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My Family has VERY High Expectations of Me

Discussion in 'BlackHat Lounge' started by Exine, Jan 22, 2013.

  1. Exine

    Exine Junior Member

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    Hello BHW, for a long time my family has had high expectations of me. Now when I say this I don't mean just my parents. My aunts, uncles, cousins, etc always say how successful I'm going to be. My parents both have great jobs and each make $140,000 a year. So of course I have set expectations for myself are to atleast make as much as they do (not combined). Now I don't want to follow in their footsteps and have the same career path however I still want to be "successful" like them.

    Back to sentence 3: 'My aunts, uncles, cousins, etc always say how successful I'm going to be.' When I say successful right there I don't mean have a nice house with a family, I mean a multimillionaire entrepreneur. Now not a top dog in the fortune 500 however they believe and always talk about how I will be a multimillionaire. I'm always watching interviews of people such as Sean Parker, Mark Zuckerberg, and other young, successful entrepreneurs and they have given me a lot of inspiration. Now I understand that not everyone can be billionaires like them, however they talk about how they made their first million before they were out of college. Take mark Zuckerberg for example, when he was 19 (still in high school I believe) he sold a mp3 program to Microsoft for $900,000. Before he even applied for college he was being offered top spots at Microsoft, Apple, and other silicon valley tech giants.

    Those are the people I look up to, the people I want to be like. It's just I have so much pressure on me to do great I don't know where to start. Do I learn an advanced computer language such as c++ and start developing software and hope I hit a home run and make a great product? Or do I lock myself in my room and just brainstorm. Now I have done the sit in my room all day and just think and ponder on ideas which could be hits however they involve tons of development and I just don't know where to start being ony 15.

    One thing I can tell you is that I am going to take some c++ classes along with entrepreneurship and business tech at my school starting this next school year. One thing that is always on my mind however is that while I know grades are important and yes I do get good grades in school, none of these entrepreneur fields such as software development and everything that is coming with the new generation require me to do well in biology, human geography, spanish, etc.

    I should add that I am 15 years old, I'm a freshman in high school (9th grade, sorry for all of you outside the US that don't know which year of school that is), and if you knew me personally (or maybe even by reading this) you can tell that I more advanced on an intellectual level compared to most kids my age. Which is one of the reasons why my family talks about how successful I will be.

    Everything that I have posted above are all thoughts and ideas that I can't get out of my head. In the end I guess ou can say that I am just trying to find a way to live up to these expectations, however it's much more than that to me. I believe that I can do all of these things its just burning me that I can't figure out a way to do them.

    I am sorry if everything I have posted here doesn't make sense, it's just hard to put all of these thoughts into one post and have it all flow together.

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    I am posting this here because the community on blackhatworld is amazing and I know most of the people here are adults or people who are or once were entrepreneurs themselves and I feel good knowing I can talk to someone who is mature and can give me some input about all of this.

    I might add more to this or I might not. To be completely honest I really don't know why I'm posting this, maybe to finally get these thoughts off my chest? To know that I can talk to someone else about these thoughts and ideas that run through my head everday? Maybe I'm looking for advice as to what I can do to achieve these feats? I don't know if I'm lookin for feedback or answered to those previous questions... I honestly do not know however if you have anything you can say or if you or someone you know can relate to what I am feeling then let me know. Who knows maybe some of you even have kids of your own and you wish the same of them.

    Like I said anything you can add is great and I am thankful for all input -

    Sincerly,
    Exine
     
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  2. daserpent

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    I believe that to be really successful in life, you need to find your bliss. That one thing that you can do for the rest of your life and not be bored with it. That one thing you WANT to do everyday for infinite days.

    If coding an app or site is what gives you that feeling of fulfillment then go for it. If its not coding, then you are just going to waste a lot of your time on it with no real benefit in the end.

    And lastly, don't focus on the money. You can make money in almost every field you want if you are truly passionate about it. Don't be the part of a herd that itself is trying to figure out what to do. Get out of your comfort zone and try new things to see what most motivate and inspires you. Money will follow.
     
