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My journey as a Pick Up Artist!

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Jason_parker700, Nov 24, 2010.

  1. Jason_parker700

    Jason_parker700 Regular Member

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    Google's going to take time to index my backlinks so i've decided that i'll be spending the next 4 days experimenting the skills that i've learnt from from "The Game" written by Neil Strauss.

    Today, i went out thinking that i'd return back home with a hundred phone numbers cos i'd read the book and understand much of it. I started walking around in my area thinking of ways to open a conversation with girls and meeting gaze with any and every girl i saw. I encountered many hot girls who actually looked back at me for like 3-5 seconds but as usual i looked away from them and said nothing.

    I though what an idiot i am and would never be able to approach a girl in my entire life. There was just too much of noise in my head so i decided that i would go to a beer shop drink some beer and try again, which is what i did.

    I kept walking for a while and saw a girl sitting in a rickshaw so i followed the rickshaw and finally saw the girl enter mcdonalds. I wasn't really dressed well( ordinary t-shirt and shorts) but i said fuck it, i am going to do this right now. So i entered mcdonalds, ordered for mcgrill and a coke and asked the girl if i could sit on the table on which she was sitting. This is how it went.....


    Me: hi, do you mind if i sit here.
    She: no, have a seat ( the entire restaurant was pretty empty and things are pretty obvious by now)
    Me: You know i just hate to sit alone. Nobody to talk to you see!
    She: Aha
    Me: You know i was expecting to get a toy with this meal
    She: that only comes with a happy meal
    Me: Oh, you must be coming here often.
    She: no, just sometimes.
    Me: have you tried pizza mcpuff?
    She: no(smiles, cos she knows what i am heading at)
    Me: So you work here?
    She: No, malad
    Me: Oh, i see
    Me: You know there's a movie hall nearby
    She: Cinemax, i know.
    Me: would you like to watch a movie with me?
    She: (laughs) i don't even know you
    Me: My name is jason, what's yours?
    She: presilla
    Me: What's wrong with watching a movie,
    She: watching a movie with someone i've met 5 minutes ago? I don't think so. I don't even know you
    Me: Well then how can we know each other? Got a way out?
    She: is that why you sat here?
    Me: yeah, offcourse.
    She: No way. I am not watching a movie with you.
    Me: (speechless, cos i am trying to hide my embarassment and laughter but things are pretty obvious and quite awkward. I keep talking to her, but she doesn't want to talk back)

    That's how it went. But this was my first approach. I am going to try this about 50 more times before sharing the "conversion ration" with you all.


    Somehow it made me feel so much stronger. Felt like a man you know. This is quite like an achievement for me, haha. Please share your thoughts and suggestion and keep an eye for the updates!

    Cheerz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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  2. vallento

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    Haha really funny how the conversation with the girl went. I have also read the book "The Game" but was a while ago I do remember stuff though like you said you have to look in to her eyes with determination kinda show them that you are "the man"/"alpha male" or something like that and that you should peacock in the clubs lol.

    Anyways man even though she didn't go with you to the movies I still think it's a great accomplish you did something - You toke the step out there and that is what is the hardest I think for a lot of guys! Keep going at it and keep us updated! Best of luck man - May you visit many "love caves" lol.
     
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    LMAO. Quite funny, but the best thing is that you actually took action. :)
     
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  4. houseaz

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    Nice try! Keep at it and try again mate. Don't give up hope whatever you do!
     
  5. Strygwyr

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    Good on ya for taking action! I've read the game and am most of the way through David DeAngelo's double your dating - another pretty good book. Also, if you're looking for some direction on your "quest" to be a PUA, I'd recommend getting Neil's Lifestyle Challenge. Basically it's 30 days, with challenges each day - the end result being at least one date. But it's pretty cool, each day progresses towards the final goal by building off the past challenges.

    Anyway, I've found by far the easiest way to meet girls is at a party where you have mutual friends. Another good place is the starbucks/chapters (indigo in the states?) stores. Not sure I'll be hitting up my local mcdonalds anytime soon haha.

    Best of luck.
     
  6. dvdvids

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    Your post entertained me...can't wait to read more of your future conversations;)
     
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    Call To Action part was so strong that scared her
     
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  8. rovad

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    Yea, this is a bit unusual place to post pick-up related stuff. I am still fairly new to the term "PUA" - I have only heard about that niche about half a year ago, and I really thought actually buying (or at least getting from torrents) some of that stuff cuz in my case conversation with girls is not a problem at all, but somehow things never go the way I would like them to go (and WHERE I would like them to go :D).

    On the other hand I know that one of the biggest barriers to my real IM success are all these distractions and learning that stuff would just be one more distraction on the pile. So eventually I always end up not going after it at all.

    Your conversation sounds A LOT like my conversations (except for the embarrassment part, I got rid of that feeling some 2-3 years ago) - things seem pretty good for a while and then rejection, or complete ignoring, or they just go away from me :D
    I guess I am maybe just too pushy, I need to do things more gentle and subtle...

    I will subscribe to this thread, I expect fresh updates and news from you on a daily basis :D.
     
  9. LukaB

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    You're going to fast, you should of have just talked normal stuff while eating, once done, you should of asked her "hey, do you want to meet up again sometimes?" , if she says sure, give her your phone number, or take hers... and meet up again, slowly and slowly, patience is the key.
     
