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My journey to personal growth

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Ruswell, Jul 23, 2017.

  1. Ruswell

    Ruswell Newbie

    Jul 20, 2017
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    I've been going through a lot these past few weeks. I find myself lost in a maze full of uncomfortable situations, society cliches, and obligations. I can feel my brain cells dying every time I talk to my brother or even my friends. I feel like I'm not growing as a person, I don't want to be the typical millennial who seeks likes in social media or the average guy who has to suck the popular guy's dick so he can be invited to his "wanna-be project X" party.

    So I'm starting a personal project. I'll be changing my lifestyle drastically.

    Things I'll do:

    Leave social media and get a better use of my time.

    A few weeks ago I realized that I didn't pay any attention to my family. I felt so stupid. I have a healthy grandfather and grandmother, asking for me and how I've been. I can't remember the last time I saw them. I didn't pick up the phone when they called me because I was "busy." I'm such an idiot.

    Start a business

    I'll be starting a 'buy and sell cars' project with my father and my brother. My dad already has a somehow related business, so we have all the resources to do so. I think this is great, as I've always been interested in markets and investing, so I'll be getting quite an experience from this. I'm really excited.

    Interact with more people

    I've been struggling with my social skills for a long time now. I can start a conversation, but it's hard for me to maintain it. This is one of the symptoms social media provokes (to teenagers).

    Read more!

    I'm embarrassed to say that, I don't read, at all. I can't remember the last time I read an entire book. I got used to reading memes and cringy love quotes on Facebook. I just recently bought an app called "Self Help Classics," and it looks great! I'll be only using it for reference though, as I'm taking some time off electronic devices. If you guys have any recommendations, feel free to let me know!

    Take some time off electronics (Phones, computers, gaming, etc.)

    This will probably be the hardest for me. I'll be taking some time off on electronic devices, that meaning, my phone, my computer (so no BHW, and I bearly even registered lol), my gaming consoles and TVs. At least for a month because I'll need my computer for some personal stuff. This is especially because I want to experience BHW, learn in BHW and get to know people in BHW, but since I'm young and my social skills are not the best, it's getting hard for me to interact with you guys since it's mostly adults here.

    I'll be getting back into electronics the 21st of August.

    Learn a new language

    I've been interested in languages since I could speak, but I never got to actually study a language myself (Spanish and English are the languages that I know). I'd like to learn French and maybe Portuguese.

    I'll be changing my lifestyle completely since I find society affecting my personal growth. I've plans of doing things like: leaving social media, starting a business, interact with more people, read more books, learn a language and take some time off electronics. I'll be going back to electronics the 21st of August since I need them for school and what not.

    So yeah, I guess my journey will start tomorrow, I'm getting things ready right now.

    Any advice is welcome and highly appreciated.


    - Rus
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  2. Sherb

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    One thing that can also be helpful is sitting down with your grandparents and teaching them how to use Facebook. When I did this with my grandmother, there was a bit of a learning curve, but it is so wonderful to see how happy she gets when she is able to interact with all her grandkids on a regular basis.

    That's always a solid market. My father-in-law spends his free time buying salvage auction vehicles through IAAI Auto Auctions (they have areas all over the US if that's where you are located), fixing them up, and selling them on Craigslist. He makes a very good profit for the amount of time expended, and when he falls in love with a fixed car, he just keeps it.

    Go to places where you have to interact with customer service personnel. Starbucks (local coffee shop has better results), grocery store, restaurants, etc. Interact with them as practice. They are literally paid to converse with you. This may sound like the opposite of what you want to do, but go work a customer service job part time for a few weeks where you have to interact with people over and over again.

    I was in the same boat as you as a teenager. Jobs at Subway and a hotel doing front service quickly showed me the difference in perspective between "the guy making my sandwich" and "the guy I am trusting with my Maserati".


    Self control > cold turkey in most cases. At least from my experience doing the same. You have very strong writing skills. One way to pass the time, read more, interact with others, etc all at once is to get a nice notebook and some nice pens, go to a park somewhere, and just enjoy the scenery and start writing something.

    French is a bitch to learn. Heads up on that. If you plan to use Duolingo for it, just know that the woman translator in Duolingo for French sounds like she has a speech impediment that existed beforehand, so it makes things difficult to understand.

    Sounds like you've got things well planned out. Best of luck bro. Keep us posted on how thick, solid and tight you get.
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  3. BusinessSmack

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    Awesome stuff. Reading more is definitely a top SD activity. Also do physical activity. Even 10 minutes of pushups and crunches in the morning is a good start. Work your way up from there. I also like developing a specific skill. Right now my focus is Python and AI/ML. Being creative is also wonderful. Maybe pick up an instrument or art project.

    Besides all that, consistency is key.
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    +1 on this nothing opens people up like forced interaction, seen it with my own eyes a few times where people change within a month and become a lot more open. hell, we have a new guy in the kitchen where I work and in just 3 weeks he went from being quiet and responding only with short answers to holding full on interesting conversations, lol, he doesnt shut up anymore. It doesnt really need to be a customer service job, just one where you talk to lot of people and your social skills will improve greatly.
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