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My Sad Online Story: 1 year and 3 months worth of life GONE.

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Jarod B, Mar 28, 2011.

  1. Jarod B

    Jarod B Junior Member

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    I remember 2 years from now, I had just quit an online game called Runescape.

    It was 2009, and I had a great idea about where I would end up... one day. I had created a forum about Runescape servers, and it lived for 3 months. The forum generated around 2,000 visitors a month, and the great thing was that I had no idea about my progress. It's odd how I never even knew about SEO, blogs, affiliate marketing, and all of that other stuff, though.

    I wonder where I would be right now (if I had just kept that forum)?

    After 3 months of running a forum for a Runescape server, I discovered blogging. It seemed like the best thing that would ever happen to me. Furthermore, I remember the day vividly. It was the day I really felt enthusiastic about something - for the first time ever (in my entire life).

    I purchased an ebook, which was the first thing I had ever bought online (the ebook cost over $70 if I remember). It explained a lot of thing that I had no idea about, and it even explained how to market myself. Little did I know that the ebook was just the same as the other ones I would buy in the coming months and years from thereon, though. I did EVERYTHING the ebook said and even stuck with it for 2 months flat with determination.

    Those 2 months I worked hard on, which I contributed to over 9 hours a day, steadily faded. My progress was merely evidential. I started to wonder if I had let my parents down on the money I invested in these 2 months. There was literally no cash at all. I read the ebook about 7 times, which was more than enough that would eventually conclude me to understand its values in and out.

    I lost faith, belief, and most of all... myself.

    The whole idea was to make a blog about what I loved to do (drawing and playing runescape servers). I fell out of my comfort zone with stress. So, 5 months later -being a year now, I had by then purchased around 3 ebooks. I invested around a total of $800. This was due to additional online tools, which the ebooks required.

    Everything I did seemed hopeless (even though I still tried). It was around 11 months, and I finally turned 18 years old.

    I woke up with tears seeping into my ears while thinking about how much of a failure I was.

    Here I am about to become a man, or next to be the man in only a few years, with the most talked about goal of all time: being an entrepreneur by the time I turned 18 years old.

    I simply did my regular routine after smearing my tears with the palm of my hands. That was making my bed, brushing my teeth, taking a shower, putting on my clothes, and back again to my domain: the computer.

    Back again to doing what I do best: nothing more than tomorrow.

    Just like I've said, though, nothing more happened. It was just the usual.

    So, I stopped for a few months, up until March, and began again. This time spending more than the usual, and this time being the last of all.

    I found this site (BHW...) and stared at all of the achievements that went on with so many users here. I also signed up and did a little questioning.

    A few days later, I went to visit Rob Rammuny's site about blogging. I instantly discovered that he was offering a free video tutorial about doing affiliate marketing with youtube, and I actually bought into this idea simply because it was FREE.

    So, I bought a $97 product called OptimizePress and used the tips from the video.

    A few days later of work, I had only 2 - 5 visitors a day that would come to my site. None of them opt-in though, which was one of the most relevant of my concerns.

    Then, another day passed by, and I woke up to a youtube account suspension.

    EVERYTHING that I had ever did was shattered to trillions of billions of pieces. I completely gave up and started questioning the users of OptimizePress. They all confirmed to have made a sale with the product. I asked them about generating and driving traffic, but none could give me information that worked - as i had tested them before (article marketing, directory submission, commenting on blogs, etc., etc.).

    So now, I've decided to give up on my goal.
     
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  2. Autumn

    Autumn Elite Member

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    This thread just reeks of self pity. Sorry to sound harsh, but dry off your tears, harden the fuck up, work out a better plan than the evidently shitty plan you had before, and get to work.

    You're 18... You're still a baby. You haven't had time to fail yet, and you only fail if you give up.
     
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  3. Akkimik

    Akkimik Regular Member

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    Jarod, read my signature!
     
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  4. andersonm

    andersonm Newbie

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    There's a saying "Pain is Temporary, Giving up is Permanent."
    Good luck!
     
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  5. therealme

    therealme Newbie

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    man.. are you crazy.. dont do this.. you have been working for more than one year now.. you mush have learnt a lot.. go to one of those freelancing sites like odesk and elance and start offering services.. if you work hard you will make money.. and you can keep your personal projects in the background.. anyways.. just dont quit... you are born to do this.. i am ready to help you in any way possible.. cheers..
     
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  6. blackstone37

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    The road to success is paved with failure...for everyone!! Everyone here has failed in some manner. You give up...you lose.
     
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  7. KHalnay4k

    KHalnay4k Junior Member

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    :( Sad#

    But Never Give Up! :)

    The Main Problem Here is that U've did that only which Was mentioned in E-BOOKS ;

    U Never used ur own Brain or Logic that would it work or not ..

    Dude E-BOOKS Are their only to give u a IDEA - A Hint For Your Action Plan!

    They Never Decides the whole .. You Have to Make Whole Scenario at your own ..

    I Guess till Now you must be having Sufficient Knowledge about Internet Marketing!

    So I Suggest you TO DO Once a Blogging (Wordpress) I advice you to do that because there are more than a Million of ways to bring traffic easily to ur WP Based Blogs ..