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  3. Exine

    Exine Junior Member

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    Thank you for this, one thing that i am still doing is looking for something that I truly enjoy doing. This is why I plan on going to college out o state so I can experience something different
     
  4. Asif WILSON Khan

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    It sounds like you are under pressure. You need to chill and try to enjoy yourself. Also like daserpent says try to find what you are passionate about. If you are doing something you love then you will be happy.
     
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    Post here or pm me a sample of how you would try to sell me a ball point pen. You need to do sales copy, and also you can take as long as you like. Your copy will tell me whether or not you will be successful in IM or not. If you can achieve to actually convince me to buy that pen, then you will be able to convince anyone to buy anything, as long as they have money. :D
     
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  7. incognito876

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    If you believe you can do these things you will do them. What you can conceive you can achieve.

    However, it might be good to relax a bit. You are very young still and should not be putting too much pressure on yourself. Focus a bit more on getting out and about with friends and try not to put too much importance on the expectations of your family. Whatever you decide to do should be because you want to, not because they expect it of you.

    When we strive for money what we are really wanting is to be happy - we think the freedom and the things we can buy with money will make us happy and often that is true, but not always. So first and foremost, aim to do things that will make you happy and be of use to others. The money and possible fame will then naturally follow.
     
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    You're clearly an intelligent kid. Here's some advise for the years to come. Find something you enjoy doing, that you are good at (ideally) and make a living doing it. Success will follow you there :) Forget about your parents, relatives, etc. Take a few years to travel the world while you can. See things do things, but never stop learning. Since you're a member here, I assume you have some interest in Internet Marketing. Learn all you can. Try different approaches. CPA, Affiliate, Blogging, Selling Services, Making your own products, everything... when you find a method you're good at, and more importantly you enjoy, that's your ticket. At 15 you have all the time in the world. The money will always be there.....Just don't forget to enjoy your youth ;)
     
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  9. oblivion19

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    Hey,

    I would say stop putting too much pressure on yourself. Don't get burdened by peoples expectation. When you start worrying about others expectations, you are bound to fail because you want to achieve a lot in short space of time.You have a really long way to go. Don't expect to come up with a magic product that will make you a millionaire. You haven't found your niche yet.

    Now, let's get realistic. You are probably a pretty smart kid. Start learning programming, web design , SEO, CPA and see what interests you. You will find your niche by trying out different things. Once you find your niche, you become good at it over a period of time by working hard at it and that's when you will start making money and can start multiplying it.

    Again, stop worrying about others expectations and wanting to be a millionaire. Start focusing on how you are going to achieve all that and start working hard on that.

    Cheers.
     
  10. IamNRE

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    Don't let people tell you you cant do something and don't let people pressure you. Tell your family how they make you feel when they tell you that you will become a muliti billionaire by 23... and how much stress/angst/pressure it creates. Or just tell one of your parents... I am sure your parents can spread the word for you and you will soon notice that they stop doing it.

    Well, you are a smart kid... I am sure you get the jist of what I am saying.

    Good luck brah!
     
  11. blackhaterz

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    I was also in same condition like you few months back then i F**k pressure/fear and forgot of being unsuccessful then success comes in.
     
  12. 247hustle

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    i feel you. i know that situation,too. best thing is you can copy the "successfull mindsets" from your parents. just dont listen to it, make your vision strong so they will get affected from it :) stay always hungry. best of luck to you!
     
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    ......and you don't necessarily have to change the default font type/size when you post lol, my eyes are bleeding
     
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    'm sorry i have to ask, what do your parents do to earn $140, 000 per year?
     
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    Want to be rich and happy? Do what you love to do! Look I quit programming, even though I love it and am good at it to drive truck for a few years -- I LOVE it, I never work anymore! Now its time to go back to computers, so I spent a year (BROKE) working for a non profit -- I designed implemented and taught a programming course that got a new company in town and 7 folks hired. I didnt work one day while doing that! Am I rich? Heck no -- thats next. But have I had fun? YES! My dad busted butt to get ahead and died before he could retire -- you dont want that. Chill out, relax and do what you love to do -- and you will be a success!