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My parents do not think I do something useful/profitable

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by 2rst1, Feb 22, 2009.

  1. 2rst1

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    Ok... Now I'm just mad, but also very motivated!

    My parents are just so naive and full of prejudices... I don't know if what I just wrote is exactly what I mean, because I'm not an native english speaker, but this is what I mean:

    They tell me that I can't spend all my time this winter in front of my PC, and that I have to go skiing or go climb a mountain or something. They tell me I'm a lazy bastard (they don't, but that's what they mean) and that I have poor health and that I'm in bad shape and stuff like that (Which I'm not, in my opinion. I bet I could run a marathon). Now I have one week off from school, and I think this is a good opportunity to do some blackhat marketing and make myself some cash...

    But of course they don't think so. I haven't gotten any big checks yet, but I know they are comming soon, and I will never give up! I'm gonna make one or several million(s) (a million in my country is only like $140k) this year, or next...

    Now I just want a big fat check from Clickbank with a lot of digits and stuff so I can just rub it in their faces and say like "Now I make more money than you do!" And just laugh because I make more money than they do with only six-seven months of internet marketing education. But if it happened they probably wouldn't believe it since school is so important, and make that much money is just impossible with only two years studying electrical and electronic subjects (I'm 17 atm), but I'll show them what's possible.

    Of course I think it's important to have good health and stuff like that. And I think skiing is fun if I'm doing it with friends... But I just want to prioritize my time. Does skiing make me rich? No! (Well... If I was a pro, but I'm not)

    They think I'm just chatting with people and searching the www for entertainment and bullsh*t and stuff like I'm some guy with low social intelligence and who has nothing better to do...

    I understand that they don't want me to spend all my time in front of my PC, but it's just the way they express themselves.

    "What are you going to do this week?"
    Me: "Gonna chill. Take it slow and relax until school starts again next week" (Of course I'm going to do a lot of things which they don't understand)
    "You can't just sit in front of your PC all the time. You gotta go skiing... You'll come with us, and we'll go together tomorrow" (I don't wanna do stuff like that with my parents, because their just so boring and old-fashioned...)
    And I hate it when they are trying to make plans for me and tell me how I'm going to spend my time. Now they're willing to buy my a pair of new twin tip skis tomorrow (they have always done that if I've needed new ones), just so I can get away from the computer. But what they don't understand is that I need to figure out which type I want before I buy something...

    Now I just want a full bag of money and I wanna be 18 years old, so I can move to some warm place and contact them whenever I want to so I don't have to listen to any sh*t that come from their mouths. And after that I'll just find something fun to do as a hobby, like become an actor or make music and stuff like that.

    I just wrote this because I just needed someone to understand, because my parents don't. I quess there's a lot of other people that goes through the same stuff, if anyone here is still living with their parents. This whole thing only makes me want to prove something to them, and that makes me kinda motivated. This is my future and I'm going to succeed!

    I'm sorry for wasting your time and I'm sorry that you read this...

    And I'll take any advices from people who have experienced this or something similar.
     
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  2. confined

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    Great job to you.

    But let me tell you a story about someone back in 2006....

    He owned a very popular myspace site, was raking in $4,000 USD A DAY from yahoo publisher network (lol). He was so cocky that he decided "F this - i don't need school, so I'm gonna drop out. I'm a millionaire!"

    Well he did in fact drop out of college... and no sooner did that happen, YPN banned his ass for non converting clicks. So he replaced it with ad$en$e... but to his dismay his website was getting raped by myspace changing up their linking structure (msplinks) and other things making his exposure limited.

    Now his site gets shit traffic and he ain't a millionaire no more. Plus he has nothing to fall back on.

    heed my warning. stay in school. no matter how awesome you think this shit is, always have something to fall back on. It can't last forever.

    I digress..... the most fucked up part is that people who have had jobs at the best companies are losing their jobs so they have absolutely NOTHING To fall back on..

    Just be diversified.
     
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  3. spaceinvader

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    im in a rush to go out so didnt read the full thing (sorry). you will have to get used to it im afraid. im 29 and my dad still thinks i 'waste' time on the computer, he thinks im playing games or beating off to pr0n something when i never do - i spend a lot of time on my web store. But he is just from that generation that ignorantly believes computers are just for playing games on. just gotta try and not react to other peoples opinions and expectations... its hard, i still get pissed off.
    i will try and read your post later and get back :)
    think weve all been there tho
     
  4. topsytips

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    You sound like a typical 'know it all' totally spoilt teenager!!

    As a Mother whose children would sit in front of their pc's from morning til midnight...if allowed...then I agree with your parents!!

    It's all about achieving a balance and giving a little. So why not compromise and offer to go skiing with your parents for a day or two on the proviso that the rest of the time is yours?

    You are clearly fortunate enough to come from a loving home so don't knock it...many others aren't as lucky.
     
  5. AffGuy08

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    Went thru the same thing when I started my adventure in IM at first, my mom was not so supportive but now she is happy that I am working at home, all from the Internet (besides my event co). It takes time for our parents to understand what we are doing and how big potential is there in making $$ on the internet. Just chill and of course spending quality time with family is more important than anything else :)
     
  6. The Scarlet Pimp

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    been there, done that. :D

    i've got people telling me i don't do anything. but that's 'cuz they don't know anything
    about tech, they're from another generation.

    get some cash; get the hell out; move into your own pad!
    that's the best/only advice i can offer you. :D :D :D

    most people don't know what i do, since i don't tell them.
     
  7. three3s

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    Hi mate, I'm 23 and only started internet marketing around 6 months ago. When I was 18 I was basically forced to get a degree at university (although I hated the place) but now I suppose I am gald I did as there is always that fall back that's already been mentioned.