    Even You can get Clues From other THREADS Here ;)

    P.S My English is Bad &&. "I Wish You Best OF Luck! :)"
     
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  8. KHalnay4k

    KHalnay4k Junior Member

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    Dude am Just 15+ :p

    And Many a Times Lost My Money say Like 800$+

    I Still Remember last week My Paypal Got Locked with 109$

    and the reasons For which I Always do loose my Money are Very Foolish :p
    (i.e Verification , I.P Matter , And BLAH BLAH BLAH!!!:p)

    But I Never Give Up Just think "OH! Baby Fcuk This Up :p I Wanna Earn More :D"
     
  9. derpywizard

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    It's not too late, not even close.

    Get off your ass,

    Quit whining,

    And most of all, DO NOT BUY THOSE DAMN E-BOOKS

    If you are talking about SEO you can learn it by simply googling, reading this forum and others, and most of all, performing experiments on your site. Otherwise, you will never get anywhere.

    You need to harden up if you want to stay in business. Even if you were scammed, if you at least learned from your mistakes, you should be one step close to your goals. If you don't learn from them, then what are you expecting?

    Sorry for being harsh but it's the truth. Feel free to quit though, no one's gonna stop you.
     
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  10. innovalist

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    Dude... you do have to always take a step back to figure out if you are going the right way. Its not "oh don't give up". If you spend the next 80 years of your life setting up a road side booth selling used toilet paper no one in their right mind will buy. BUT if you found a way to sanitize and sell the pulp to a paper mill - you might be on to something big. If you step back now and then to assess - if the general direction looks ok - then you keep your nose to the grindstone. Some of the richest people I know didn't give up when everything seemed hopeless. But they were smart people and had done their sums.
     
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  11. Strygwyr

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    Here's an idea: get a real job UNTIL IM becomes a real job for you.

    Don't get me wrong, IM can be a real job - but I don't consider anything a job unless you're (a - making money, or b - volunteering) and I highly doubt you're in this for the benefit of the community.

    Man, 18 years old and no job or direction in life? Time to step it up. And honestly, $800 is nothing over an entire year. My cell phone bill is more than that, so get over it.

    Also GET CREATIVE. All these products are fuckin useless if you don't turn them into something new. You say you want to be an entrepreneur - I don't see how buying an ebook and copying it every step of the way (like you said you're doing) is in any way entrepreneurial. Twist the methods, make them something new. Hit people with something they haven't seen 100 times before - THAT'S where the real money is. It's a shame how many people fall into this idea that ANYONE would sell a $5, $80, $500 ebook on how to make thousands overnight. It's just a joke - KFC didn't get rich by selling their recipe.
     
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  12. ScrapeBoss

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    See the whole thing as a challenge. I was once in your shoes. I never gave up. I tried a lot of things because I believed that my success was in trying and not giving up. Nobody is destined to fail except he who accepted failure as fate.
     
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  13. brent360

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    I wish I could rep/thank you more often than the system allows.
     
  14. xhanuman

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    We ALL have setbacks... of every imaginable kind from personal to business related etc. Lick your wounds, get back in there and kick some ass by starting to form you own opinions - become more skeptical and don't believe all that you read especially when it comes to 'testimonials'. Keep reading all that you can, yes, but take it with a grain of salt... you'll find your way. You are past the Ebook stage as the others have vouched... instead, use the tools you have now.
     
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    You are learning the old 'all your eggs in one basket' thing, move on.
     
  16. Remington

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    First, put up another Runescape forum. That was working, so replicate it. Then do more, rather than anything "instead of."

    Second - success isn't usually some all-or-nothing thing. Think of the Nile River - one of the biggest, if not THE biggest, on Earth. Guess what's at it's head: a whole bunch of insignificant-looking little trickles! Together, these little trickles - not even streams - become the mighty river.

    In other words, don't look for one Big Thing. Do a whole bunch of little things.

    As for your mental state...get used to the ups and downs and the fact that you're not an omniscient superman. Business is made of spikes and drops. If you're looking for anything even somewhat approaching guaranteed results... *points towards the nearest "help wanted" sign*

    Also, forget the deadlines. You're just artificially limiting yourself! I originally had in mind that I wanted to retire by the time I was XX. XX was two years ago. I'm certainly not considering giving up, going back to regular employment, or even working until I'm 65 just because I'm XX+2 now!!

    I haven't hit a deadline like that yet, but I've found that my goals usually do happen. Just later than I expected. Sometimes a bit later, sometimes a lot, but they do happen as long as I don't give up.

    So don't give up! Keep plugging away. Of course, if a particular plan has been shown not to work over many months, it's time to make an adjustment. My first suggestion is to not buy any more ebooks, courses, or any other such thing. Use your own head. Set up 10 sites or so and try different things on them. Get a bit random. The more different methods you try, the higher the chance that one will stick.

    Oh, and if you try black hat stuff, you will encounter banhammers, so make sure to use expendable accounts/sites for any such methods. Don't let the loss of that YouTube account bother you a bit. There are people on this forum who literally have over 700 of them and consider the banning of hundreds of those in one shot to be a 2-week setback. Any crying is a short-term response. Then they're back at it with both barrels blazing.
     
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  17. xhanuman

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    We ALL have setbacks... of every imaginable kind from personal to business related etc. Lick your wounds, get back in there and kick some ass by starting to form you own opinions - become more skeptical and don't believe all that you read especially when it comes to 'testimonials'. Keep reading all that you can, yes, but take it with a grain of salt... you'll find your way. You are past the Ebook stage as the others have vouched... instead, use the tools you have now.


    There you go... Stry has it in an nutshell.
     
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    I could sit in tears and think of thousands of dollars lost in my domain ventures and other experiments. Or I can learn from my mistakes, think positive and between work read success stories on BHW. What is better? :)
     
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    One less IM'er to compete with...
     
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