1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

My Powercords and Panties are flying around Boston, but I'm in another state

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by twinkletoes, Jul 25, 2009.

  1. twinkletoes

    twinkletoes Junior Member

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2008
    Messages:
    190
    Likes Received:
    60
    Well, I finally did it. I broke off a 7 year relationship that was doomed.

    I flew out today but my suitcase got on the wrong plane, and I'm stuck here with nothing to wear and stuff I can't use cause I put the power cords in the suitcase so I could physically carry the drives onto the puddle jumper.

    If you are in Boston, please wave to my panties.
     
  2. jackanapes

    jackanapes Guest

    Got them and selling them on CL!
     
  3. plouyd

    plouyd Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 26, 2008
    Messages:
    473
    Likes Received:
    356
    Location:
    ;=-
    *waves at your panties*

    :)

    Sounds like a rough night!
     
  4. pewep

    pewep Power Member

    Joined:
    Nov 3, 2008
    Messages:
    586
    Likes Received:
    1,977
    Occupation:
    Porn Star
    Location:
    U.S.
    I blew a load in them sorry :/
     
  5. Jcsarokin

    Jcsarokin Power Member

    Joined:
    Mar 2, 2009
    Messages:
    718
    Likes Received:
    1,015
    Location:
    Los Angeles / Beverly Hills
    God I hope your a woman, because guys with panties usually have a problem... ;)
     
    • Thanks Thanks x 1
  6. pewep

    pewep Power Member

    Joined:
    Nov 3, 2008
    Messages:
    586
    Likes Received:
    1,977
    Occupation:
    Porn Star
    Location:
    U.S.
    a small problem :D
     
  7. twinkletoes

    twinkletoes Junior Member

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2008
    Messages:
    190
    Likes Received:
    60
    Last I checked I have 2 legs not 3. :p

    Ok, I am flat broke, and the majority of my crap is in storage up at his folks place which is currently a 4 hour drive from where I have landed. I have no car but need to get a job asap so I can get my stuff and build my life again.

    My online stuff has turned into a mess. I have domains I can't afford to renew, my primary business domain has no identity, and I am happy as a clam to be out of where I was but overwhelmed in figuring out my life plan.

    I was doing ok before but every time I caught a break or made some money it went to my EX who didn't know how to balance a checkbook. It's one thing when it is a simple mistake and entirely another when every birthday or holiday there is nothing saved up for gifts. I really tried to get him to put it in an account where I had budgeted and bills were sure to get paid every month but he could never follow through on the plan. It just got to be too much every month when his entire month of pay was blown away. It sucks because I really love the guy but I can't live like this not knowing he could really take care of me if I needed it. The only way I could ever be with him is if I won the lottery - and even then I think he would blow the whole thing within a year. The only time things were workable was when I was dishing out an allowance to him of $20 a day. Even then he would ask for more some days and couldn't deal with that.

    I was the one having to do all the taking care of and I just got tired finally.

    I packed up and went and my friends and brother are happy I did. I'm crashing on a friends couch for a while and looking for jobs today and praying I get my clothes back so I have something to wear if someone did want to meet with me.
     
  8. turner

    turner Registered Member

    Joined:
    Jan 31, 2009
    Messages:
    89
    Likes Received:
    92
    Hey twinkle ...
    good on yer girl ... :) i mean that.

    and jeez i dont even get $20 = about £15 a day.. jk

    but yeah ... your doing good
    keep it up


    Turner
     
  9. turner

    turner Registered Member

    Joined:
    Jan 31, 2009
    Messages:
    89
    Likes Received:
    92
    ahem ...
    were they frilly panties?
    with ties at the side..

    :D
     
  10. dschill

    dschill Newbie

    Joined:
    Feb 15, 2009
    Messages:
    48
    Likes Received:
    6
    Well i guess ill be the first to be sincere and say congrats on moving out! Im sure you will be better off in the long run even though things look shitty right now. Hell i can remember at least 10 times when things were looking really shitty for me but i honestly think it makes you a better person to work yourself up from nothing and loose it all. Anyhow good luck and if i can help with anything i would!
     
    • Thanks Thanks x 1
  11. Rubbersoul

    Rubbersoul Newbie

    Joined:
    Mar 17, 2007
    Messages:
    14
    Likes Received:
    13
    Good luck with everything!
    Keep yourself surrounded be positive people and things...
     
  12. thehilitereel

    thehilitereel Registered Member

    Joined:
    Dec 30, 2008
    Messages:
    98
    Likes Received:
    69
    Perhaps I can help you figure something out job wise, PM me your AIM screen name and I'll see if I can find you something to do online for money, in return perhaps you can teach me some alternative methods to making money online.

    I think it's a fair trade.
     
  13. twinkletoes

    twinkletoes Junior Member

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2008
    Messages:
    190
    Likes Received:
    60
    Airlines called and they are bringing my crap here sometime today. I will be inspecting to see which panties are missing. :D

    Have found a local job to apply to right away after I can change my clothes. It is 2 miles away and I can use my friends bike to get there.

    Wish me luck on getting a job.

    Step 1. Get a Job

    That wasn't so bad. Yesterday I couldn't even think straight but things are looking clearer after 9 pint sized vodka and soda drinks last night. I went with my friend to her place of work last night and her BF is the bartender. He kept filling my drink (I was there for 5 hours) and they fed me bouillabaise with lobster. They insisted I have it. It was absolutely delicious. Things looking up already. If I score a job in the next 3 days I will be ecstatic.
     