    When I started doing this my whole family were sceptical and telling me to get a 'real job' etc etc. Now I make more money than either of my parents and although it is a nice feeling making the money if I didn't have the degree there as an insurance plan I would maybe be a little bit worried. It's hard to imagine all this dying out but you never know, it's always nice to have an exit strategy and other options. (when/if you do get your big cheques through, make sure to rub it in their face. I took great pleasure in ramming home the 'hate to say I told you so' haha)
     
  8. DrzMedia

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    Yes you can make money... yes. Money is not everything, computer is not everything. You need to realize that and focus on your life as well. There is a life outside of computers. Appreciate the fact that your parents are so loving.
     
  9. workingwhileworking

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    I agree with Pimp up there. The general consensus of most people is that if you aren't working a 9 to 5, you're either wasting time or running a scam.


    GTFOut, get your own space and do what you please.

    But do make sure that you actually can support yourself. If not, you're gonna hear the same crap you're hearing now for the rest of your life....


    "Mom! Dad! I need help with my bills this month! :("

    "What why don't you have a real job?"

    "I do! :("

    "What- where!?"

    "erh... the internets?"

    "YOU LOST AT LIFE!!!! WE RAISED A LAZY FAILURE GOOD FOR NOTHING-"
     
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    Balance,

    Its hard, even if you have to make a timer or allert system so you do not get distracted, and then do things like ski and enjoy yourself because you know you got work done also.
     
  11. therat

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    I do a lot of work from the coffee shop. If you can do your work outside home I recommend that.

    I am pretty obsessed with making money and feel like I can sacrifice "other things" until I acheive a nice steady income (very close) and then get back to living balanced.

    If this is how you feel and have a game plan for achieving this and are highly driven for $$$ - it's not a bad thing. But at the same time you should realize that single-mindedness on $$$ is just a means to an end. Your parents care about you and instead of wanting to rub it in their face, think about how great it will be to share your success with them.
     
  12. 2rst1

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    Topsytips: I do spend a lot of time in front of my computer, but I'm also a social guy and I do other stuff too, but I don't know what my parents think I'm doing. They think I'm just wasting my time and not doing anything useful. They think I'm just chatting and playing games all day. Besides from all this marketing stuff I do for myself, I have a youth enterprise with three members which is a part of school, and I also need to work on my computer to do that too. But they don't take that serious. I like spending time with my family, but they always have to make everything they do like a big deal when it's not. I have three older brothers which have all moved out to work, study and one has joined the military.

    It's not like my parents aren't proud of me or anything. Last year I had the best grades in my class, so I'm not a slacker and I think school is important, 'cause then you have something to fall back on. But I want to do something extraordinary if I have the opportunity. I'm grateful for everything I have and everything my parents give me, but I have a lot of goals in life, and I'm trying to reach them.

    But I'm planning to stay in school for atleast two more years. After that I wanna go to a university, but only if I can figure out what to study.
     
  13. 2rst1

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    I had a snowboard a couple of years ago, and I tried that for a while, but then I went back to skis when we (me and some friends) went to a place where they had a lot of the big jumps and rails and stuff which is a few hours drive away.
     
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    "See what they say when your making their fucking lexus payment"

    -Boiler room
     
  15. vijaybh78

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    Excellent thread guys, It makes me remember my past days... not too long just 2 years back... when i left my job at the age of 30 years( .. I carried my thoughts with big ideas to make $$$$... my parents did not understand me.. they want me to go to a typical 9-5 job and get married and kids...
    I do like those kind of lifestyle but i dont want anything to spoil my goal... i promised my mom and asked her to list out the things that she wanted from me ...I Promised her that i will get settled in 1 year and will fullfil all those things which are listed in the list.. some of the things were getting married... getting settled in a job with decent salary and a house to live...

    Now i am getting a decent income and my mom understood me and i am trying my best to fulfill her wish... I learnt a big secret... if you dont have your moms blessings you cannot succeed in your life, make her understand... if you cannot convince your mom now then ytou cannot read the pulse of the customer... the power of making her accepting your thoughts is the biggest victory to the future victory to your life coz if you cant convinence your dear mom then you cannot convince people whom you dont know..


    I am very very happy that you have high thinking to become the rich man someday at your young age.. I felt like i lost most of my age just working for other companies.. some of them were fortune 10 companies...but I did learn enough from my experience... at some point of time I felt like I should have got studied more...even now i feel so.. my humble advice is to go to school... Have a balance of ur life and work....I used to be online almost all day... but i felt lately that life is more beautiful and you cannot get back all those wonderful moments again... live a balanced life - Convince your parents- Build a Trust - Win the Millions...- If you have satisfied you parents it will be one of the biggest victory....the confidence you get after that will take you to your million dolor roadmap... thanks for reading my boring post ...:D
     
  16. LHaskins

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    I know you are young and want to get out to that "freedom". I understand
    that. I also understand that IM can consume every bit of your time if you let it.

    Go out and do stuff with your parents. It may not seem important now, but
    soon you will be on your own and be so busy with your life that there will be
    little time for them. Think about it, you are old enough that they can do adult activities with you and talk you on a adult level, let them have the chance to enjoy that. They know very well that time with you is short, that soon you will be gone to live your own life and you will never again be the close family you are now. How do they know? Because they went through the same thing with their parents.

    Remember, they are your family, you love them, and it's not all about just
    what you want. They are family, and family is the most important thing there
    is......much more important than money.
     
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    I agree totally, which is weird, cas I'm only 19 years old myself.. haha
     
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    aint no ski slopes near me if someone offered me to go skiing i'll switch that computer off and jet out the door.
     
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    i've got my snowboard ready... let's hit the slopes !!
     
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