I see.
     
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    It is CEO Sam. im shocked that you dont even know about this
     
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    Move to Saudi Arabia and scale up!
     
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    Have you tried talking to her about it? Asking her why you piss her off sometimes? Maybe she feels inadequate as a mother cause you pointed out her little mistakes with the baby. Maybe she takes being a mother very personally and is too proud to admit that to you. Or maybe you make her feel like a child when you point out her mistakes, and she's waiting for you to figure that out, rather than tell you. Maybe she wants you to be better at that all by yourself instead of telling you to be, if that makes sense.
     
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    You got the typical answers, now answer this:

    When was the last time you ACTUALLY helped her with the house work? Can't you see she is overworked and on top you're of no absolute help to anyone? Why couldn't you lift your own butt of the cozy chair (or bed was it?) and put the nappy yourself around your baby? Isn't the baby yours?? Don't tell me that you were in the kitchen doing all the kitchen and laundry work yourself, and before that you'd gone to the mall all by yourself and walking, to get groceries and food...!

    Come out with the whole situation and then expect to get real help.

    It seems that you've joined this forum just to ask that one question!!! I also doubt that you'll ever be any helpful to our other members ever.

    And yeah, I'm rude and am sorry about that! :) But if your marriage is sinking, the main reason could be someone who has rudely exposed the situation in front of the unknown people on an internet marketing forum. If you're real man who wants to really preserve the home, then you'd do lot of thinking, or would go to the real offline people who seriously are working towards preserving the meaning of home and family!

    On top, you've a little baby who needs real parents (BOTH), and a real loving and a complete home where she would grow up being very happy! I think you're the one who wants the breakup... may be because the wife now has a baby and she is not as useful to you as she was before the motherhood.

    On the next thread on this forum, you'll be coolly confirming the inevitable breakup and blaming the wife 100% for it. Prove me wrong if you can!
     
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  20. hardybents

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    Sorry, What is a nappy?