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My fuck up cousin.

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Celsius, Apr 6, 2010.

  1. Celsius

    Celsius Registered Member

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    Everyone has got that one family member that everyone makes excuses for but no one will muster up the moxie to tell them, dude your a total and complete fuck up.

    Now this is a 27 year old man, hes had the same job since high-school (washing cars) and sucks money off of my aunt. Smokes pot all night and stopped growing mentally at the high school limit. Oh everyone he works with is the same, its like having a whole village of these fuckers.

    So I lost my cool, I told him, dude your a total and complete fuck up? You threw away the best girl (we did really did love her) and you wonder why your life sucks, seriously? You have crashed more cars than I've owned, suspended license and smoke pot every single day.

    So my aunt is pissed at me because, hes got problems, fuck no he does not. He makes problems for himself.

    Ok, thanks for letting me vent.
     
  2. hitman247

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    Mother's will always make excuses for their kids. That's why you will see the mother of an ax murderer on the news talking about what a nice boy he is.

    Sounds like your cousin is already pretty low or maybe even at rock bottom. Kicking him around isn't going to do anything....go the other route and see how you can help him get his life back on track. Human beings can do amazing things when they think people care about them.
     
  3. stopnstare

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    I'm glad you did it! I have one that is the same way! He does small engine repair from his house (fixes lawnmowers). I make no excuses for him to the family and have no proble showing them he caused his own situation.
     
  4. Alex Brooks

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    Perhaps stop bitching on here, sit down with him, teach him some really basic IM, or even outsouce your workload to him, pay him more then he's currently getting, he makes more money, you get cheap outsorucing labor, win-win.
     
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    Your story belongs on http://www.familynutjobs.com !
     
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  6. brookshire

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    I agree that you should try and distract him... show him BHW and all the awesome methods on here.
     
  7. eg33k

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    All challenge is opportunity in disguise. Pot heads CAN be productive, but he may just need some inspiration. High-er him - then inspire him. Getting kicked while you're down doesn't help, even if he is the cause of his situation.

    With a little IM imagination and help, you might turn his life around and open new opportunities for you and him.
     
  8. Celsius

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    I have tried for years to get him interested in system integration and mainframe support. He's a computer guy at heart but I've just had it. Hes going to be on his way to jail soon. We had it out and I didn't back down and most of the family stops because they feel sorry for him. Truth is I would not let him out of the ring until he admitted I'm a fuck you and make people feel sorry for me.
    Hes smart and perhaps smart enough to leech off of people forever but I have had it with this I'm the fuck up so feel sorry for me. Yeah my other cousins were really shocked because they have never seen me lose my temper or level raise my voice. But they all agreed he had it coming for a long time.
     
  9. Matt123

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    Let me add to this............I have the same type of fuck up in my family and he is my cuz as well and i did teach him some basic stuff and even let him work for me and every thing was great for the first few days.

    Then in his natural way of being a fuck up he stopped coming to work ever other day with some BS reason. So that sounds like a good idea but a fuck up is a fuck up. People only change if they want too and that is a fact.:D:D:D:D:D:D
     
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    A loser is a loser, there's nothing you can do that'll change him.

    My advice? Kick him out of the house PRONTO!
     
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    I will have to say my cousin is not smart enough to do anything with a computer. Everyone takes care of him and he expects it. Even as a child it was obvious to the entire family he was a dim bulb in the tree. We have gotten him jobs, tried to show him new things but nothing. He is not even a pot smoker because it would take too much effort and imagination. He was tested as a child and he was classified dumb. Not ADD or developmentally disabled. So, on his performance evaluation I will have to say: Promote when ready. Just most want to protect the weakest genetic link. In the natural world the herd pushes the weakest genetic link to the outside; to be eaten first. Celsius, I think every family has one
     
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    He might have a child with the literary ability of Shakespeare, or the analytical mind of Newton.
    Yes, he's a fuck up now, but potentially what can his nuts product?
     
  13. darkmobius

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    that's probably also why he is so damn spoiled because his mom protects him, even to this day. Sucks for you man, sometimes you just gotta let them rot on their own. You did your part of slapping him awake, or try to.
     
  14. MisterGemini

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    He'd be great at selling bongs and other pot related accessories, clothing, and whatever else pot related.
     
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    The problem with people and situations like this is that, if you reach out a hand to try and pull them up, they'll end up pulling you down instead.

    The negative human element will almost always destroy the positive.

    My advice - drop the dead weight in your life. It's amazing how much faster your balloon will rise.
     
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  17. MisterGemini

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    This is true. I have left friend and family members to their own over the years. With each decisive move to remove people from my life that were nothing but a drag, I was moving faster than ever.
     
  18. greentitanium

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    i know a lot of people that cant get off their mothers tit.
    one is in jail (again) and the mother is STILL defending him!!