  14. wowhaxor

    wowhaxor Executive VIP Premium Member

    Joined:
    Apr 28, 2007
    Messages:
    2,021
    Likes Received:
    3,353
    Location:
    ?¿?
    Home Page:
    Wow dude you left him over his poor money habits. I have to say that for some people dealing with that stresses them out so I suppose its okay but I've been homeless. I've starved and lived on the streets and I am currently making a full time income online in a few hours a day so I have some perspective and I have to say that money - beyond the amount required to feed yourself and provide shelter - is really one of the least important and most overrated things out there. Something to think about...
     
  15. farfetchedmoney

    farfetchedmoney Regular Member

    Joined:
    Oct 9, 2008
    Messages:
    457
    Likes Received:
    146
    Occupation:
    Serial slacker
    Location:
    The Mansion on the mountaintop looking down on you
    Thats again your perspective....Money is very important beyond the bare necessities to some of us. Your coming from a much darker place then most of us and you see the world differently then some of us, so, i'd say thats your opinion that money is overrated. In any case congrats on your success.
     
  16. twinkletoes

    twinkletoes Junior Member

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2008
    Messages:
    190
    Likes Received:
    60
    While money appears to be the issue - that is not really the problem. It was how the money was handled. He is unable to save up. He makes enough to pay the rent and get food for us and yet at the end of every month there is not enough for these basic needs. You know the rent is coming and how much it is every month. So just put that money aside. If he has 20 dollars in his pocket, he will spend 25. On stupid stuff as well. He could make a lunch to take to work but would be too lazy and would get an overpriced lunch at the restaurant.

    I have been without insurance and doctors check-ups for 7 years now. Any time I got some money together his needs and issues were more important and I neglected to take care of myself. He got his regular hair cuts (every 2 weeks and could have gone a little longer) and I have not had my hair cut by someone in over a year. I would do grocery shopping and ask for a small budget that I could stick to and he would go out (couldn't wait) and buy hotdogs and crap that were not in the budget.

    If the man was only making 10k a year but was working with me to stretch it and be efficient then I would not have had an issue.

    Even if you had a crap job making 5 bucks an hour - that is not important to me. I would want to find someone who wants to be with me because they want to be with me, not because they "need" me. He is very needy and I gave everything to him that I could. I went from having great credit to maxing out my cards and looking at bankruptcy because the money was needed for HIM not for me.

    He was without a job for 6 months like a year ago and I gave him money EVERYDAY and paid the bills. He went on maybe 3 freaking job interviews during that time. I paid to get his dry cleaning and hair cuts and for the car so he could look good to get a job and he did nothing all day to find work while I was busting my ass.

    He got a job and to be supportive I told him I would go where ever he wanted to go but he was going to have to help me now as I was maxed out. He promised to start doing that a couple of years ago and when my bills were due and I could no longer handle them on my own he talked me into just letting them go and filing for bankruptcy.

    I had nothing to pay them so I did let them go but never filed as that is not who I am. I want to pay what is due. Now I still get calls every day from bill collectors and I don't answer my phone unless I recognize the number. I have never had to "hide" on my own phone afraid of who was calling.

    So there you go. Money looks like the issue, but it is about growing up and paying your bills and learning how to manage with what you have.

    I struggled to get a straight answer on what his paychecks were. I didn't even want the whole check to go into a joint account - only enough to cover the regular rent and bills and told him he could have the balance - of which I understood would have only used up half of his pay and he would have had plenty to go spend any which way. Budget included groceries, rent and bills. I can't live knowing that this basic crap is not being covered every month when I knew he made enough to cover it. It is childish and uncalled for and there is no reason for me to be living in fear of these things not being handled. Not when there was enough to do it.
     
  17. thxflash

    thxflash Power Member

    Joined:
    Jan 20, 2009
    Messages:
    786
    Likes Received:
    131
    Location:
    Newport Beach, CA
    Home Page:
    Sound pretty rough. You can come over here and chill on the beach. :p
     
  18. twinkletoes

    twinkletoes Junior Member

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2008
    Messages:
    190
    Likes Received:
    60
    And yes, as someone else stated, congrats to you for getting out of your situation. I was headed into being homeless or worse moving back in with parents if I stayed.

    He latched onto all of my friends and we never met or hung out with any of his.

    My family and friends were watching this train wreck happening in slow motion and they had to encourage me to leave - which was hard because I do love the guy but it is a toxic relationship that was going to get worse the more I allowed him to control things.

    I was unable to find a job where I was living so he knew we needed to keep to a budget. Making sure I had the basic things to survive was not important enough or he would have made it happen. He had more than enough to do this. I was not even looking for him to get me gifts, etc - just pay the freaking rent so we have a roof over our heads.
     
  19. twinkletoes

    twinkletoes Junior Member

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2008
    Messages:
    190
    Likes Received:
    60
    Ok, panties are here! I ran out to the car wearing a thong and an oversized t-shirt trying to cover my ass. The guy was looking like he wanted a tip or something for dropping off my stuff which THEY LOST in the first place.



    WTF???

    If I had it I might have done something but I am practically naked standing there and broke.

    Here's a tip for him, don't lose my freaking luggage next time.
     
  20. Mr.Whitehat

    Mr.Whitehat Senior Member

    Joined:
    Apr 23, 2009
    Messages:
    855
    Likes Received:
    220
    Occupation:
    Wandering Around !
    Location:
    Dating Moolah Babe^
    I'll pay 1000$ for one who parcel me those panties :D