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  10. CoderZero

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    yea you went way to fast bro! only go that fast if you just plan to straight fuck... you should have asked for her facebook. Then you could have opened her up to a future meeting from there. Keeping reading your literature, you've got lots more to learn.;)
     
  11. NoWhErE

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    lol Pick Up Artists are full of shit. I produced a 23 DVD series and was surrounded by PUAs for months on end. All of them were blowhards that couldn't back up ANYTHING they were saying.


    You can't fake confidence. Either you have it or you don't. Girls can sense and pick up on it.

    So forget trying all these "techniques". Work on growing your self confidence instead. There are no shortcuts.

    All that PUA bullshit is just common sense with a technical vocabulary.
     
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  12. lewi

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    That approach was a bit quick!

    You kept the conversation flowing and changing directions but if someone asked me if i ate at mcdonalds a lot and then asked me if i worked here then i wouldn't have been impressed (i.e. your calling me one fat fucker).

    All the same you made a move!

    Also ive never read the book but asking someone to watch a movie is the worst thing in the world to do, why? because in a movie you cannot talk! You end up sitting there like a muppet wanting to talk and there being an awkward silence between you. Choose something else and watching a movie comes later!

    Lewi
     
  13. CoderZero

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    Very true, girls can sense a non-confident male "trying to be confident" and they will just humor you or if they are the real bitchy type they'll just blow you off....
     
  14. muscleteen

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    I saw your last thread, but didn't want to post until you decide to take action - and you did!

    First, congrats for actually overcoming your shyness and going to talk to someone.

    Next? F*ck the book! Yeah, the book helped you take that first step, but now that's you're able to go out there and talk, gain knowledge from your own experience!

    Now, let's take your first experience and talk about your mistakes (It's GOOD to make mistakes, so you can for yourself see what works and what not).



    Notice the text in bold? They're all QUESTIONS! Sounds like an interview man.

    My advice: Don't be approval-seeking.

    Except for asking if you could sit there (because you're entering her private space), you should ask for her opinion (and give your own) instead of asking questions.

    Also, touch her! I'm not telling you to finger every girl you see on the streets. In that circumstance, I'd have probably brushed her cheek with my hand while telling her: "There's a hair on your cheek". Girls LOVE to be touched (even more than men). It stimulates oxytocin secretion and makes them want more..

    Enough of the science. The bottom line is: Stop seeking for approval and all. Just talk. Engage in a conversation. And touch. That's it.

    And yeah, wanted to bring her to watch a movie? Instead of asking for it, SAY it. Example: "Hey, LET'S GO to watch INSERT MOVIE NAME. Heard it's fun, and would love it if you came along too!".

    Continue reporting man.. I'll help you as much as I can (if my advice is welcome of course :) )


    EDIT: The guy above is right. Not for a movie. TELL her to go somewhere interactive (where you can both talk and have fun) instead of something passive.

    And yeah, don't fake confidence. Build it. How? By doing what you already started doing. Talk to 3 girls a day and in 1 month, you'll have rock-solid confidence. Want to achieve the same result in a week? Approach 10 women a day..
     
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    Funny conversation OP :)

    BK.
     
  16. CoderZero

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    When you meet that one girl she'll be the one picking you up, you wont even know it until the baby is on the way good luck bro:)
     
  17. gefgef

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    Congrats on approaching, bud. Just keep on going.

    No offense, but I suggest that you ditch that book. NoWhErE is right, pua's are full of sh!t. There are better books out there that would be better guides.

    Forget the techniques, just be a man.
     
  18. savvypro

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    First off, good on ya.

    Taking that first step is the hardest one.

    Bases on what you posted, you moved too fast. Slow it down get her talking about her self. Not sure what to ask - just observe: what is she wearing, if anything looks interesting - ask her about it.

    What she doing, where is she at - is there anything interesting around to talk about, etc. Best place to easily start these types of conversations is the supermarket. In the fruit and veg section questions like: is it in season, how do you know, how do you tell etc. The same goes for the prepared food counter, ask who ever is around, what's good here.

    While I was on a David Wygant bootcamp, the instructor that I was with looked at me and said: "her over by the prepared food counter, go" I should add that it was towards the end of the first full day - being out and about, and we had been at the wholefoods for about 20 mins, just going up to people talking to them. Anyway back to the story: I got into a 5 min conversation (before the instructor pulled me away so we could meet up with the rest of the group and have dinner), with the woman (mid 30's, fit), just by starting with the following open ended question: Boy I'm starving, what would you recommend.
     
  19. thinkinghat

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    @ jason...congrats bro...you are taking action ..thats what matters at first..mastery will follow you soon...i remember you posting some thread @ approaching a girl...this is good move now,,you ll get there soon..i think i shud also start reading the game....single again from past few weeks.
     
  20. jarby

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    Funny and entertaining thread OP. :) Definitely a keeper if you ask me!

    The thing is, most IMers focus too much on making $$ and forget the little things that make people quiver and make the blood pump harder. These kind of things should be part of the IM Life.

    Wouldve wanted to be a PUA but im nailed down with a girlfriend for 6years. :)

    Much success to you though.

    Best,
    -Jarby
     
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